Anyone scared of guests clashing?? Has this happened to anyone before??

I was having similar worries for our big day. My dad’s side of the family and mom’s side don’t get along (bitter divorce 15 years ago), and then on my FH’s side, my fiancé’s step-mother hates me, lol. I wanted to have our ceremony where everyone could just pick a seat and sit, but I know that won’t happen. I’m even going as far as keeping my mothers family on one side of the dining room and my fathers side on the other, just to avoid anything. I would hope that for our big day everyone can be civil at least, but who knows with people.
I hope you don’t have to deal with anything too outlandish for your wedding! Family especially should really respect the love going into the day, and forget their issues and support us!

Everyone in my family is divorced and others just have very different personalities. But thankfully everyone stayed on their best behavior and had a good time anyway.

View Quoted Comment Yeah, my FHs family also has issues between his aunts and uncles too lol. Between my friends that have no filter, and my FHs sides family drama, i’m just praying that everyone keeps in mind that its a wedding.

YES. i have a friend who doesn't hide her distaste for something - if she does not like it or like you, she will show it. anyway, she and my other friend apparently crossed paths on a dating app. he swiped right. she swiped left. one day he randomly brought her up in conversation to me and i was like um she and i are really good friends... they were both going to be at the wedding and he expressed that he would be interested in her and i was mortified! because i was afraid if he was going to make a pass at her, that would be so uncomfortable for her and maybe even him and those around if any because she really does not hide her disdain. anyway, so my friends told me he came to sit at the ceremony next to them and she would not even acknowledge his presence and she whispered to them 'i don't want to even say hi or have him sit near by" luckily i did not hear anything else that happened and don't think anything else happened but GOSH

View Quoted Comment Lol ugh 🤦🏻‍♀️ Exactly stuff like this that I’m panicking over. I’m not even so much worried about my FHs family possibly fighting with each other Because it’s almost like they already know that that’s a possibility LOL but some of my quieter more conservative guests clashing with some of my loud obnoxious no filter guests is what scares me the most. I just don’t want anyone to feel uncomfortable

I don't think I would worry about it. Forewarn your brother and father or anyone else you may worry about...

My mother who is 73 has a sailor's mouth. How she became friends with one of my friend's parents I will never know. Polar opposites, they are God-fearing Christians (in their 80s / 90s - Church multiple times per week, don't swear, don't drink... as holy as they can get kind of Christians). But my mother who is often unfiltered will let something "slip" every now and then and THEY just all laugh. Sometimes the people you least expect to get along do the best. She won't change her ways, behaved the same way when she met my FH's parents as well. They too get along great.

Bottom line, I wouldn't worry too much about this. This is minor.

My FH biological mother and his dad never married, his step mom raised him from the time he was 2. Now his step mom and dad are just going on one year divorced. His bio mother is being invited, his dad will for sure be there, and his mom(step) will be there. His dad and mom (step) can’t be civil so it’s gonna be fun🙄

Have a good seating chart for The reception, and maybe consider ushers seat bride side and groom side for the ceremony if you think that might be an issue too.

I wouldn’t even worry about it! Most people don’t let stuff like that affect the time they are having at an event like a wedding.

Yes but I think it be ok. My family is a bit more conservative you could say and my FH's family love to just party and have a good time. In a weird way I'm thinking that my FH's family will bring out the fun side of my family. They do like to have fun but it takes them being comfortable and knowing most of the people to be that way. It's probably bad that my biggest concern is myself clashing with my FSIL but geez that woman gets on my nerves. Major negative nancy type person, and I'm the complete opposite. She isn't in my bridal party but I was going to be nice and include her and in the getting ready room; right now I don't even want to be in the household/ hotel with her.

Before the wedding I got a number of "don't seat me next to so and so" requests which was annoying. Also a couple broke up on my dance floor and that was a bit of a scene. But the party goes on. I wouldn't worry about it. Nothing you can do.

YUP! And amen for seating charts. We did a seating chart, but at least do a table chart. Not only did we avoid clashes but helped create some extra fun and new friends (several of our guests continued to party together afterwards)! We grouped tables by common values/personalities such as: liberal/gay friendly, conservative, artists, sales/party types, neighbors who all knew each other, etc. It was such a pain but well worth it. It's hard enough for guests to attend a wedding (awkward), try to seat them with other guests they may enjoy.

I was super anxious about this, some of my friends and some of my husband’s friends I KNOW would clash if they got to talking. Mostly like, my husband has a few friends from his fraternity in college (one in particular is worse than the rest) and they’re like, exactly the stereotype of what you’re thinking with a college frat guy, except as 25-year-olds now. My friends are... not like that lol. I know these friends of his are the type of people who tend to make really offensive jokes that THEY think are harmless, and I know several of my friends who would be VERY pissed off and offended by some things these guys might say. It was really, really tough to do the seating chart haha, but I worked it out to seat those friends of his with the people who were least likely to get offended and kept my more sensitive friends far away 😂 we had no problems (at least, none big enough to have been brought to our attention)

Me. I am inviting my uncle and his new girlfriend and his ex wife because she was my aunt for half my life and the mom of my cousins and we are very close. His girlfriend hates our entire family. She has actually said it. I don't know if she will come but if he comes it could be hectic and I really don't want drama there but they are my family and I care for everyone I feel you. I am inviting everyone and praying for the best and hoping everyone is mature enough to let go for one day.

I understand where you're coming from, but honestly, people tend to be on their best behavior in public events like a wedding. I'm worried about my dad and his current wife clashing with everyone at our wedding, but we can't dwell on things that haven't even happened yet it's not worth the stress. don't worry, it'll all be fine

Just seat them as far away from each other as you can. Don't stress beyond that.

I feel like don't stress something you can't control. You can work your seating chart and spread them out so hopefully there's not much interactions but I'm quite sure your brother has had his fair share of run-ins with bad mouth people and I'm quite sure your wild friends are also your friends because they respect you and wouldn't do anything yo hinder or disrespect your big day.

I've decided to not do a seating chart and let people mingle. It's incredibly informal and all I can do is hope people behave like adults.

I think this is a completely normal worry to have. It's such a big day for you, and you want it to be perfect! That being said- it is completely probable that some guests will clash.

I've already spoken to the people that I think will have issues (namely my mother seeing my dad's girlfriend) and expressed that I will absolutely NOT tolerate any disrespect or nonsense at my wedding. And said that if they didn't feel they could control themselves then they were more than welcome to leave after the ceremony.

I am having that same issue. My fiances moms side and dads side do not get along since they got divorced over 10 years ago. His moms side still like to talk very rudely about his dads side. We are doing assigned tables to keep both families separate so we don't have a disaster at the wedding.