Appropriate wedding guest attire

What does your gut say? Personally I wouldn’t care because no one is going to mistake them for the bride.


Generally weddings are semi formal by default which is what you would wear to church.

It wouldn't bother me, but I can't speak for what bothers you. If you are asking, I guess that means you are at least somewhat bothered. So then it becomes a question of, is this an important enough thing to worry about/try to fix? It's my personal experience that I am much happier if I don't try to micromanage other people. But you may have a different experience.

Personally, no it would not bother me but I can see how it would bother some. In my opinion, if you have to ask if it’s inappropriate it probably is. Your friend should have used her better judgement but it’s really up to you how you want to respond and what your dress looks like. Was it a text? Did you reply?

I feel like she knows it’s very close to white and “bridal looking” so she asked to get your approval so when she gets looks or asked she can always say “Angela said It was fine”.


The fact that you’ve thought about it enough to post about it it’s bothering you. I wouldn’t like it but I would just say “If you think that that dress is appropriate to wear to my wedding wear it”.

Sheʻs obviously unsure or she wouldnʻt have asked, so be honest. "Thank you for checking, I feel that _______"

I feel like the dress is appropriate. The length is short and the neckline is modest. The only way it might be a problem is if your wedding dress is a blush color instead of white or ivory?

*length isn’t short

The only thing that would make me pause is the color. It is very close to white in the photos but it might have more color when you see it in person. The rest of the dress is perfectly appropriate to wear to a casual/semi-formal wedding (so long as you are not getting married at a venue where she would need to cover her shoulders).



I would be okay with it at my wedding but if you are not, you should say something now. She is asking to get your honest opinion.

I really like it and would allow it, but you have to go with what you feel as it’s your wedding, photos, ect!

It's pale enough, has a little belt with sparkle, and has a flowy skirt. It's the kind of dress a very casual bride might wear. I would never wear a dress like that to a wedding

Looks just fine to me

That dress to me looks casual bride/bridesmaid. Unless you want her mistaken as part of the bridal party I would say no and be grateful she even asked before just showing up in it!

Tulle at a wedding is a bridal material. And given the number of blush gowns, that really could be mistaken for a bridal dress, fabric and cut lland color, No Way

Even if you dont like it, i think it's really weird to police what others wear to your wedding. That said, i don't think there's anything wrong with the dress. Tell her to wear whatever makes her comfortable.

Personally, I would not want someone to wear this to my wedding because, to me, it looks a lot like a wedding dress in color, fabric, and cut (I agree with Judith!). The fact that the wedding guest had to ask is....telling. I would probably reply with "Thank you so much for checking! That seems kinda iffy to me. Are there any other dresses that might work? Can't wait to celebrate with you!"

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I agree with this!

I mean, it's ugly... but I wouldn't be upset if someone wore it to my wedding. Are you wearing a peach wedding gown? If not, I wouldn't be bothered by it. But, if you are, just tell her that.

I think the color is OK unless your bridesmaids are wearing something similar.

I don't feel like that is an appropriate wedding guest dress.

Does it bother you? At all, even a little bit? If not, it doesn't matter. But the fact that you are even questioning it means it gives you pause.

I would thank your friend for consulting with you first and tell her you prefer she wear something else to your wedding. It might help if you give guidance about what you don't like about the style (is it the color, the tulle, the combination) or if you steer her more in the direction you want to go (something a little less "fairytale" for example).

I can see why it would bother you. But at the same time, I wouldn't worry about it. Is your wedding dress on the casual side? If not, just remember that neither her nor anyone else will even come close to having a dress as amazing as yours so there's really no reason to be concerned. Nobody can outshine the bride on her wedding day.