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Devoted October 2021

Are weddings boring?

Gabby, on June 12, 2021 at 9:15 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 2 29
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Do you guys think most weddings are boring or do I just have high expectations from wedding wire? I'm just reaching the age where my friends are starting to get married. I have yet to attend a wedding that seems more like the ones we discuss on here. I plan on loading up people with all the alcohol and food and fun they want but it seems that other people don't feel the same. I really really care about my guest experience. Have I just attended some off weddings or is this what people will think about my wedding too? 馃槄

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Latest activity by Kelvin, on April 11, 2022 at 1:48 AM
  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
    Michelle
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    I鈥檝e attended some obnoxiously boring weddings but I鈥檝e also had been to some fun ones too. It seems to me that it boils down to the DJ/MC of your wedding. Our DJ kept things fun & the dancing upbeat. All my friends & family thoroughly enjoyed themselves!
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  • Brittany
    Dedicated June 2021
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    I think it depends on how well the wedding timing is planned out and if the couple considered their guests' experience when planning or only thought about what they'd be doing. For example: do you have something for your guests to do/eat/drink while photos are being taken after the ceremony so they aren't bored and hangry, etc. For me the most boring wedding I've been to was one where there was a lot of time just sitting and waiting for... I don't even know, we left early because we were bored and exhausted.

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  • Gabby
    Devoted October 2021
    Gabby
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    Personally I have been trying to think about almost aspect from the guest's perspective. I want everyone to be comfortable and have a great time. Like the wedding I attended today was an outdoor ceremony at 530. Everyone was dripping sweat the entire time.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
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    Every crowd is different. Any type of party can be boring to someone who doesn鈥檛 enjoy anything. People have the right to decline an invitation if they are not interested in attending. It is not a summons. Speaking from a guest perspective, they have only been boring when you don鈥檛 know the couple at all or the couple is very stand-off ish.

    I have personally never experienced a wedding like the majority of users says is standard. I used to work many weddings growing up and attended just as many more, and nearly all of them were cake and punch receptions in the church dining room with no dancing and guests chatting. I attended one wedding during high school that was a cake reception but very lively dancing which was not a thing in the other circles. It wasn鈥檛 until just a few years ago that my family started to have full dinner receptions instead of just cake and punch or sandwich trays from Costco, both of which are completely foreign ideas on WW. Also all of these were in major cities in high cost of living areas.

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  • D
    June 2021
    Dj Tanner
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    From my personal experience, my wedding was a lot less 鈥渋ntense鈥 鈥渓it鈥 than I thought it was going to be. I thought way more people were going to dance than they did. But to be honest, I wasn鈥檛 even really feeling the dancing myself. My husband and I danced for a little bit but then we were just sort of going around socializing and thanking people for attending and catching up etc. I can honestly say we鈥檝e had more wild nights out at bars lol
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  • AJ
    Super October 2022
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    I say most weddings I鈥檝e been to that I consider 鈥渂oring鈥 are the ones I don鈥檛 know anyone really. I prefer socializing over dancing. I鈥檝e been to a lot of weddings where the dance floor is empty.
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  • Gabby
    Devoted October 2021
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    That definitely makes sense. The weddings I've been to I've only known a few people usually. So I should have a blast at my wedding but I want my guests to have a good time as well 馃槶
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  • AJ
    Super October 2022
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    I totally get that, I鈥檓 not hiring a DJ but there will still be music, I鈥檓 seating family with family and then friends who have met before or who have common interests. Hopefully weather will be nice , my venue has a bunch of lawn games, a fire pit and a train we can rent that goes around the property. I might do some games for on the tables or something interactive
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  • Natalie
    Super November 2020
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    Weddings of my close friends and family have been an absolute blast! Even the majority of those I鈥檝e attended as a 鈥減lus one鈥 have been a lot of fun. Great food, alcohol flowing, and a full dance floor. I can only think of one or two in the last 15yrs. that were 鈥渟ub par!鈥
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  • C
    Super July 2020
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    Most weddings I have been to have been pretty fun. If it鈥檚 a formal venue with an excuse to get dressed up, nice flowers, good food and open bar I always have a great time. The weddings I鈥檝e found more 鈥渂oring鈥 have either been a more casual venue/food style (buffet). I think it depends on your friends and the crowd at the end of the day.
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  • Jm Sunshine
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    The only weddings I have been truly uncomfortable are the ones where I only know the bride and groom. It's so painful to be put at a table with stangers trying to make small talk for hours.
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
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    For me, weddings are boring if they 1.) have plans that are straight from a wedding magazine/website/app and it鈥檚 the same as every other wedding. No out-ofa the-box ideas鈥 nothing unique or different鈥. Just the same 鈥榦l typical wedding elements or 2.) If i only know the couple and no one else.


