Are you doing a money dance?

When you say tradition, do you mean that it is commonly done at family/friend weddings of either you and your fiancé? It sounds like maybe it's just something you've heard about? If so, I would pass. There are definitely families or parts of the country where this is common, but if yours isn't one of them it might not be well received .

I wouldn't do it unless it's part of your specific culture (I know Mexicans and Nigerians do it for example).

I havent seen this done at any young people's weddings I've been to. The only one i've ever seen it at was when my now husband's uncle got married. They had a wedding with like 10 people and it was incredibly awkward. Not sure if it was part of his aunt's family tradition.

People are spending enough money for my wedding ---- airfare, hotel, possible car rental ---- there is NO way I would do anything that would make them shell out more dollars. I just think it is just uncool.

View Quoted Comment I am Mexican and my husband is white, this is still tradition even today! My friend just had it a few months ago.

View Quoted Comment I am Mexican husband is white. I’m still undecided though

Is it common in your family’s traditions where everyone would be upset if it was skipped? If not, then it can come across as gift grabby and you may have many people not participate.

View Quoted Comment Yes we are doing it as we are having a Nigerian wedding. I have also seen it done at American weddings to. But you have to know your guest and whether or not they would mind it.

View Quoted Comment Oh then go for it!!!! His family might not understand so maybe your emcee or someone from your entourage can explain the meaning of it so there’s transparency and no one will assume it as a plea for gifts. If I went to your wedding I wouldn’t mind it because that’s what we do and I would understand it’s culturally influenced but some people are simply not aware so some context would be needed given the interracial makeup of your guest. We are having my emcee explain for non Nigerian guest.

It's big back in Nebraska where I'm from, but it's not something I want to do, and it's not something commonly done here in NJ so I'm skipping it.

I didn't. i've seen it before and it was kind of weird to me. i don't personally think it's wrong to do it though but i felt weird if i did it.

We are! It's common in Filipinx culture but also it's understandable if you're not comfortable doing it. We're also playing fun music.

Things that we've considered that will help make it more inclusive and comfortable:

We are thinking of including dollar bills and safety pins in a pouch or box at each guest table for the money dance for those who want to dance and join in and not feel that we're asking for money. Also, we're considering leaving cute note paper and pencils in a box at the guest tables so that guests can handwrite little notes to us and pin those to us instead of money!

My fiancé reeeeally wants me to do the Samoan money dance to shock his white family.

No, we are not doing a money dance.

Oh no, that's a big nono for me. I couldn't ask my guests for money. Although I am Latin, I believe that there are traditions that should remain in the past