Hi everyone! So I completely understand the wedding industry has been hit super hard due to covid. My wedding is this June and here in MA restrictions are beyond tight. I was trying to postpone my wedding, but my venue has a new policy in place that if I make any changes before April 6 they will keep my deposit and I will have to put a new one down? They also will only move my date/deposit if the restrictions say they cannot hold my event. They didn’t do this to me last year (which I had to postpone twice), and it makes me sad if I get two months before and can’t have it again this year. Is anyone else experiencing this? I am sure it’s normal, but just unexpected!
Times are tough both for individuals and for businesses.
Personally I find it a bit bizarre this new policy simply because it makes more
sense that the sooner you cancel/change a booking the better off you are, but I
imagine they are doing this to hold people to their bookings to ensure that
their business isn’t suddenly depleted.
Personally, having postponed my wedding once already, if we
are unable to have the wedding as planned I am going to forfeit our deposit,
cancel the big do and elope instead because I don’t want to postpone again. Not
sure whether you’ve more patience than I but it may be time to start
considering whether you would be prepared to postpone for a third time.
I'm so sorry that's happening to you. My date is 6 months out and we are really considering moving it to 2022. I reached out to my venue a few weeks ago and they said with COVID rescheduling, we are suppose to wait 2 months before to reschedule because they are working with clients who have Spring weddings before getting to the Summer weddings right now. So I understand your situation! I ended up asking if they can at least provide me with dates for 2022 and asked if I could put a soft hold on those dates.
So for now I pretty much plan to postpone and know my backup date, but waiting until the 2-3 month mark to tell them my "official" plan to postpone.
I know it's stressful but unless you plan on having an extremely large amount of guests I'd suggest to move forward with the wedding. The summer is the least restricted and you can use the outdoors. Personally I lost my deposit to my florist, she went out of business and never responded or contacted me or any of her clients to let us know. Luckily I found someone else so close to my wedding (April) and we are moving forward within the current restrictions and taking the precautions required.
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I totally agree. I understand both sides I would hate to see my venue go under, but I don’t wanna lose my money either that I work hard for. Honestly my patience is wearing thin so I might just have my wedding however I can but I have another two months to see
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Ugh that’s horrible! I feel bad for businesses but I also work hard for my money as well lol. I agree with you I might just try to push forward as best as I can because 2022 isn’t a guarantee either I guess.
I'm just pushing forward with my wedding and it's in April. I understand why venues are not requiring more then one despoit but it's not easy on the pocket book. The future is not clear so I've decide that waiting is not an option.
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I totally agree with this! I am so torn on what to do. I already moved from last year to this year and it isn’t any better. So what if 22 is the same you know?! Best of luck and congrats!
I personally wouldn’t postpone. It doesn’t seem like Covid is going anywhere anytime soon and it definitely seems like there’s still going to be restrictions in place even in 2022. I’d suggest to just keep the wedding date you have.
Is it a very large deposit? If you feel that the deposit is not that much and it’s worth it to push the date out then I guess you do have an entire year to save up for the extra money.
We lost our $1,000 deposit. Due to covid we cancelled our wedding at the venue in May 2020 and made alternate plans. The venue tried to push us to have it but we couldn't and they agreed to refund us, but our 1,000 deposit is non refundable. So that was hard to handle
I lost my deposit for our last venue as well as our photographer. We just swallowed the loss and found a venue and team of venders. If the loss is too great, push forward and just cut your guest list if you can.
Imagine for a moment that you are hosting an extravagant dinner for 12; food is bought, prepared, and ready to be served. No one shows. That is time and money completely wasted through no fault of your own. How would you proceed with this group of guests if they did this to you again? And then came back a third time and asked if you would host them dinner? How would you interact with them moving forward? Venues don’t pop up over night and they don’t shut down and stop paying their bills in between events. There would be no way a venue could stay open if clients decided to continue to change their date or cancel completely. If the client chooses to move or cancel their event for any reason other than what is outlined in the contract, the venue is justified in keeping all monies paid. It keeps both parties committed. I just wanted to share another side to this scenario.
I think things are getting better and will keep opening up. My wedding is July 30th and I'm keeping that date. Everyone in 2020 thought 2021 was going to be better and who knows what will happen in 2022.