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Natalie
Devoted January 2021

Anyone else not doing a rehearsal?

Natalie, on October 18, 2019 at 2:47 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 28

So we are getting married January 2nd. That means that the day before is a holiday, so our venue will not be open. My fiance has been a groomsman in several weddings, and always feels as if the rehearsal is unnecessary (of course it's never been HIS wedding, but still, I agree). We are having a very short and simple ceremony followed by the reception at the same venue. Here's what we were thinking instead:


Have a "rehearsal" dinner for our bridal party and plus ones the night before the wedding. We will go over day of timeline, and hand out the printed day of schedule.

Morning of the wedding, the guys will arrive at the venue and have a quick walk through, go over order of who walks in with who, etc.

When my bridesmaids and I arrive, we will have a separate walk through to do the same thing.


Thoughts?

28 Comments

Latest activity by Natalie, on October 28, 2019 at 9:12 AM
  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
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    This should be more than enough. In Jewish weddings, it's not traditional to have a rehearsal. Instead, the officiant just gives people brief instructions before the processional starts as to what order to go in, and who stands where. This does not seem to have resulted in any noticeable number of people falling flat on their face at the ceremony.

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  • Natalie
    Devoted January 2021
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    I think that makes perfect sense! All they have to do is walk in, how complicated can it be?? Haha

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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
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    I think this plan sounds fine. Most times, unless you're having some really unusual choreography or additional stuff during the ceremony, a rehearsal isn't absolutely necessary. You've come up with a plan that will still give all your people the information they need for the day. Good luck!

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  • Natalie
    Devoted January 2021
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    Also wanted to add - the dinner we'll be hosting isn't a necessity but we want to do something fun with the bridal party the night before. A lot of them will be driving in from Houston about 3.5 hours away and we want to show our appreciation.

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  • Natalie
    Devoted January 2021
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    Thanks! My mom of course is appalled at the thought of not doing the rehearsal and I'm trying to convince her it's no big deal. She's very traditional and I consider myself a very modern bride haha so she is doing her best to cope.

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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
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    I can understand that, as I'm an older bride, who grew up with all of those wedding "traditions." It's kind of cool now, because I'm seeing a whole new batch of wedding traditions develop, and I can pick and choose from the old and the new. Or a blending of old and new. Like, we are doing the cake cutting, but not with a traditional cake. Just a small one-tier for the cutting, and a big dessert table, with individual desserts.

    Poor mom! lol hopefully she'll be able to get past it, and realize that everything evolves, even weddings!

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  • Natalie
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    That's awesome I love that you are defining your own unique bridal style!

    Poor mom is right, but she's hanging in there Smiley xd

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    Legend June 2019
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    I think what you planned is fine
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    I think that's totally fine. You really don't even need the walk through IMO. Just tell your your party who is walking together and the order. They don't NEED to practice walking down the aisle and standing there if it will interrupt you day or anything!

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  • Natalie
    Devoted January 2021
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    That's a good point, I'll definitely keep that in mind if we happen to be running late or anything on the big day.

    We also have a day of coordinator who can tell everyone who they're walking with and what not.

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  • Shayna
    Savvy August 2020
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    I think your plan now is great! My sister did the same thing, had a dinner the day before, and then the DOC just let us know our order, to not walk too fast, and to smile. As the bridal party we just needed to walk down the aisle and stand for 15 minutes. No need to drive to the venue the night before for that.

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  • Natalie
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    That's what I was thinking! Seems easy enough Smiley smile

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    Rockstar July 2019
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    As long as there is nothing complicated about your rehearsal I don't see an issue with it. I was happy we did one the night before because we had some things we needed to work out beforehand. Our venue has a fountain in the middle of the aisle and our bridal party was walking in pairs so we had to decide how we wanted them to walk around the foundation. Our options were to have them walk together around it or one walk on one side and the other on the other side then link back up. We also had a bridesman and groomswoman and my husband wanted the bridesman and groomswoman to walk paired up the same way as the bridesmaids and groomsmen which was bridesmaids/bridesman on the left and groomsmen/groomswoman on the right which meant when the bridesman and groomswoman got to the front they would have had to switch sides after they unlinked arms. It looked really awkward and I overruled it. We also had my brother (bridesman) and his brother (groomsman) walking down the aisle twice. They escorted our mothers then escorted the a bridesmaid and the groomswoman down the aisle so we wanted to practice to make sure they had enough time to get back to in line after escorting the mothers. If it hadn't been so complicated I think it would have been fine if we didn't have a rehearsal, but I'm glad we did.
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  • Kasyah
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    Girl, doing the same thing here! We have a small wedding party and a short ceremony so no rehearsal. We are just going to get with everyone the day before and do a verbal "walk through". You're better than us bc we aren't doing a rehearsal dinner lol we are giving gifts though to thank them for being apart of our special day and making the trip since it's a destination wedding.
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  • Mcskipper
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    We didn’t do a rehearsal and it was no big deal. Most of our wedding party was out of state and traveling after work the Friday before our Saturday wedding so it was never even on our radar really. It was totally fine. We went over walking order like 10 min before going down the aisle and no issues at all. We didn’t do anything unusual or complicated— just walk and take places. Easy peasy!
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    Devoted October 2019
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    All we did for the rehearsal was sit down with the person marrying us and talk about what exactly we wanted to happen during the ceremony and in what order, then us and immediate family all went out to eat at my favorite local restaurant.
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    We would have probably done something like this but our officiant really wanted a rehearsal ...so we are doing a rehearsal the day before in the morning.
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  • Mrs. Ariza
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    I am doing the exact Same thing. No rehearsal prior. Its very difficult trying to get everyone together.
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  • Becca
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    You could just do a rehearsal at the restaurant where you link people up and show them how you want their hands to be. I am going to be honest, the last thing you are going to want to do on the day of is try to fit in a rehearsal. We had a big wedding in a complicated space so it was more important to have a rehearsal for us. You know your space.

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  • Tara
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    I think your idea is perfect and should work out just fine! We got married back Friday. So we had our actual rehearsal Wednesday then had a big Thanksgiving dinner and invited our bridal party (most didn't come though). A rehearsal is good in terms of everyone knowing where they need to be and the order of everything. But your plans will work just fine!
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