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Anyone else's bridesmaids wildly different and potentially don't get along/issues arise?

Jolie, on July 8, 2019 at 9:57 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 4

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So I have groups of friends that I do different things with. I have a "country" group of friends where we go line dancing and have bonfires and that type of thing. Then I have friends who don't like that and rather do clubs etc. I am okay with it. I have always had friends in different groups ever since middle school. Currently dealing with one bridesmaids saying I am not going to Vegas if we go to country bars. I said to her when did I say we were doing that? I never said that, then she says my other bridesmaid said that they have those types of bars there. I'm just thinking woah woah am I really dealing with this right now? I never planned to go to anything like that simply because not everyone likes that and wouldn't be fair. Now I got her freaking out saying stuff I never said all because two of my best friends who are wildly different decided to hang out together one night and the country friend brought it up. This is why they shouldn't hang out. Lol Now I have to talk her down just so that she is fine with going to the bachelorette again. Oy vey I am stressing and this isn't even wedding stuff I have to deal with. Anyone else have strongly opinionated or just different girls in their bridal party that have caused issues with the group? How did you deal with it?

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Latest activity by Melle, on July 9, 2019 at 7:43 PM

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Sarah · on July 8, 2019 at 10:09 AM
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Honestly I think your bridesmaid who complained to you is being overly and unnecessarily dramatic. Even if you were going to a country bar for a few hours, she couldn’t just suck it up or meet up with you later? None of my bridesmaids are friends with each other and I do different types of activities with all of them. I’m not looking for them to be friends with each other or do a bunch of stuff they don’t like, but I couldn’t imagine any of them threatening to not attend my bachelorette because one of the activities was something they didn’t like.
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Jolie · on July 8, 2019 at 10:59 AM
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I agree. Like I would never do that to her. I don't know all her friends. She was also complaining about the flight times saying she didn't want to get there too late in the day or it wouldn't "be worth it". I said okay I am trying here to accommodate everyone but nobody else is gonna get to the airport that's 1.5 hours away for a 6:30am flight, including myself. I agree I don't want to get there too late but I can't just make up new flight times that don't exist! I am trying not to freak out but I almost want to say I would never act like that to you etc. I don't need the stress right now
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privateuser · on July 8, 2019 at 3:37 PM
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Who is your MOH? I would ask her to relay to your bridesmaids ASAP that this is your bachelorette and while recommendations are welcomed, ultimately you will be doing what you want to do as it is your bachelorette party. Also, ask that all suggestions and comments be made to the MOH and not you as you are dealing with the wedding planning stress and all bachelorette planning will be handled by your MOH (even if it is not). And honestly, if that girl wants to skip because you aren't going to the bars she wants, she shouldn't be there anyways.
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Melle · on July 9, 2019 at 7:43 PM
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I also had bridesmaids that were all individual friends who knew of each other but weren't friends. Nothing really happened but I know one of them felt left out
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