Anyone have a BridesMAN?

We had a "dude of honor." We got both him and our MOH Swiss army knives.

We didn't really have getting ready issues, because the MOH and dude of honor got ready on their own, and my wife and I got ready together. However, if it's a big group thing, maybe he could get ready with the groomsmen? (Are you having photos of their getting ready as well?) He could join you for the gift-giving part, but I doubt he is going to want make-up, or to be changing in a room full of women.

In terms of the processional, he can walk in with another man, if you're having the BMs and GM walk in pairs. (We're talking a 50-foot walk here, not a romantic relationship!) He should definitely stand on your side during the ceremony.

@2dBride having him get ready with the GM is a good idea considering I don't think he would be intwreated in watching us get ready. We will take so much longer than he will. They will be taking getting ready photos too. Thanks!

I have a Bridesman and he had a groomslady and his wife had a bridesman at their recent wedding. They had all the girls get ready together and all the guys, I'm not sure about the gifts though. We are planning to get him the same thing as the groomsmen (engraved Swiss Army knives too, great minds think alike 2d Bride )

He could get mostly ready with the guys and get together with you when you are getting some finishing touches. I'm not sure he'd want to be in a picture with robes etc, at least for me that would be awkward.

@CBtoCL very true. He probably won't even want to be in there lol. Too much going on. I just feel like I'm spending so much money on the girls and nothing on him. Maybe that's my main concern. It's confusing and stressful.

I have two bridesmen. We're going to give them the same gift as the groomsmen, whatever that ends up being. A wedding party I was in had a bridesman and instead of makeup, the bride got him an old fashion hot shave. @2dbride I love the Swiss Army knife idea! I'm gonna see what FH thinks about it.

I've had lots of them; I had one this weekend actually. He got ready with the GM, walked down with one of the grandmas then took his place on the bride side; leaving, he walked down with the first girl next to him then eveyone else paired up. He wore the same suit as the guys, but a different vest.

I like the cufflink idea, maybe some crazy socks too.

I have one! We refer to him as the "Brides Butler" as an inside joke (he insists on that rather than bridesman). He's wearing the same suit as the groomsmen, but in tan rather than black (which matches the champagne BM dresses). He's standing directly next to me, since I don't actually have a MOH and I trust him the most to fix my train. He is getting ready with the boys, and I got him a monogrammed flask instead of a bag and a coffee mug filled with goodies rather than the goodies I'm filling my girls' bags with. He'll probably be involved with some of the bachelorette activities because he actually prefers hanging with us girls than with the guys.

Ooo! I'm having a bridesman -- my brother! He is actually a little uncomfortable with the idea because he is more "traditional", but he just has to get over that.

I had two

Bridesman and Man of Honor

I guess my situation is a tad different since I had two guys and my DW had 2 girls. I bought their suspenders, ties, and socks. I also got them each whiskey and a monogrammed glass. They got ready with me.

I have a man of honor and 3 bridesmen. No girls for me. They will be doing all the girls things with me. Even getting ready in the bridal cottage with me (separate rooms during dressing of course)

I had two bridesmen. The old fashion hot shave and mani/pedi for sure. I also did individual, personal, gifts for my each member of my bridal party.

I am having what I call a "Man of Honor", I have two best friends, a female and male. My female will be my Maid of Honor and my male will be my Man of Honor. My Man of Honor will be getting ready with FW and all of the "bridesmen". I will be getting him the same gifts as the "bridesmen", a hoodie with a tux imprinted on it to wear while getting ready, a work knife, a flask and then a person specific gift. FW and I are going to be getting ready in the same hotel on the same floor just a few doors apart so my "Man of Honor" will bounce between the two rooms.

As far as ceremony, we're going traditional with a guy walking with a girl but the couples will split at their end and my "Man of Honor" will stand on my side next to my BMs and Maid of Honor.

All of these are really helpful! Finally getting the wheels turning!

Some of my friends have done cufflinks, a tie, or sunglasses for the sake of giving the guy something he'll actually be able to use later / want.