Are you expected to give a monetory gift if you are in a wedding?

I would give a wedding gift, but it does NOT have to be monetary. More than likely your FH has already shelled out money for the honor of being in the WP, so an additional monetary gift is not necessary.

I would maybe give a small gift... but I feel like you buying a dress/renting a tux and being there for someone is kind of gift enough... I would say a gift under $50 but if you can swing a nice gift on top of everything that would be fine...

I'm not sure what the appropriate response would be based on wedding etiquette.

When I was the MOH in my best friend's wedding last summer, I did give money as a gift, which I also would have done if I was just a guest at the wedding. I knew what I was getting myself into when I agreed to be her MOH and also felt that it was an honor to be a part of her day. I guess I didn't view my being in her WP as my gift to her. Plus my FS and two children were invited to her wedding as well, so it felt only right to contribute financially.

We are pretty strapped with paying for our own wedding, so him having to rent two tuxes on top of everything else is going to hurt us, thats why I was wondering if we could get away with not giving $$!

Not to mention the one friend whose wedding he is in isnt even going to come to our wedding, since its the very next weekend after his, so.....not to sound like mega-bitch, but....yeah, FH will be doing this friends bachelor party, renting tux for WP, blah blah, and this friend wont even be at ours so....I know we will just be losing money anyway.....

You give what you can afford and that will be more then enough! So its different for everyone. I gave my friend who I was a BM's in her wedding, $200. ( I shelled out alot of money too to be in her bridal party too). But I'm also from DC so things are a lil more expensive.

Every time I've been in a wedding, I've given a personal gift that wasn't from the registry. I figure that if you're close enough to be in the BP, you should give something, even if it's homemade.

A gift, yes. Monetary, no. Price range, up to you.

And please don't start getting into the whole, "they won't be at our event, so they won't be able to give us a gift, so why should we give a gift to them?" That is just so, so petty! I am 50 years old and getting married for the first time this July. I can't even tell you how many weddings I've attended over my lifetime, but if I had the attitude that I wouldn't give a gift to a couple because they weren't going to give me one, I'd have no friends, and no one in the family would be speaking to me!

Besides, you don't know if that one couple will not attend and still send a gift. You will be attending a wedding, and it is proper manners to gift the couple.

FH is going to be putting out a nice chunk of $$ to be in that friends wedding, Im thinking a nice wedding photo frame is what they will be getting.

I was just in my cousin's wedding in April and gave her a monetary gift.

Well we are pretty broke, like selling things around the house we dont need to be able to go buy milk kinda broke!!

Also, you supposedly have up to a year to send a wedding gift. That's why Macy's leaves your registry up that long. Maybe send one after you have settle into married life.

Whenever DH and I are in weddings we always give money. at least 50. if we are in the wedding we are probably close friends with them... I would feel tottally rude about not giving a gift. and money is usually easier...

I would give a gift, something small though esp since i would have already paid for a dress, bridal shower, etc etc