Appropriate to tip your Officient/Pastor/Priest?

Hmm good question, I was getting our JP a nice engraved gift

The gift is a nice gesture. Does your pastor/officiant belong to a church? Maybe a nice donation to that church? Idk if tipping a religious figure is something that's done.

My brother is an officiant in the military and will be doing our wedding, he refused any monetary gifts or payments so we bought him a small gift and will donate the amount of his normal fee to his favorite charity.

Yes, we are getting married in our church. We paid the wedding fees directly to the church which included the Pastor, sound/light technician, and DOC for the ceremony and rehearsal. We donate regularly to the church (every week). Just trying to determine if a monetary donation directly to the Pastor is appropriate or not.

Honestly? I'd ask one of the church staff, who may be able to give you some insight as to what normally happens.

Maybe a gift card to a restaurant in the area?

Came on here to say the same as Celia, the church secretary would probably know what's common. A gift or check is appropriate but both probably isn't necessary. We gave a check to each priest involved in ours. I think we gave $200 each - $100 is standard around here but there was some extra work involved with ours.

Thanks Celia & Rebecca - I will contact our church administrator for info.

I think Celia's suggestion of a gift card to a restaurant is a good idea. If you tip a priest/religious leader monetarily, I think some parishes have rules about that and they will have to donate it to the church. We donated to our church already, so as an extra thank you, I think we'll go the gift card route.

My minister is a very close friend and the associate pastor of our church. We are not having our wedding at the church and she does have to travel a little distance from her home. She is staying for the reception also. FH and I are paying her the going rate of the other ministers in the area. We are not doing a rehearsal dinner so I have a nice tin money holder that I am giving her before she leaves the reception.

We've been 'suggested' aka 'at least' $250. I feel that's very expensive for a 30 min ceremony but whatevs!

Oooh! I'm following this! I'm paying him $250 - do I need to "tip" him too?

We are making a $200 donation to our church in honor of our pastor who married us there.

Melanie? Melanie? It's not 30 minutes. You will probably meet with this person, (maybe more than once), they will be there early to get ready, possibly run a rehearsal, and be responsible for your license.

250.00 is a steal.