Are people already asking you when you're having children?

Oh, yeah! Haha. I HATE it! As you said, it's no one's business and you just never know someone's situation. Like, maybe I CAN'T have kids and you bringing it up is painful? My fiance and I don't want kids. We agreed when we both started dating and our families know that we don't plan on kids, but some of them won't drop it, which is also frustrating.

I had a hysterectomy due to cancer concerns before I turned 30. My answer makes people put their foot in their mouth and try to run away as fast as possible.
But my FBIL & his wife... I swear people want them to start trying to conceive on the table at Easter in front of the family.
People are a little too nosey about others reproductive choices.

It’s such a rude question especially because when you have kids isn’t something that’s really in your control. I would just set a boundary and say that’s not an appropriate question to ask and not something you’ll be discussing at this time.

Yes. Because it also assumes I even want any! I don’t want kids or at least that’s a decision I don’t need to be coming up to at all soon but the way It’s phrased is always like WHEN are you having kids

Thankfully we haven't had too many of those but I think it's because people have been asking us about it for a few years now. It's one of the reasons we put off getting engaged; it becomes a snowball affect and we didn't want that pressure. I honestly just tell them we will have them when we have them. We enjoy traveling and learning more about each other, even after 6 years, so we don't see any point in rushing it. And when people bring up my biological clock I tell them we can always adopt, usually that shuts people up.

My FMIL has been very persistent with this one, since FH is her youngest son and his siblings are done having children of their own. So we are kind of her last hope for more grand-babies. While she knows we both want kids, we haven't said a word to her about when we hope to have them because then we will have set an expectation for her.

We just keep telling everyone, we hope to have them - one day. When the time is right it'll happen, and we will let you know when that time comes.

No one because we're "young". I'll be 26 when we are married and he'll be 25. I personally want to try the wedding night but also want to enjoy just being married before we bring babies into the picture. As long as it's before I'm 30 I will be fine.

UGH SAME. All my coworkers ask me. Very invasive, but I also put out a very big vibe that I love kids and want to have kids soon. But still annoying when they ask me about it nonetheless. Particularly because my coworkers looooooooove to tell me that I should wait, that we're young, blah blah blah. We'll be 25 (me) and 26 (FH) when we get married.

FH told me the day before yesterday that he wants to have a baby next year!!!! I'm so excited!!!!

I never thought I would get to be married or have kids so this is huge for me.

I read a post by someone who actually used this as a way to save money! Every time someone asked them when they were going to have babies, they put $10 into their savings to go towards their honeymoon, which they can enjoy kid-free 🎉

Yes, but all of our family and friends know we want to start trying for our 1st one right after the wedding. I haven't had anyone be invasive about, but it's also out there that we do want kids right away; so I'm not sure if that has something to do with it.

People ask us all the time but it doesn't really bother us. We just say the truth, we are waiting until we both have our work licenses and finish our home renovations. Typically people ask once then we tell them that then they don't ask anymore. I don't ask couples that because I think it's weird and if they are struggling with IVF or anything I wouldn't want to hurt their feelings, but if we get asked we just give the honest response and move on with the conversation.

We have been hearing this for YEARS and we aren't married, yet! People ask all the time and it's frustrating and rude.

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Lol, I never really cared for babies and didn't get any kind of feeling but now I kind of have the baby fever. I wanted a puppy so bad until a year ago.

Luckily we have avoided that question, but my best friend's mom drops baby hints to my best friend all the time and it annoys the crap out of her. She's been with her SO for about 5 years now but they currently don't have any plans to get married and besides that my best friend has no interest in kids anyways

I also feel that it is annoying, especially since I do not want kids.

Luckily we haven't had that. There's been talks of "can't wait for you guys to have kids" or "your kids are going to be so cute". Other than that, it's not straight up asking as in rushing us. You're right though, it's very rude and nobody's business. Like you mentioned, it could be hurtful in the aspect of someone having trouble or not physically being able to. People should really think about things before speaking.

I’ve gotten a few comments which I found rude and stupid. I’m not having kids at my age! What are people thinking?

No one feels the need to ask because we already have one together xD. But it’d definitely be annoying if they did.

Thankfully i dont get asked that. We already have 2 kids and thats enough haha. I told my fam ans his that we are not having anymore and thats that haha

I get annoyed too. 😅 I know people aren’t trying to be rude, but we don’t plan on having kids anytime soon or possibly ever, and people always try to tell me I’m crazy for not wanting kids. 🙄 My FH’s mom didn’t talk to him for two weeks when he told her we might not have kids. My parents are the complete opposite and are totally okay if we don’t have kids, and I’m an only child. Haha.