Anyone getting married this month & stressed about Covid?

Hi...im guessing your in NYC too. We asked to do our dancing outside so that masks weren't mandated. I would ask and since if that's possible trust me I feel your pain.

View Quoted Comment Yeah! I’m in nyc , our venue isn’t mandating masks right now but I’m worried that deblasio will mandate it we have a small guest count and everyone is vaccinated but worried .. how were you able to move the dancing outside? We have an outside space but they told me it’s not functional for dancing

View Quoted Comment My ceremony space is outside next to the reception so I just asked. I'm in Hudson Valley and we know we can't trust the people running the state. We have a small guest count too kept the tables to those people who have been together since last year. Our tables that could fit 12 are at 5,7, 9 and our venue was very greatful we kept people in pods of people they felt comfortable with too..we are no masks right now too but im worried as well

View Quoted Comment That’s such a good idea! I am just hoping that my guest feel comfortable I would hate for my event to be a reason for people to feel forced to come and not feel safe, But it’s good to know what others are doing so thank you for sharing

Our wedding is in 16 days and I have been experiencing constant anxiety & insomnia. This dang pandemic is so horrible! We had everything set to go & now with the Delta variant, we had to make changes to assigned tables & re-print our escort cards. I just drafted an email about COVID-19 safety & protocols that we will be sending out to all attendees (we live in CA). I am not feeling insensitive because we are making it clear that we 100% understand if anyone decides they'd like to reverse their RSVP & stay home so their attendance is totally up to them. I just want to make sure everyone is safe while also having a good time. I swear each time I get a phone call from a friend or family member these past few days I automatically think they're calling to tell us they won't be able to make it. It's so sad!

BUT I am trying to keep my head up, we are crawling to the finish line & I finally get to marry my best friend. I am blessed but definitely feel your anxiety!

View Quoted Comment This is exactly how I feel! It’s so frustrating that this thing won’t go away & that is so scary at the same time. Plus the media doesn’t help .. I want my guests to feel happy & secure and not feel like I’m putting thier life at risk. I plan to update them all with a few new guidelines we plan to implement

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That's the best way & only way we can go about this! I think everyone understands for the most part that these times are so unknown & unpredictable, sometimes we have to make last minute changes in order to pivot & be safe. I called one of my Aunts this morning to ask which table she would feel the most comfortable sitting at because I know she is HYPER aware of her surroundings. It's the little things that will go a long way right now. Lots of love to you!

View Quoted Comment Thank you makes me feel much better I’m not in these times alone

I’m so glad you posted this question. I’m in Washington and we are looking like we are heading the direction you guys are in. I’m only 30 days out but Last year I had to postpone this year I refuse to do it again so I’m curious how everyone else is handling it.

I feel your pain! NYC is mandating vaccines and my wedding is in Nov. I would talk to your wedding planner/coordinator to see what your options are. I guaranteed 150 guests, indoor wedding and I am not in agreement with forcing people to do something they don’t want to do! I am considering postponing it but it seems like this will never end. It’s normal to be nervous but download the calm app, meditate and hopefully your fiancé and family support your decision whatever you decide.

View Quoted Comment I’m surprised more people aren’t talking about this

The calm app! Yes I’m going to download it now thank you so much! And yea it’s frustrating to have this apply to family functions, I could understand public functions where people don’t know each other but a private family event should come with different guidelines.. I think by Nov you should be good though as far as numbers go I think the delta comes in strong for about 3-6 weeks then dies down again , as far as the data shows

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the optimism but this order will be in effect on 9/13 and I would love for it to be reversed but I have to expect the worst. once they (politicians, govt.) get everyone to comply they won’t relinquish that power. This mayor is acting like a dictator and I just can’t wait to move to be honest to a state where you have freedom. The tri state area is looking bleak and I was born and raised in NY. It’s so disappointing to see what’s happening. Get the vaccine they said you won’t need a mask. Now it’s wear a mask and you can still spread it and get it but won’t die! I need to meditate like now lol. Deep breaths

