Anyone Else Totally Overwhelmed?

You're not alone. What I have found that helps me is to schedule specific tasks daily. I use this not only for wedding planning, but for everything. I'm diy'ing all my decor so organization is key.

Kelsey, it IS overwhelming - when else does someone hand you tens of thousands of dollars, or even a few thousand, and say "Plan a huge dinner party for 100 (or 200) people.... GO!" There's a reason a whole industry has sprung up around this. (The Wedding Industrial Complex it's been dubbed.)

I did my whole wedding myself, and I can vouch for that. It's hard to find balance. I did okay until the last 6 months. You just have to make a decision that one day per week at least is wedding-free zone, when you focus on your fiance. He may be sweet, but he is not going to be into this the way women are, because he just wants to be with you, and nothing else matters as much to him!

So make sure you pay attention to him, that you don't let wedding stuff displace him, and that you give him and yourself a break from anything wedding-related periodically. That sounds easy, but it's hard for women to stop thinking or obsessing about the details once it's started. He will be so appreciative, I promise

Not sure if you saw my BAM post, but... I forgot to get a mani-pedi, I even forgot to wear my damn veil! So what. No one knew, and I didn't even notice myself till later, so it just wasn't a big deal. I forgot to bring the photos of how to lay out the candy buffet, and they did it totally different from what I'd planned. The hydrangeas in my DIY centerpieces were dropping petals like mad, and were a mess - but everyone thought it was intentional and pretty!

Things that you think are mistakes, or things you've forgotten, won't be noticed by anyone else.

I was on my hands and knees in my underwear the night before the wedding writing out the table assignments on chalkboards .... no one had a clue When you get freaked out, try to remember that if there's food, someone to marry you, and your FH, you are absolutely good to go, no matter what else you do or don't do.

Thanks so so much Rebecca!!

Not yet. We got a lot of vendors booked so I'm just sort of sitting tight til the fall/winter. Can't go a day without WW though

Edit: spelling under the influence

Kelsey- I had a severe panic attack last week and had to be rushed to the hospital. I thought I was dying (first time this has ever happened). The doctors asked if I was under a lot of stress so I told them I was planning my wedding and they all laughed at me! They told me they see this all the time. I thought 'wow, I'm not the only crazy!' Haha. It's sweet that your fiancé tries to help, mine mostly says 'whatever you want, you pick' which isn't very helpful at times. Men have no idea the amount of decisions that have to be made, or how much time we spend researching every single little detail. I love Rebecca's idea about taking one day a week as a wedding free zone. I'm going to try to enforce that one!

It's hard when you're in it to take a step back. Every decision seems life or death, but will anyone notice that the table linens are off a shade? Hah! No! I think we're all going through it. You're not the only one!

I used to be before I found WW. I had no idea what to do and how to do it. Now I have more of an idea. I have a lot of time so I try not to overload myself and jot down ideas for later. My biggest stress was choosing vendors. But what I did was take time to research and compare. Also, don't be afraid to ask questions or see if you can get a better deal. We are all here for you!

I was completely overwhelmed when we first got engaged a year ago. So much so that I didn't even want to do it all. This summer though, I've taken the time I have off from school and gotten a lot done. So yes, you're completely normal! I've found that the checklist of things to do for each time period is very helpful!

It is very overwhelming specially once you are a month or so away. It helps to set goals like the one WW provides under "planning tools"

Wedding planning has caused me a couple panic attacks LOL! Nursing school, working, planning a wedding can do that to you. If you ever get overwhelmed, take a step back and breathe.

You aren't alone. I just find it to be a daunting task and often find myself saying "where do I start?". And FH, although he loves to be involved and offer opinions... he doesn't know what to do to help. Reading posts on here has been my life saver.

You certainly aren't alone. I'm not in panic mode yet, but I expect I will be as we get closer to the day. FH doesn't really help much (he just wants good food and booze), but luckily my mom and sister are nearby. My mind is constantly spinning. I start researching one thing, then switch to another within seconds. I feel like I won't ever get this all pulled together! I've printed off multiple organizers, calendars, and everything else you can think of, but still feel I will forget something.

Just breathe We'll get there eventually

Try doing it with a 3yr old and a newborn, very stressful. goodluck!

Wedding plan was not stressful for me, it was my escape from taking care of my father with cancer. I ended up with a mini wedding planned in January in about 3 weeks or less. It was in the hospital 4.5 days before he passed. Even the 2 week wedding plan was not stressful, it was like "Well we will do what we can, license, dress, minister, a few BMs a basic food and cake done" I will admit the biggest chunk of my wedding planning and research was done sitting in his hospital room over the months. It kept me occupied for sure. I still had my big day in March but Dad got to see the legal one

I'm getting married in 16 days and I think I'm really starting to freak out. Next week, we pay for the reception food and everything else....I'm just hoping to have enough money, keep my weight the same for 16 days and just wow....yeah ladies, I'm freaking out lol

Honestly I find that the easiest way to get things done is by email! Anytime I need to connect with someone about something, if I can I go right to the email. It's quick, easy and best of all... You can always look back for reference. Oh and to do lists!! Lots and lots of to do lists!

Yes. To add to the stress my boss told me today that I won't have a job after September 11th. Awesome. Something's gotta give...

I have about 80 days left until our wedding... I am currently a college student ( im on break until September 1st), just got a new job in the field I am studying, am in the process of buying a house ( that we will be moving into the end of next month) AND planning a wedding....

I find the best thing that has been working for me is that I am overly organized. I sat down and figured out everything we have left to pay, when its due and how much and have it on our calendar. All of the things that need to be done are on an excel file and grouped by "pre-wedding, ceremony, rehearsal, post-wedding and honeymoon... I have written down every little single thing that needs to be done so I A. don't forget and B. think things up last minute and panic. Some things on my lists are just things I haven't even thought about yet and need to look into.While on my break from school ( but not from work or buying the house!) I refer to the excel file and try to complete a few things everyday so it doesn't seem so stressful.

Don't freak out, everything will come together and your wedding will be beautiful!

I don't think im there yet its still fun to me but there are those days where im like this isn't gonna happened

Yup im getting it done tho fh hasnt been any help

Thanks so much for all the comments!! You ladies have made me feel so much better and glad to know I'm not alone