Anyone else not seeing their fiancee until the wedding?

Perhaps it's time for him to rethink that "amazing" job opportunity? I just can't see it as amazing if it means that he's shirking all of his responsibilities as a husband and father, for the rest of your lives.

One of our groomsman married a girl from a different country. So he basically didn't see her til the day before too when he flew over to attend the wedding she planned

My neighbors did that, the husband was out of country though. I'll tell you the family does suffer and you might want to rethink how amazing it is. The poor wife was more or less a single parent, she even had to go to surgery alone. All the neighbors volunteered to help but after a while you tell there was marital problems over it. There's just no replacement for your spouse.

I don’t see how a job, any job, is an amazing opportunity if it means being away from your spouse and children 100% of the time. My dad traveled for work and my ex-husband is in the military so I understand travel is necessary sometimes but 100% of the time? I couldn’t do that. My ex is currently deployed and it’s really hard on our 6 year old. She’s convinced her dad isn’t coming back. We FaceTime multiple times a week and have reassured her it’s only for a short time, but she still has a lot of anxiety about it. I can’t imagine choosing that life consistently for my children, no matter how much success or money came from it.

Personally a job where my spouse was gone 90% would be a deal breaker. This isn't the military. I know a few couples who have one partner that travel for long periods of times. Some can do it well, some can't. Throw children into the mix and it gets more complicated. My SO had a job where she had to travel and was gone for 8 months before I said come home, this is not working.
Not to sound harsh but he gets his dream job and you get FaceTime, phone calls, and being a single parent.

My dad had a job.like this where he traveled a lot. It sucked. At first there was work at home, so it wasnt too bad, but then there was no work at home so he had to travel. Hed be gone for up.to 2 years at a time. I honestly dont even know how my parents are still married. They fought constantly, accusing each other of cheating, money issues, problems with me and my brothers. He wasnt around when I got really sick and had to spend months at home and in the hospital. That was awful.

Honestly, no job is worth being away from your family like that. It's going to put a strain on your marriage and your family. Military is different as people have said, theres a start and end date there, although also the real possibility of never coming back too. But for a business type job, that you wont see him for months at a time, no. Even truck drivers aren't away that long. Especially with having kids. What if one of them gets really.sick or hurt? What if you get sick or hurt? What kind of job is it that hes gone for so long? I've known people that travel Monday through Friday every week, but are home for weekends. Or like my dad, hed be gone for up to 2 years at a time, but he would be able to take days off occasionally and would come home for a weekend, or for the holidays. I agree with others, seems like he gets to travel around the states without, and you get the responsibilities of the the house, kids, and your job to boot.

My FH is in the Navy and constantly going to different locations on training. He returns tonight after being gone for 3 weeks, and leaves next week again.

Luckily I am able to see him for a week at a time, but it is still hard planning this wedding AND never knowing when/where he will be going next. Also, waiting to hear about OCS school, which is 3 months long and basically like a boot camp. All I hope is that he does not get called to that in the next 112 days (just make it after the wedding please...)!

No job that requires you to move away from home like that is “amazing” even if it offered a million dollar paycheck. Neither my husband nor I would ever give this even a second of consideration.

So, I feel all of what yall are saying. Every bit of it. As far as me saying amazing... it is amazing for him. He has never worked for a company that could offer him room for growth within the company this one can. Which is great for a single guy. Not for a family guy. I told him all of how I felt and all I get is once we get through the rough stuff it will get better... I dont think it will. But he is the kind of man that has to fall on his face to realize I was right.