Anyone having in-laws/siblings in the wedding party?

I have a huge wedding party! My Cousin is Matron of Honor, Little sis is Maid of Honor, my other two step sisters are BM and my FH's 3 sisters are all bridesmaids! I am pretty close with his family so it was an easy choice for me. I also love the idea of having a big group of girls to hang out with on the day of the wedding! I also have a few friends in the wedding party.

My Future SIL didn't come to my bachelorette party, but it has still been fun to plan with them etc.! I would say have them as BM because it can help you get closer and it shows your FH that you're committed to joining your families!

Our entire wedding party is family. Maid of honor and Matron of honor are my two older sisters and FSIL is a bridesmaid. Best Man is FFIL and my BIL (sisters husband) is a groomsmen. FH doesn't know my BIL very well, but he had the mindset that "hey we're gonna be family, I'd like to get to know you better" and that's the same reason I chose his sister, even though we're a lot more familiar with each other. I'm sure your brother could come around to the idea of the bachelor party, maybe he'll try something new and like it and be able to bond with your FH. If not, well he doesn't have to attend, but I would try to coax him into it and have him spread his wings a lil bit lol

I wouldn't stress the even number part. Don't have people just for the numbers sake.. ask who you really want to be in it! My sister is my Matron of Honor, but my 4 yr old niece is my maid of honor and I have two more bridesmaids... I thought my FMIL was going to flip when she realized I was serious about making my niece more than a flower girl (we have two younger nieces who are doing this).. and while people think it'll be weird to see a grown man walk down the aisle with a 4yr old, I am beyond excited!! To watch her excitement for the wedding form over the past few months has been so wonderful! You do you, girl!

We added all of the siblings to our wedding party. He has his brother and I have my sister, his sister, and his sister in law. That being said, I'm really close with them so it was a no brainer for me. My sister's husband will be an usher but not a groomsman because FH doesn't know him at all and I BARELY know him. They live on a different continent. Regardless, I think it would be a nice gesture and if it evens the party out, that's a plus!

My brother, my brother's wife, my sister, and my husband's sister were on my side. My husband's younger brother was on his side. My husband's older brother was not in the wedding, but his two daughters were our flower girls, his one son was our ring bearer and his other son was an usher and helped the ring bearer who is only 3 walk down the aisle. The rest of the wedding party were friends of ours. We choose to have an even number on each side. My brother was on my side since my husband was having a groomswoman I decided to ask my brother to be my bridesman. My husband also isn't very close to my brother, but I am. My brother wouldn't have enjoyed being on my husband's side anyways especially the bachelor party. My brother is only 19 and very religious and my husband's bachelor party consisted of drinking and partying which isn't my brother's style and even if it was my brother couldn't legally drink anyways. My husband's sister was one of my bridesmaids since we are really close. It was mine idea to ask her. If you aren't close with the person, I wouldn't have them be in your wedding party. If you are close with your brother have him be a bridesman and if he close with his sisters have them be groomswomen. Picking a bridao party is about who you want to be up there with you. I wouldn't have had the people I did if I wasn't close to them and neither would my husband have. Remember you are honoring these people as being important to you not just havung them up there to be even. It was a choice we made to have an even wedding party, but we made that choice based on who we wanted in our wedding. Uneven weddings are increasingly becoming more common and often photographers are able to pose uneven bridal parties in away that it doesn't look strange. So unless you have really uneven numbers like 2 on one side and 6 on the other than posibg for photos isn't a big deal.

All 3 of my FH’s siblings are in the wedding party and my brother will be walking my mom down.

I had 9 BM and my husband had 10 GM. It was expensive but we budgeted for it. He included my brother as a GM and I included his two sisters, his step-sister, and his step-sister in law as BM. His niece & nephew were our flower children. I can't imagine not including his sisters or my brother in our wedding party.

My two sisters are my bridesmaids, but my FH's sisters aren't in the bridal party. We weren't worried about having an even party and though I get along with his sisters fine, but I don't want anyone I'm not already close with in my bridal party. I want to be supported by those I'm closest to, not try to bond during my wedding.

I don't think its a huge deal to have uneven numbers, but also not a huge deal if one member feels a little out of place. We have the same struggle, I have 5 BMs (3 best friends, my sister, and FHs sister) and he currently has 4 (2 brothers, 2 friends) with MAYBE a 5th friend he's not sure about. We thought about adding my sister's husband to his side, who has been in my life since I was a little kid and is like a brother to me. However, he is older and won't know the rest of the party, nor does he really share interests. Regardless, FHs sister will only be 19 at the time of my bach party, so we expect that she will not be able to participate in anything 21+ and I think that's okay. It really depends who you truly want by your side.

My brother is the best man (he and my FH are best friends) and his brother is a groomsman. I love his sisters but I wanted the 3 people I absolutely couldnt think about not being there with me instead and I wanted a small wedding party. So we made his sisters ushers instead so all of our siblings are involved (except his stepbrother but 3 years together and I've never met him and he never RSVPd to the wedding).

I am having my sister and my two future sisters in law as my bridesmaids. My fiance and I want his two brothers to be the groomsmen (however, only seems like one of his brothers will be) as well as his cousin and friend. I think there's no problem with including these people in your wedding party, after all, they will be family! It's okay and totally not a big deal if your brother doesn't want to do the bachelor party activities. He's really not obligated to. I hope everything works out for you, Michelle!

I feel both sides of this discussion. A lot of people say don't worry about the numbers, but for us, I wanted them to be even. It stressed me out for them not to be - probably OCD. My sister, sister-in-law (my brothers wife), and future sister-in-law (fiance's sister) are all in my wedding party, as well as two of my closest friends. Fiance's wedding party is made up of his brother, brother-in-law (his sister's husband), his uncle, his cousin, and one friend that he's not the closest too, but close enough because we wanted the sides even. My brother is not in the wedding. I couldn't imagine not having his sister up there with us because I'm really close to her, but he's not at all close to my brother, and we just felt it would be awkward and he'd feel like out of place. I will say though, there are times when I wish we would have just asked him because the friend on fiance's side who has never been anything but good to us, is apparently having some conflict with fiance's brother-in-law and sister. Fiance and I are trying to just stay out of it because we don't want the drama and just want to get through the wedding. But if friend ends up stepping down, we probably won't replace him and will just deal with the uneven sides and figure out how to make it work. So I say if you are at least decently close to each other's siblings, then yes, add them. But if you aren't, and it would end up being super awkward, don't feel obligated.

I don’t believe in adding siblings just because. 3/4 of my hubby and I’s siblings will be in the wedding party. My sister (MOH) and his brother (BM) and it was his idea to ask my brother. I would never demand he ask my brother if they weren’t close or didn’t have a relationship. The reason I didn’t ask his sister is because we literally don’t have a relationship after 5+ years of me dating her brother. I’m not going to ask someone to be my bridesmaid just for the sake of looking good in pics. I’m not faking a relationship with anyone!

Nope. My FH’s siblings and my sister all struggle financially and we would have to pay for their dress/tuxes.