Guess this is more to vent than ask advice but if y'all have advice, I'll take it cause I'm lost.
Tonight I sent a link in a group chat the the 3 ladies who will stand up with me. Granted, the wedding isn't until September of 2020 but money is tight for all of us and it gives them time to save and buy it when ever they have the time and money to do so. Makes sense, right? I found a dress off etsy for $40-$50 (depending on length) and it is the EXACT color FH (who is a graphic designer and is obsessed with Pantone colors) and I agreed upon.
Couple months back before having exact colors picked out, MOH and I discussed her reusing a purple dress she spent $150 on for a different wedding. David's Bridal called this color plum (swatch show- looks a lot more like eggplant). She personally messaged me saying she thinks it is SUPER close to the shade of purple we want that is plum by Pantone standards (sed strip), she doesn't have the money to do so because they're moving in a couple weeks, and was blindsided by the fact that I picked a different dress when we already talked about her using the one she already has.
I tried to talk to FH about mix matched dresses to make the ladies happy but he didn't want to "diversify the color palette." Alright. Fine. I'm not a fan of the mix match color trend any ways. So it's not like I didn't try to make things work the way she wanted it. Ot's not like I'm making them buy $300 lime green dresses with big bows on the but that you can never wear again. They're plum convertible dresses that can be worn in many ways more than once. If you have a $150 eggplant dress hanging in your closet that you haven't worn in 4 years, it's probably safe to say you'll never wear it again so you can easily turn around and sell it. No, you won't get what you bought it for but you could still get something back.
She never responded when I explained to her why I sent the link so soon and that FH and I wanted that exact color.
Am I freaking out over nothing? The colors are in the same color family but not "SUPER close." I feel like I'm turning into an uptight bride rather than being laid back and "here's your options, do what you want."