Are You a Bridezilla?

I'm obessive and intolerable as is. 🤔
I suspect it'll be said sometime in the next year. I'm a planner and been described as "having extremely high standards" for whatever I'm planning. I think it's just a matter of time.
Overall I think it should be reserved for someone being genuinely unreasonable. But that it's often used on bride's who are overwhelmed and upset.

No I think I was totally the opposite aha. I just was more open to ideas and alternatives. I kind of knew that at the end of the day what mattered more was getting married and not these tiny little details

So far no, but that could possibly change as I get deeper into it! I am definitely a control freak so I can see it going either way.

Nope, I'm bride-chilla Stressing over the wedding and being rude to people doesn't help anything!

I have been completely the opposite. Stressing over the wedding it too much for me to handle. I just think being rude and being entitled won’t get you anywhere other than losing people you care about. I have stressed that we were behind but I stress by myself behind closed doors since there isn’t much to get accomplished when I get stressed.

My BP has called me "bridechilla" and keep reminding me they are there to help.

Naturally, our schedules completely clash, so that's one reason I really haven't asked for a lot of help. The one day I did, absolutely no one was free. (Really - 2 had work, 2 had a production meeting for the show they wrote that will hopefully end up in a Real Theatre with a Real Budget, 1's uncle landed in the hospital, 1 had a family thing, 1 was scheduled to get his tux worked out, 1 had rehearsal but was able to show up late... and FSIL was simply "busy". Hmm.)

The next few weeks might change that, but I'm hoping to stay centered. I might be stressed, but I don't have to be rude.

It does help that I view this wedding as a giant production of a show with a run of precisely one day. Nothing needs to be perfect, it just needs to HAPPEN.

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I think it's reasonable to be obsessive and intolerable during what can typically be a very stressful time. I've always wondered if there is a such thing as a Groomzilla.

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I was very hands-on so I will accept the label of obsessive but never to the point of being intolerable.

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I feel like you're not really a bride until someone hasn't called you a Bridezilla at least once

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I love that phrase!

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I hope the rest of your planning is as stress-free as possible.

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I love your perspective on weddings.

View Quoted Comment I often wonder about the groomzilla as well 🤔

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It's a double standard I guess.

No I am layedback. The grooms women tried to say I was crazy cause I would not let her pick any dress in any color she wanted.

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Did she use the term bridezilla?

View Quoted Comment No just tried to tell him I was being crazy.

View Quoted Comment My sister also called me a bridezilla because I wouldn't let her pick whatever dress she wanted. I returned the favor by calling her a bridesmaidzilla.

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Thanks.

It helps we are both actors, and among the last of our friends to marry.

I went into this knowing we were going to shorten the timeline most people have, but also that we've seen a lot. My biggest take away? If I didn't remember it from a friend's wedding, they won't remember it from mine.

I see a lot of worrying about linens, or carpet, or a very specific bit of a centerpiece, or something. Those are just the set and the props, and while they help create the scene, they are not the important part of the day. Unless things go catastrophically wrong, most people won't even notice them.

Will our centerpieces look super professional? No, we did it ourselves. They look cute, though, and they fit our theme. Our guests will see them during the ceremony and then the reception, when it's dark. One would hope they'll look at us during the former, and be eating/dancing during the latter.

Aiming for perfect will stress us out and make everything less fun. It's already stressful due to finances and timing. No need to worry about details that won't matter in 10 years.