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Just Said Yes May 2023

Are three dresses too many dresses..?

Pheona, on February 14, 2023 at 12:28 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 14

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Hi Y’all , I also bought two beautiful wedding dresses (one bohemian mermaid for outdoor ceremony, one A line sweetheart for indoor time), and I just saw another gorgeous dress that makes my heart melted, it’s a silky robe-like dress that has a vintage look. I know it’s kind of greedy to have three dresses but I normally wear very humble clothings and no makeup and the wedding planning has aroused my fashion model inner self 😝 and I feel it’ll be hard to find another occasion to wear as beautiful dresses as they are , sometimes I wish we can have two weddings haha . Am I going crazy? My concerns is it’ll be a hassle to change into different dresses during the day, and people( such as mom, mom in law, and even my partner) and think I’m vain about this. What should I do ?
P.S. I’m buying my dresses directly from a factory that I’m connected with, so the price is very low, so that’s not a concern. And maybe that’s what’s causing me to be greedy. If there’re thousand dollar dresses I’d just buy one! 😂

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Latest activity by Gillian, on February 16, 2023 at 2:34 AM

Master October 2023
Cece · on February 14, 2023 at 12:49 PM
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If it’s in your budget, I say go for it! You only get married once! And like you said, when will you ever have an opportunity to wear a dress like that again?? And if it makes you feel better, I had two dresses and I could have easily had time to change into a third, without disrupting the evening or anybody else’s experience.
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Pheona · on February 14, 2023 at 12:59 PM
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Thank you for your insight ! I’m still concerned about what my partner will think if I do three dresses, he is a guy that values humility a lot, which is something I love about him, but sometimes I feel restricted about my clothings because he advocates against the slightest extravagance 🥲 is it healthy for me to have to worry about it? Sometimes there’s a fine line between being considerate and being susceptible to controlling, and I don’t know where the line is in this case !
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Paige · on February 14, 2023 at 1:03 PM
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Totally your call! You're the one buying the dresses, wearing them, and paying to be photographed in them, so do whatever makes you happiest
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Michael · on February 14, 2023 at 1:05 PM
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A friend of the family used to scrimp and save but her husband would spend good money on hobbies -- like an underwater camera (before those became more convenient in recent years). The three dresses seem reasonable especially since the price is not anyways extravagant. Others will likely chime in about having a more casual dress for the end of the reception and later.
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Cece · on February 14, 2023 at 1:08 PM
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I think I would express to your fiancé how you feel about him having so much input on your appearance. I don’t feel that a partner should ever dictate your clothing. Personally, that is way too controlling for me. I couldn’t even imagine my fiancé telling me how I could or could not dress! A loving partner should support you presenting yourself in a way that makes you feel happy, comfortable, and confident; regardless of their personal preferences.
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Michelle · on February 14, 2023 at 1:22 PM
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Can you wear the 3rd for a rehearsal dinner or for post- reception after hours? Your FS should buy their own attire, not rent to also feel the glamour. . . As for your other concerns, your body is yours to manage, support, adorn. Anyone who ridicules you and calls you "vain" needs to be corrected immediately because only you control you. Plus, your money is your own, too. Dang. I once had a bf who was too into my looks, bought me clothes. We're not together. My now husband judges no one. After I picked my reception dress, he did add if I didn't have boobs at my wedding, it wouldn't be me. So you know, I went for the romantic look. I had a more modest church ceremony dress. Be you. But, know you don't have to put that part of you in a box once the ring comes on.
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Pheona · on February 14, 2023 at 2:35 PM
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Thanks! ☺️The parents are paying the photographer ( they’re the ones who are picky about it ) but I know your gist !
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Pheona · on February 14, 2023 at 2:36 PM
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Thank you . Good to know it’s not unreasonable to have threes dresses
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Pheona · on February 14, 2023 at 2:43 PM
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Thank you girl for the great support. Yeah we actually have communicated about this before, one time I wore a red dress (not too sexy in my opinion) and he got really depressed because of that 🥲 and we had a good talk over it and he agreed to not control my clothing, but I can tell he still prefer modest clothes and don’t enjoy me being fashionable. I guess I just need to communicate with him more and I trust he will be more laidback about it as Iong as I don’t cave in to meet his preferences .
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Lisa · on February 14, 2023 at 3:04 PM
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If you want three dresses and can fit it in your wedding day schedule to change into each one, then I say go for it!! The third dress could also be worn for an after party (if you choose to have one). I had two dresses for my wedding and had no time issues changing from one to the other, but I will say that while I loved both dresses, I wish I had only gotten one. That was the only day I'll get to wear them, and I wish I could have worn both of them for as long as possible. Also, regardless of whether you choose to get a third dress or not, I would recommend that you stop looking at dresses, as you may be tempted to buy more of them, and then finding the time to change into each one on the wedding day may become an issue.
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Kimberly · on February 14, 2023 at 3:49 PM
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I agree with Lisa and was going to suggest framing this to yourself in reverse…if you love the dresses you already have, are you going to regret not getting enough time in them? Otherwise, if you’ll have the time to change without disrupting the flow of the evening/shortchanging your guests by always being elsewhere changing, then if this is what you want, I say go for it!
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Mcskipper · on February 15, 2023 at 6:29 PM
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3 seems like a lot too me, particularly considering the time and energy to change. I’ve only been to one wedding where the bride did an outfit change, and although the second dress was very cute, she was gone for a long time to do the outfit change!
Personally, I felt like I hardly got enough time at my wedding. If I had to dip out twice to change outfits, I’d start having some serious fomo about missing my party.
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Charlene · on February 15, 2023 at 10:54 PM
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I don't see anything wrong with it. A common Japanese tradition is to have like, six dresses to change in and out of during the wedding. I am assuming you aren't Japanese or from a culture or region that does that normally, but I think it is fine, I mean, you can wear what makes you feel beautiful.
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Gillian · on February 16, 2023 at 2:34 AM
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I would be concerned about when this third dress would be worn.. also the time it’ll take to change out of each dress and into a new one. You’ll be losing quite a bit of time that should probably be spent with guests and your new husband, not to mention the dinner, dances, photo session…
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