Anyone else not like weddings?

So then why come on to an app called Wedding Wire ... ???

I don't like being the centre of attention either, but I am however excited to celebrate our love with our friends and family. We've done a few little tweaks to stay out of the spotlight as much as we can.

We're forgoing speeches at the wedding, a grand entrance, bouquet and garter toss, we are having a kings table with all our wedding party and their plus ones and even axing our first dance.

I love weddings I love seeing other peoples visions come to life and always happy to celebrate love. The women on here who are excited for their weddings should be it's an exciting time they're making a commitment to spend the rest of their lives with the man of their dreams you should at least be excited for that part!

View Quoted Comment I like this! Puts it in a better perspective

View Quoted Comment Same! I don't love typical weddings and I love when couples take their own spin on it.
My husband went to a wedding that didn't go as planned (lightening storms for an outdoor wedding and ended up being in a garage) and it was the best wedding he went to. It was a source of inspiration and we had a lot of brainstorm sessions to actually come up with a wedding that could only be ours.
Look at it as a party that happens to have a wedding at. Or an event you like. A shift in perspective is always a way to mix up feelings.
There's also nothing wrong with not feeling completely inundated with wedding things. My friend was this way and it finally hit her as she started walking down the aisle with her father. Everyone's different!

I don’t enjoy the planning process at all either and we have omitted many of the traditional things that you are “supposed to do.” For us, it’s been fun to thumb our noses at traditions and do what we want....like we are having breakfast for dinner (more like brunch) and even have a cake that looks like a stack of pancakes.

Hi Aubrey! I totally understand where you’re coming from. Personally, I absolutely love looking at wedding inspiration and still dreaming of my “dream wedding”. However, while currently planning my own, I’m realizing that I don’t actually want the big celebration and spending thousands on one event. My fiancé and I are having around an 80-100 people wedding (depending on RSVPs), but it will be a Sunday afternoon affair with lawn games and mimosas. I really don’t like all the attention, but we also do have a lot of people we want to celebrate with! It is you and your fiancé’s big day- celebrate how you like! ♥️♥️

This question is way too broad. "Weddings" are not all the same, so asking if people don't like them is like asking if we don't like food. There are many different kinds, so there is no one answer. I like chocolate. I don't like liver. Weddings are not all the same. If you don't like certain things, don't include them in your special day. Create a day you will love. Make it a "chocolate" day.

I’m with you. But realistically I’m having a party where I’m inviting all our family and friends. I want it to be nice and be a good host to our guests. It takes a lot of money time and work. So I’m doing everything I can.

I feel this. I didn't really want a wedding. FH didn't want one. I told him not to propose and we would elope. He didn't listen of course. I felt pressure to have a wedding from my family. I knew if we got married just the two of us, people would be upset. Our parents would end up throwing parties and it would just be too much. So we decided to do one single event and get it over with. I don't like being the center of attention either. 90% of the weddings I attend make me feel uncomfortable lol. I don't like people doing stupid dances into the reception during introductions. I don't like speeches I can't hear with jokes I don't understand. I don't like watching dances. I cannot stand being pressured to go up when the bride throws the bouquet. I have caught it twice. I don't appreciate a stranger dancing towards me and putting a garter on my leg. I could go on and on lol. I just made sure that if I was going to have a wedding, it would be what I want. Our menu is a little different, I don't know if everyone will like it. I've been to plenty of weddings where the food was pure crap so idc.

Can your fiancé help more? Or can you maybe do a small no fuss wedding?

Like you, I also despise being the center of attention. I wanted a wedding but not as large as ours has become with FHs guest list 😑🙄. Planning has been ok so far but slightly stressful, so I will be very happy when it’s over so I can relax. These forums have been good though to get opinions on things like etiquette, designs, and just anything wedding related in general.

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This. Yes! We're doing a simple ceremony but skipping a lot of other stuff. I did ask for a first dance for pictures, but half way through we're going to invite everyone up to dance (even if it's just the kids who join in for distraction). Skipping grand entrance, garter toss, speeches.. I'm handing my toss bouquet to the longest married couple and not doing a traditional toss. I'm keeping the wedding casual so it's more of a get up, walk around, mingle, play games, eat, etc event instead of sit down and watch me.. eek

My fiancé and i are not wedding people. We don’t enjoy all the people or the spotlight. I’m not a big planner and i don’t know which tables go with which chairs and could care less about flowers and centerpieces and dresses.


We are having a destinafion wedding for 16 people. The resort handles ALL of it. I gave a few ideas of what i liked and they did the rest. My dress is from a designer in Australia (grace loves lace) and it’s stretchy so im not concerned that it won’t fit. There are no alterations needed and it’ll fit even if i gain or lose a dress size.

No stress!

Everyone here is excited because we love weddings. (most of us) I see Keiwana's point, as none of my friends who weren't into this the way I am made wedding wire or the knot accounts lol. they did the bare minimum and kept it moving. (that being said don't leave you are welcome here ) Personally, I have loved weddings since I was a little girl. I started helping my dad DJ weddings in elementary school. (I learned how to use the sound board and queue songs on his computer) I've seen cheap weddings, average weddings, and extraordinary weddings. I wanted an extraordinary wedding with 80-100 people because the large guest counts at the expensive weddings didn't appeal to me. However, even with a smaller guest count, the wedding isn't cheap and I'm not rich so I had to work my butt off but I'm here. My family & I talk about the wedding daily at this point and I think I love talking about it so much here (& hyping other girls up all the time) because I know how rewarding it is to work so hard for something you've dreamed of forever then see it coming to life more and more everyday!

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This is so legit! We're doing a half chocolate half vanilla cake because we're an interracial couple.

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I'm glad you are enjoying the process, good for you! There are definitely some parts I enjoy more than others. My fiance is a DJ too! Thanks for the positive comment!

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Such a good idea!!!

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That's exactly how we are planning ours. We're having outdoor games and some bounce houses too! It's going to be more of a relaxed celebration. I love it!

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Yeah I feel you! That's why I have been on here, for inspiration and ideas. It has been some help for sure, as well as hearing from others who feel the same!

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EXACTLY. You nailed it haha but yes I am striving to make ours different and a relaxed, fun experience for me as well as the guests.