Anyone else not have a bridal shower ?

Did someone offer to throw you a shower and you declined? I will not be having one.

This is not our first marriage and we already have an established house. We are not registering for anything and we probably won't have a shower. You don't have to have a shower, however if someone offers to throw you one, you should not decline it based on "I have too much to do" or "I don't like showers".

If you're having a rehearsal, you need to have a rehearsal dinner to thank the people that participate in the rehearsal. It doesn't have to be anything super formal or expensive, but you should buy a meal for those folks as a thank you.

I didn't have a bridal shower - most of the people who would have attended the shower live out of town and I didn't want them having to make 2 trips to where I live. I decided to skip it and I don't regret it or feel like I missed out, and nobody batted an eye about it.

I don't want a bridal shower, I don't like the idea of them and agree with you they are kind of gift grabby. We have some people who are insisting on throwing one for me and I asked that if they did it be co-ed and include everyone and not be in my hometown of Pittsburgh (this is mostly because of work schedules and living in Baltimore.) 90% of our guest list is from out of town and there is no need for them to drive back and forth a couple times. We don't need anything and we've been living together for 2 years now and we are not doing a registry. Bridal shower games are super awkward and and make me cringe. You're putting someone on the spot and that is not a good combination with someone with bad anxiety.

If you're not doing a rehearsal dinner then I could recommend taking at least the bridal party (and any family members who might be paying) out to dinner for a nice meal as a thank you or plan a night out as a thank you. Maybe out to breakfast the morning of the wedding.

When I get a bridal shower invite, I usually think, "Another gift to budget for". Just go out to lunch with your Bridesmaids.

As far as I know, I'm just having a bachelorette. That's the only group of people I'd want there for that sort of thing anyway!

Same! I feel the same as you do about showers and I hate going to them as a guest if it's not someone I'm incredibly close to. I'm not having one.

No, I'm not having a rehearsal. No need to be rude. I have no problems feeding my guests and the insinuation is not appreciated. I am not having a rehearsal dinner, an for my bridesmaid said I'll throw you A shower if you want one. But you don't think I should decline because I don't like them? well, that's your opinion, and we happen to be in disagreement here: if I don't want one, I'm not having one. It's hard enough for me and all my guests to get off at the same time as it is.

My bridesmaid said I'll throw you A shower if you want one. But you don't think I should decline because I don't like them? well, that's your opinion, and we happen to be in disagreement here: if I don't want one, I'm not having one. It's hard enough for me and all my guests to get off at the same time as it is.

I am not having one. I find they can be a bit dull. I let my family and friends know I wasn't into the shower scene. I AM into the mimosa scene though.

"if I don't want one, I'm not having one"

Then why are you asking us?

Yeah seriously, OP, why'd you ask lol

I am also not having a bridal shower or a rehearsal dinner. FMIL and FSIL really wanted to have both, and we finally managed to kill off the idea last weekend (FH put on his serious, no bullshit voice, I've been politely declining to no avail for about 3 months). We just want to get married. There's nothing to rehearse. There's nothing to celebrate beforehand. Gifts will be at the wedding.

I also agree with you that they are kind of gift-grabby. I enjoy attending them, but having a bridal shower is definitely not for me. I feel guilty having people come just for the purpose of bringing me gifts. I'm not the baby Jesus or something

No regrets at all.

Me and the hostess actually agreed to cancel my shower last week.

Most of my family is out of town and would have not been in attendance. Only my mom and aunt would have come. It basically would have been round 2 of my bachelorette party for a bridal shower. My friends went above and beyond for that party and I felt terribly awkward asking them to come to another party and spend more money.

I have no regrets, I am actually somewhat relieved.

I'm glad I'm not the only person who feels like this. my MOH was pretty insistent about hosting one for me, but I held firm about not wanting one. Most of my family is OOT, and I'm not a fan of being the center of attention. I don't have a lot of female friends either. It does feel a little gift grabby too.

I've declined to have mine as well, just not into them very much. Would prefer to gather all of my girls later for a bachelorette blowout more fun in my opinion

We're not having a shower because we are in our 40's, live together and don't want to come off gift-grabby.

We will be having a rehearsal dinner... bbq ribs and easy sides!