Are Honeymoon Funds a No No?

It’s totally ok

Do it it’s totally a good thing I think

I think it's a "know your crowd" thing. I think as long as there is a designated "cause" ex: home appliances, honeymoon, house downpayment, etc.... it's fine! I think the problem occurs when folks feel like couples would just rather have the money.

We originally had a Carnival Honeymoon Cruise registry where guests could buy excursions like snorkeling, or a cabana at the beach. We ended up getting rid of it since his parents gifted us a significant amount of money for the honeymoon. We thought it'd appear selfish to ask for those gifts when she gave us more than enough to pay for the entire cruise.

I see honeymoon registrys all the time. I do not think there is anything wrong or tacky with it at all. I say go for it especially if you guys have everything. People who know you will know you won't need anything so they might not know what to do. For people who don't like the honeymoon fund then they don't need to give to it.

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I think this is a super cute idea. I would much rather donate to a Honey Fund than get the couple something they would open and never use!

We didn't register or provide a registry. All of those who gave us anything gave us checks. I wouldn't make a separate honeymoon fund. If we were asked what we wanted we told them we were saving it for a honeymoon, and people were excited about it. Covid, so still no honeymoon!

I put a note on the registry section on my wedding website explaining how we have lived together for a long time and already have a fully stocked house, and then explained exactly what we were doing for our honeymoon and how they could contribute directly to each part so they are contributing to specific memories and experiences and aren't just giving us cash with no "purpose". I see no issue with it. I did also add a small note under the honey fund saying if they wanted to give a traditional gift then we registered at Target but there are only like 12 things on that registry.

Honestly I don't understand the stigma behind it here in the US, I have always preferred to give people experience gifts like comedy show tickets or movie gift cards or something, I think it is more meaningful that way.

I put our wedding website together. We registered to Target. At the top, I actually put, “We happily accept any gifts given in the form of personal crafts, items found on and off of our registry, and any money/gift cards that we can use for our family or towards our honeymoon.”

I do not think it is tacky. We put it on our detail cards and we put it on our website. When people ask we advise them we have everything we need and gifts are not necessary just their presence but if they still insist we will have honeymoon fund. We have had no complaints and must do not want to even put money in the honeymoon fund they ask for cashapp, zelle, or something like that. We are not even going to have a gift table, Just a small table with huge lock box for cards or anything else in that nature. I think it really on how you present it and to be honest what you prefer.

Never put registry or gift request on invites! If you have a wedding website, this is the appropriate place to have it mentioned!

I personally don't see anything wrong with a honeymoon fund. I know plenty of people that had one! My FBIL and his wife had a honeymoon fund, and so many people contributed to it, they were able to pay for their whole honeymoon!

If you don't have a registry, guests will automatically assume to give a monetary gift for you, but a honeymoon fund is not uncommon nowadays.

The big problem with the honeymoon/honeyfund sites is the fee. They're also misleading. You list a 'Romantic Dinner for Two' along with everything else and someone picks $100 for that dinner, not only are you just getting one large check cut at the end of your timeframe with everything everyone has purchased, but they're also not giving you the $100, they're having that fee removed.

Nothing about gifts or money should be mentioned on your invite, ever. It's gift-grabby and rude even if you don't mean for it to be.

People will ask where you're registered, if you tell them you're not and that you'd prefer they not get anything for you, but if they really feel obligated you're always happy to get money/giftcards from restaurants/home stores that's usually enough. You are more than welcome to post that on the wedding website, as that's part of the point of the website.

The times changing allows for a lot of changes in etiquette, but I'll stand firmly that I don't find this to be one of those things that should be an accepted change.

View Quoted Comment It's not rude or seen as gift grabby to mention where you are registered. Every bridal shower and baby shower I ever been to always has an insert with the invitation on where they are registered.

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Showers are kind of an exception I think, because the whole point is to shower you with gifts. On a wedding invite though it would feel that way, maybe not as much on an insert, but on the actual invite? To me it would feel like I'm being invited just to bring a gift even though I know reasonably that's not the actual expectation.

View Quoted Comment Oh ok sorry I thought you were talking about the shower, my bad.


Yea on the invitation to the actual wedding I've never heard of and I would consider it rude.

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No worries!

I've had the misfortune of seeing at least one shower where they did something like a 'money shower' and I was super uncomfy with the idea.

The couple had been together for a couple of years and were working on remodeling their home, so they didn't want to register, just wanted money. However they still did showers and all that but specifically told people to just bring cash/checks whatever. Bad vibes all around that one.

That's why I recommend doing at least a small registry. Heated blankets, extra sheets, nice towels. Little things that you can upgrade through your house that you don't really want to spend the money on since you already have them.

View Quoted Comment Yea I'd be super uncomfortable asking people for cash for my shower. That seems greedy. I agree with you to have a small registry. There will always be things you will need to replace at your house or may need more of.

I definitely think it’s more accepted now to ask for honeymoon or other cash related funds since it’s so common that people have already lived with their significant others and had a place with all of the items they need before they get married. I would recommend not putting that request on the invite though, and maybe consider making a registry on Honeyfund and maybe just providing a link to that on your wedding website or on the back of the invitation or something. Honeyfund offers all different types of cash gifts in regards to the honeymoon, wedding prep, gift cards, food and experiences. Hope this helps

Nothing wrong with it! Like others said, there are fees. So if one of you has Zeller or cash app, I've seen people put the info on the registry page or print out the qr code it and put it by the card box in a picture frame. And you could also list things you'd do with the money, like 50-100$ for a dinner, 30$ for a tank of gas to go on an adventure, etc.

View Quoted Comment Technically the invite shouldn’t have any info about a registry (whether it be gifts or cash). Usually you’d put that info on a wedding website (FAQ page) or from word of mouth.

I wouldn't include it (just like one wouldn't include a physical gift registry on the invites). My friend put her honeymoon fund on her wedding website and didn't come across tacky.