Anyone else? - trouble with mom

Tell her that it's too much. If she can't handle that like a mature adult and needs to stop speaking to you to handle her own feelings, then that's her problem.

My mom was annoying about one particular thing but boy would she keep harping about it.
His mom was also kinda annoying about certain things.
In general, parents and other people always have an opinion. So in the end, do what'll make you happy.

I would continue to set those boundaries, girl! Her quiet/cold shoulder treatment is immature. Do not reward that behavior by reaching out or apologizing. This wedding should be what you & your fiancé envision.

Do you want to share any wedding planning with her, and if so, how would that look to you? (Then tell her that’s what you would like to happen.)

Hmmm. I mean my mom isn’t like that thank goodness but my fiance’s Mom has kinda been like that. In the past the best advise I got was to say thank you and that I would think about it and would let them know how they can assist. That basically is just all you need to say. She is prob really excited but you’ll need to set the boundaries in a nice way.

My hubby & I kept all the details secret because we wanted to surprise guests. We inadvertently avoided any criticism. And planning our wedding together brought us closer! We were like two kids planning a fun party.

We have been trying to keep the decision making between us. For instance, we decided on a venue- and once we took our parents to see it, his mom was disgusted about the place...

My mom has shown EVERYONE my dress. Including my stepdad that I didnt even want to see until that day (just like my dad).
Not only does she twist my words and what I want. She also goes off on her own and "brainstorms" about what she thinks is cute and gives me more ideas and then crams them down my throat.

It's like I can't keep up.

Honestly to add on to that, I'm having a really hard time getting over the fact that shes shown everyone my dress and then just turns around and says "oh well, they'll forget what it looks like anyways, it's a year from now"..




Like that totally just crushes me. That's not the point I wanted a "first look" with my dads. And she took that from me.

I wish my mom was like that my mom is a major procrastinator and it drives me nuts because i am not a procrastinator.... plus my sister is getting married next month and my mom wont even talk to me about my wedding until after her wedding ..... which sucks too.

Any time I try to share an idea with my mom, it seems to always get shot down. She envisions a rustic wedding. My FH and I want a more formal wedding. Shes been letting me know lately that my sisters don't really like the color I want for bridesmaids dresses. She stops talking to me all together when I express my feelings about her input on everything. I'm doing most of the planning on my own now. But because of her constant criticism, I'm constantly second guessing my choices. I feel your pain. Best of luck with the planning!

I’m sorry you are going through this! You need to have a clear and open conversation with her about your expectations

View Quoted Comment Awe. Best of luck to you too girl!

View Quoted Comment Oh no I'm sorry to hear that! I guess there are polar opposites of what moms could be like. It's just crazy & I try to be understanding

View Quoted Comment Ya its really hard to plan a wedding when she doesnt really help .... good luck with your mom and just know that she is trying to make your wedding beautiful and amazing.