Anyone stressing about weird family situations?

My BIL (DH's brother) is back together with his ex-wife. They are living together. She's an alcoholic (of the binge drinking variety) and very likely is also a drug addict. She also has full physical custody of their child...

DH is NOT a fan of this woman and was not all that thrilled to invite her to the wedding but concluded that it was necessary.

She was one of the two guests that we had that made me ultimately decide to do assigned seating (actual place cards). I needed to make sure these two people where (a) out of the line of shot for most photography and (b) sitting with people that they could not start trouble with.

@MnDex... I'm in a very similar situation. It really sucks to see FH's kids make him hurt so much.

1. MIL is an alcoholic, she's a sappy drunk, on the fourth she was screaming god bless america while the fireworks are being lit.

2. So you know how bluetooths in cars sometimes automatically let a call come thru. Well my dad came to Indy picked up my son and took him to stepmoms family reunion in Chicago. He promised to return my son to my uncles, my mom calls to ask my dad when will he be dropping my son off. Stepmom yells in the background who the f* is that, dad says my babymomma (jokingly) stepmom says idgf, she shouldnt be calling u.

Oh lord, the drama between them on my wedding day I can only imagine.

I'm actually considering not inviting several family members. On my mom's side my cousin sued my grandparents because she didn't think the savings fund they left her was big and my other cousin is on her side. On my dad's side my grandma and my aunts hate my mother and disowned her and my brother (half-brother, not related to my dad) when my dad died. So not a single one of them can stand to be in the same room as the others.

Yeah, my dad has three brothers...but one is kind of a black sheep and no one has talked to him in about two or three years. I invited him and his family (with the blessing of my dad, who is basically the patriarch of his family), but since they didn't show up to an important funeral last year, I'm kind of guessing they won't go.

On the same token, I'd really like to see them again but I'm worried if they show up everyone will ignore them...

We were concerned about FH's brother. He literally told FBIL that he couldn't wait to ruin our wedding. FH has 7 brothers and sisters. The other 6 all told us not to invite him - so we didn't. Too boot, everyone is telling him the wedding date is November 14th, not the 7th so he won't show up uninvited. I'm a little nervous about all of his siblings being in one room together, they're a bunch of crazy Irishmen, but I think everyone will behave.

ME! My parents have had this weird separation thing going since 2006. My wedding will be the first time since it started that my ENTIRE family will be in one place.

Can't we just ban ALL problem family members from our wedding? Parents and all? HAHA! That sure would be nice and make me feel SO much better!

Yup it could get interesting for us too.

FMIL HATES FFIL's new "wife", and always has. She will say JUST out of ear shot of my LO that "they're not even married so she can't be grandma, she's not anything" (where as she is much more a grandma than FMIL will ever be) they have been separated for like, EVER, so this high school BS needs to go away.

Unfortunately FFIL's wife (common law, anyways) has a bit of a drinking problem and some major social anxiety. I don't really notice her drinking until she's around a large number of people - then it's BAD. Like, she's falling down drunk before dinner has even been served. They have, so far, missed both of DD's birthdays because of various excuses but

I'm positive it's because she can't handle being around strangers (we have been together almost 10 years and his dad and wife have not met ANY of my family despite being invited to joint functions and living in the same city)

So I am either expecting stepFMIL to no-show last minute, or show up probably already drunk and if she's drunk FMIL will have a hay day with being obnoxious and rude behind her back any chance she gets, and maybe even to her face.

So, this should be fun!

Totally feel for you. My life has been nothing but drama for the past three years.

Three years ago my dad decided to tell us (being my sister and I) that he feels he shouldn't be a man, but instead a woman. My mom already knew and they had been going to counselling etc. It totally and completely rocked my world. I couldn't go to school, couldn't work, couldn't do a thing. I was horribly depressed it was just awful. My parents separated but promised they would never divorce. No need at the time. My dad put himself on hormones and started the process of changing genders. He moved a hours drive away and I lived with my mom and sister. Fast forward a year and he decides that he has found someone new to love and stops all of the hormones he has been on and starts a relationship with this woman. So from our points of view we were not good enough for him so he used this "Transgendered" thing as a excuse and the minute this woman walked by he dropped everything for her. He filed for divorce from my mom shortly there after. When their divorce finally cleared he got engaged to the woman maybe a month later (I had only met her once. My younger sister hadn't met her at all yet). They are getting married in November......

My dad has continued to screw over not only me, my mom, my FH, and my sister in the past 8 months and will probably continue to do so for the rest of our lives. This woman he loves is probably the worst person I have ever met. She has no kids so she doesn't understand things when it comes to our dynamic with my dad. She is just plain awful.

My mom refuses to meet her until our wedding and even then she doesn't want to meet her. My mom has refused to sit near her (which I understand) and doesn't want a single picture with them even close to each other. I don't want her sitting in the front row next to my dad. I don't really want this Future stepmother of mine to be in any pictures... Its so complicated its ridiculous.

My FH hates my dad now so whenever they are in the same room my FH doesn't talk to him.

And to top it all off I have been told to keep all of the Transgendered crap a secret from all of our family so I can't even explain to them why everything is such a problem.

My life is like a soap opera...