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Jenny
Just Said Yes October 2018

Are father-daughter dances required?

Jenny, on August 10, 2017 at 10:15 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 17

I'm not close with my dad, but i'm close with step-dad. Any advice on doing something that's less traditional so my mother-in-law doesn't miss out on a mother-son dance?

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Latest activity by Ks_catonlap, on August 11, 2017 at 1:16 PM
  • Krissy
    Dedicated September 2017
    Krissy ·
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    I'm not close with my dad. He'll be at the wedding, but we're not having a father/daughter dance. My FH still wanted to dance, so they are. Everyone has reassured me that nobody will think anything of it, and if they do quite frankly I don't care. I say if you wanna dance with your step dad go for it. It's your day, do what makes you happy!

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  • MnmsMonique
    Super June 2018
    MnmsMonique ·
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    You don't have to do a father daughter dance. I think it would be okay to do just the mother son dance. We're not the father daughter or mother son.

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  • DandT715
    Super July 2017
    DandT715 ·
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    We skipped the parent dances entirely because they didn't want to dance. No one even noticed. I say dance with your step-dad if that's what you want to do.

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  • RealLindseyO
    Master October 2017
    RealLindseyO ·
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    FH and his mom are dancing but my dad and I are not. I think it's fine to skip one and have the other.

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  • Samantha
    Devoted September 2017
    Samantha ·
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    I'm not dancing with my dad and our relationship is fine. We're bit great dancers so why put the spotlight on us lol. I'm fine dancing with him when everyone else is on the dance floor.

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  • M
    Just Said Yes September 2017
    Mike ·
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    I don't think it's necessary to do a father / daughter dance. Create a new tradition.

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  • KittyPrawn
    Master June 2017
    KittyPrawn ·
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    It's not necessary, but if you're close with your step-dad, have you considered dancing with him?

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  • annakay511
    Master July 2015
    annakay511 ·
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    Can you split your dance with your dad and step dad?

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  • BookcaseHat
    Master July 2017
    BookcaseHat ·
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    If you don't want to do a father/daughter dance, just skip it. Your FH can still have a dance with his mother, if they want to dance.

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  • Millie
    Expert April 2018
    Millie ·
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    We are skipping it!

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  • Riya
    Super November 2018
    Riya ·
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    I also am not planning on doing a father daughter dance since that's not in our tradition and my dad won't do that.

    I want my FH and FMIL to have a dance if they want to, so I am glad to see that it would be acceptable to just have them dance.

    That was stressing me out.

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  • Choua
    Super August 2017
    Choua ·
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    I didn't want to do father daughter dance because well it was my parents first american wedding- and didn't want things to be awkward. But closer to the date- we decided to a parents dance together where me and my dad, him and his mom were out first then a minute later the DJ invited his step mom/dad, then my brother/mom to dance with us. It was short and sweet.

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  • caitlin
    Super May 2017
    caitlin ·
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    We didn't do any of the usual dances, for a variety of reasons. i think any traditions are totally up for being modified or left out, depending on what you're comfortable with.

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  • Rachel
    VIP September 2018
    Rachel ·
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    You have no obligation to do the father-daughter dance. If you want to, you can dance with your step dad or you can skip it and only have the mother-son dance.

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  • Chip
    Master March 2018
    Chip ·
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    We're skipping the parent dances entirely

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  • FinallyMrsFlax
    Super August 2017
    FinallyMrsFlax ·
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    My father was at my wedding, but he didn't walk me down the aisle or do a father-daughter dance. We are not very close and he suffers from anxiety, so I didn't want him to feel uncomfortable. My husband and his mother wanted to do a dance and were just going to dance when a preselected song came on. It was not going to be announced so it wouldn't seem awkward that my dad and I weren't going to dance. Anyway the DJ accidentally made an announcement about it and called them up to the dance floor. I think my husband, his mother, and I were all shocked at first, but it really wasn't a big deal.

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  • Ks_catonlap
    Super October 2017
    Ks_catonlap ·
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    I went to a wedding where they did just the father and daughter on the dance floor together and he just said some words, more akin to a toast. It was short and sweet and then they still did mother/son dance afterwards. So what you feel is true to you.

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