    We just can鈥檛 invite our family/friends to a cookie-cutter wedding 馃槤 Plus, they already know that鈥檚 not our style.
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  • Katie
    Expert August 2021
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    The best weddings I've ever been to where casual backyard weddings and the most boring weddings I've ever been to where usually the formal weddings, I personally just don't find them fun. But everyone has their own personal feelings some will have a great time and some won't, you can't please everyone.
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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2022
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    For me it鈥檚 all about the people and how everyone connects.
    I have given a lot of dinner parties in my life, and while food and physical comfort of guests is really important, what makes is sparkle is the right mix of people.
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  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
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    I have never been to a wedding where everyone wasn鈥檛 on the dance floor the whole evening, even as a kid. This is spanning three decades and multiple cultures.


    But you鈥檙e absolutely right, if you鈥檙e hosting a wedding, like any other event it鈥檚 absolutely your responsibility to ensure that your guests have a great experience.
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  • Richaelyn
    Devoted July 2021
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    What unique elements are you bringing to your wedding?
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  • Allie
    VIP November 2021
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    I think it depends on your group. My FH is not a big talker and he hates dancing, so he tends to find most of them without other activities very boring. That's the sole reason we are having games at our wedding, because he doesn't want anyone to be bored. One of the best weddings we went to had a great DJ, the couple played the shoe game, which is always fun because you get to know the couple a little better, and just little activities around the venue and at the table. Another wedding I went to as a kid was a murder mystery wedding. So they had a whole murder mystery set up behind the wedding for people to do during the usual dancing time so people weren't just sitting around bored if they didn't want to dance.

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  • E
    Super July 2023
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    I'm going to ruffle some feathers.

    I, personally, think all weddings are boring. And I think that every couple thinks their wedding is unique and fun, and they aren't. Of course everyone thinks that the quirky/unique thing they did during their wedding was fun and all their guests loved it.... because literally no guest is ever going to tell you otherwise.

    Weddings, by their very nature and purpose, are steeped in too many traditions, and have too many serious legal (and sometimes religious) requirements, to actually be fun.

    Fun is also highly subjective. I know many people whose idea of fun is to be so liquored-up they're twerking on the tables. I also know people whose idea of fun is a relaxed dinner where everyone chats and chums about. And if you have more than two people at your wedding, you will end up with a mix, and you simply won't appease all of them. The table dancers aren't going to think your chill dinner reception is fun, and the relaxed chatters aren't going to think having to shout over a loud dance party is fun. And if you have a combination of both, they'll only think part of it is fun.

    That all said, I don't really feel like weddings need to be fun, either. I don't go to weddings to have fun. I go to weddings to support two people getting married. When was the last time you had fun at a graduation ceremony? All I want out of being a wedding guest is that I am not too hot, not too cold, not getting eaten alive by bugs, and well-nourished (and that can certainly include cake and punch only - I go out for dessert-only on my own time all the time.)

    So, are weddings fun? No. But do they have to be? Also no.

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  • Vicky
    VIP January 2020
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    Neither cake and punch nor sandwich tray weddings are foreign ideas on WW, they're just not as popular as dinner receptions here.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
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    From post I have seen they are under the unspoken 鈥渄o not do this鈥 category even though there is nothing rude or disrespectful about them. Everyone has their preferences.

    As a guest I鈥檝e been to some 鈥渓esser than鈥 cake receptions that were more exciting than some dinner receptions I鈥檝e been to. There is no one size fit all, and if someone says they don鈥檛 like dinner because it鈥檚 boring but it鈥檚 tradition, then have brunch or tea if that is more up their alley. Just because something is commonly done doesn鈥檛 make it the only acceptable way. Do what works for you and pass on what doesn鈥檛.

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