April 2020 - Invitation Help!

Wedding invitations go out 6-8 weeks before the wedding, not 4-6 months.

You will have a hard time getting people to RSVP to the wedding sending it so early, even if you think you're doing the right thing. Most people don't know what they're doing until closer to the wedding and if you send it too early, your guests are going to A) Lose it, B) Forget about it, C) Change plans last minute because things came up.

The earliest I'd even fathom sending them out is February. This is why save the dates are important and can help you with people that are out-of-towners. If you're still looking to avoid Save the Dates -- I'd contact these family members to let them know that you will be sending them an invitation and give them the date/time.

If you insist on sending them out so early -- expect your RSVP's to trickle in slowly if not at all and having to chase down people for responses, sadly.

Of our 140 guests only twenty live less than six hours away. I have our invites ordered and will be sending them out when they get here. Our venue requires a final count a month ahead of time. I have to ask time off six months in advance and if I don’t I have to try to get trades. I think more advance notice and ability to respond, book flights, and rooms is great. Honestly if you don’t have a flight/hotel booked six weeks before then.....I know people will say this is wrong, but I say know your guests and what everyone will have to do! I’d rather call and remind people than have them say they can’t make it because they didn’t have time to make arrangements! Just my opinion. Also seems like I’m sorta planning a destination wedding since everyone is so far away

My wedding is 4/5/20 and most of our guests are out of state so we sent our wedding invites. It gives guests a chance to book flights and hotel rooms. The standard 6-8 week invites are for when your guests are within the area.

Hello date twin!
We are planning to send ours out at the end of November. We have a lot of out of state and country guests and wanted to alot time to "hunt them down" if the responses get lost in the mail, etc. We also didn't want to run into holiday mail madness. I don't think it's too early with the venue needing to know in advance, etc.

View Quoted Comment All very valid points! I have some decisions to make. Thank you for your input!

View Quoted Comment This makes me feel better. I was almost thinking the same thing. Thank you!

View Quoted Comment How exciting! Have you gotten any responses yet?

View Quoted Comment Hi date twin! I hadn’t even considered the holiday craze. Thank you! All this really helps 🤗

I would say January 2020. That should be enough time

Can you send an e-STD? That way people can start making arrangements if need be since it seems a lot would be traveling. I wouldn’t send invitations out this early since things can change for people so quickly. We are getting married in April and will send out invites probably about the beginning of February .

I’ve gotten some responses but I’m also aware that some people will wait until later to respond. I will be sending a reminder in February.

Like others listed I am April 2020 and sending out in January to avoid the holiday rush but allow enough time to track down people. I would recommend sending a save the date (online works and is fairly cheap) or casually informing those you want to be there most so they can plan accordingly but don't send invites too early.