This pandemic has been crazy, we all have felt the impact whether big or small. What puzzles me is how inconsistent people are with their "fear" or "precautions." I asked my aunt if I could take her daughter (my cousin) to a walk through light show and she said no because of COVID. Yet it's all outdoors and since I work part time at the organization, I could walk through a good 30 mins before it's open to the public. Yet she's sp upset that she didn't get invited to my wedding and that I only invited my parents and my FH's parents. Like what?
Have any of you experienced this with loved ones? or the exact opposite? Like you see them on social media at big crowded non social distancing events yet they cannot attend your wedding because they are sooo scared of COVID?
This is the perfect post and a mood for this entire year! Friends are able to go out on double and triple dates at parks and outdoor activities, but dont want to attend small in house house celebrations. It’s really the worst thing to deal with, because then when you become selective with what you’d like to attend or exclude people because of their already made COVID crowd fears, you become the problem smh.
No for me it's the opposite. My husbands family has complained that we will not let my stepson go places for the weekend which is annoying. Mind you we have a 2 year old together but that's a whole different story. Anyways, no we will not let him/them go to big gatherings and their house for the weekend because that would be careless to us. We have been protecting both him and our 2 year old and no they will not be going anywhere that we are not familiar with during this time. Our priority is to protect them, especially our 2 year old because he has asthma. So I get where you are coming from, but I definitely get where your aunt is coming from as well with her daughter. I would allow both of my kids to go through a walk through light show as long as it wasn't crowded, which in your instance it wouldn't be!
I don’t let other peoples craziness dictate my life, my fiancé and I have decided that anyone who declines our wedding invitation because of Covid restrictions will not be included in our lives after the wedding. We’ve significantly reduced our guest list, placed families at their own tables, and observe all the social distancing requirements including eliminating dancing at our reception. if they can’t be there to support us on the most important day of our lives than we don’t want them in our lives at all!
Yup we dealt with that for our wedding. People going places but declining to come to our wedding. These people are first cousins of my husband. We didn't even receive any congratulations from them either. So we won't be including them in anything from that point on.
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That’s a really tough stance to take in regards to people doing what’s best for their health and unique situation. I get that you’re implementing measures but everyone has their own risk level they’re ok with right now. It’s within your rights to be hurt if people skip your wedding but I wouldn’t end your friendships over it.
I heard something on NPR about quaran-podding (quarantining with a select group of others as a "pod") and the expert recommended an exercise that I thought was really smart. She said come up with a list of activities and then have everyone in the possible pod rank those activities as low risk, moderate risk, or high risk and then also rank them in order from safest to riskiest activity. She said people all perceive risk differently, and while you may think a trip to the grocery store with a mask on is a low risk but going to an outdoor concert is high risk, someone else in your group may think the opposite. So it is not only important that everyone in the pod has similar views, but also that you understand what others in your pod are doing. You may decide that including someone in your pod doesn't make sense if the activities they are engaging in are what the rest of the group deems to be too risky.
Maybe your aunt feels like the "once in a lifetime" nature of your wedding was worth the risk, but going to a light show that happens every year is not. Or that she feels that being with family, even if indoors and in a group, is less risky than sending her kid to a place that is going to get a lot of "stranger" traffic. Or she's just being protective of her kid (its her job, she's a mom) and is being less rational about things concerning her child than concerning herself.
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Oh if you knew the entire story about activities my aunt tajes part in you would laugh or be confused. I just prefer to not go overboard with gossiping. Thabks for your response. I agree, everyone has different perspectives of risk.
It’s pretty much the opposite for me. Literally every family member I have, and every single friend in the town I’m living in (aside from one friend & her husband, and my fiancé) are just living life like nothing has happened. The entire community is eating out at restaurants, packing into crowded bars (who are still having live music every weekend), having house parties, going to stores, it is super rare to see anyone wearing a mask. I hear people say “ i’m not going to let a virus control me” on a near daily basis. And we live in Illinois- The state with the 1st ever U.S. case of covid, and currently the 4th highest Covid count. It is incredibly disheartening to see how much people just really don’t care about fellow human beings. Even our mayor has publicly posted on Facebook that he does not intend to uphold any of our governor’s safety restrictions.
With a new wedding on the news every single day being the cause of a COVID outbreak, you're going to cut people out of your life for looking out for their (and your) health?! This is one of the most unreasonable and thoughtless acts I can imagine. Just because they don't want to physically attend your wedding during a pandemic does not mean they do not support you.
Personally, I think this attitude is going hard on guests. Telling someone they will be cut out of your lives simply for not attending a party where you could contract a virus that kills you or your family members is beyond insensitive and unconscionable. If you choose to live life dangerously, that is your choice. But it is absolutely unreasonable to expect others to do the same. People can be asymptomatic and not even realize they are sick and spreading the virus to wedding guests. This is why we are seeing so many wedding super spreader events. There are no definitive patterns to this virus- it has killed thousands upon thousands of healthy young people with no pre-existing conditions. They have also proven now that even asymptomatic patients or those with very mild symptoms, are now experiencing permanent heart and lung damage which will cause serious issues in the years ahead. Threatening to disown family members and friends because they do not feel safe/do not wish to put their lives at risk for a party, is basically the equivalent of forcing them to play Russian roulette with their lives- maybe you will be OK, maybe you will die. It’s unreasonable and cruel to put people (loved ones at that!) in that position.
YES!! No issues regarding wedding planning but I have issues with how hypocritical people are being.
At the beginning of this year, by FH and I tested positive and quarantined etc. Thankfully we didn't show any symptoms but the casual cough here and there. After we tested negative (twice), my FBIL and his wife were throwing a going away party for my other FBIL and his wife. We of course asked the hosts if we could still attend seeing that we were negative. We planned on keeping our distance, not touching anyone etc. The hosts told us we weren't allowed to come and that really hurt my FH's feelings because he didn't get to see his brother and SIL before they moved to another state while everyone else did.
What really angered us was that the hosts didn't require anyone to wear masks at this gathering. Everyone invited to the party also had been working through COVID and not staying home. So if they contracted it they would be spreading it to everyone there. Not to mention the hosts and their children attended church without masks AND let their children spend the night at friend's houses without masks.
We were just annoyed because if you're going to take precautions, then take precautions. Not pick and choose when you want to. Many people need to learn this haha!