Omg I feel you so much! My family is originally from a 3rd world country and this was suppose to be the land of the free! It’s such a touchy subject though bc I can def see both sides of the public health arguments but when it comes to weddings, there should be other rules in place. I also want to move we actually put our house up for sale but not sure where we are going

View Quoted Comment You would get it! It is a touchy subject and I know it’s a real virus…my uncle died in the beginning of the pandemic. I just don’t trust the media, our news is filtered. They say one thing and then it’s another. Anyway so cool that you’re on the same page regarding moving! Some good places to start doing research are niche.com and Kiplinger. You can browse states, town grading, etc. It also depends on factors like weather, income tax, property tax, your career. I wish you good luck and I hope your wedding is a fabulous affair despite all of this ❤️

Hey, I got married in June when numbers for cases were at their lowest before delta got to the states and I’m also in NYC. I completely understand how you feel in regards to the insensitivity for having a wedding in these times. I don’t think I felt truly excited until the week of my wedding because though things were looking good I knew how quickly things could change. What helped me was planning my wedding with 2020 restrictions and protocols in mind. This allowed me to have realistic expectations and not feel unprepared if I were to have planned like covid wasn’t around only to have the restrictions placed on our day down the line (if that makes sense). So last September we cut our guest list to 46 before sending save the dates. We did a seating chart by household, and close family who were vaccinated. We mandated testing and or vaccination to attend because at the time of our wedding the governor made this a requirement for 100 person weddings only so my venue couldn’t enforce it but we still did. We set up a Dropbox link the week of the wedding and sent to all guests to upload their negative tests or vaccination cards. We hired an on-site doctor to preform any last minute tests. We provided masks, sanitizers, hand wipes, glass coaster covers etc in welcome bags. and we drafted up a covid wedding safety letter that was sent to all guest 6 weeks before the wedding. I found the template on wedding wire and we filled it in. It was about 4 pages but we wanted everyone to know what we were doing on our end to promote safety and what we expected on their end so we could all have a safe as possible fun and comfortable experience. Everyone complied I received all tests and vaccine cards. And we had a fun and safe covid free wedding. Hubby and I decided to make the sacrifices of not having a shower, bachelor/bachelorette party or any other pre wedding activities to limit the risk of guests getting sick beforehand which was a huge concern of mine. I see so many post on here of close family or members of wedding parties getting sick right before the wedding. And I didn’t want to risk that having our guest gather beforehand. So we put all of our energy into having and creating a safe as possible wedding because that was the most important thing for us. The festivities are a bonus but not a requirement for us. I hope everything goes well for you!

Yes! It’s been such an emotional roller coaster. At the end of the day, there’s only so much we can do though. And being stressed about it won’t help. All we can do is hope for the best, and provide sanitizers/masks for those who want them. We may also offer to pay for rapid tests for anyone who might feel a little sick before the wedding. Our wedding is only 35 people so everyone is super important to us, so it’s not so easy to just say “don’t come”. I feel your pain girl!!!


Also, I try to remind myself that although cases are going up again, hospitalizations and deaths are still way down (in most areas), so it’s not as dangerous as it was during the other peaks. If most of your guests are vaccinated, then it really should be fine, fingers crossed.

I gave everyone the option to bow out yesterday including my brother and his wife who feel the need to tell me how to mandate things at my 52 person wedding. My guests are educated professionals and im not breaking hippa..98% are vaccinated those who are not can not due to medical issues again no oned buisness . Everyone is in pods and many volunteered to gey tested. I refuse to mandate the 4 kids one being 3 and my own child who gets tested all the time due to allergies. I told people do what you feel comfortable wear a mask or not. Mind you my brother is on his 4th wedding. His first one my father had just come out of the hospital which 25 years ago when we were being careful he made a big deal that my father needed to attend and not to wear a mask. Fyi 2 days letter he ended up back in the hospital. Its everyones choice. Im not offended if you don't feel comfortable but don't dictate anyone.