Anyone else just so stressed that you aren't even excited for your wedding anymore?

I agree. I don't know how people enjoy wedding planning. This has been more stressful than enjoyable. The guest list and finances have been absolutely draining.

But yes, I completely feel where you're coming from.

My wedding is right before yours. I’m doing everything myself and haven’t asked anyone for anything. I was feeling like this before the holidays and took a big break in planning. Now that I’m less than 2 months out, I’m just in the i don’t give a crap mode and whatever happens happens.

Wedding planning is often portrayed as this wonderful, blissful time of your life...but omg that's the farthest thing from the truth! It is SO STRESSFUL!

I'm 7 months out but I've already had my fair share of drama with my mom and the guest list, my in-laws and the Indian Ceremony and where to have it (We are doing two ceremonies, one on Friday one on Saturday because my FH is Indian and wants an authentic ceremony!)

It doesn't help when you don't have support either I'd sit down and talk to some people about how you feel- that you need some help with the final details. Your MOH is supposed to be there to help as well!

Good luck, you're almost there!

FH and I almost cancelled the wedding because of people causing us stress forcing their opinions on us. We called our parents and told them we were calling of the wedding and it finally shocked some people enough to back off. We took the weekend to think it over and decided we wanted to have our wedding but made it clear we were done discussing anything about it. It took me a little while to get excited about it again, and a large part of me still just wants it to be over.

View Quoted Comment Thank you, yeah ive asked every single weekend for my help, have literally had breakdowns almost every single day and still, nothing. I understand people have their own lives but help me out, damn. Even my Fiancé is over it. We're at the point now where we are just going to treat it like a big party because its obvious noone else cares anyways.

Oh gosh, so sorry to hear this!! I hope it all gets better before the big day so you can actually enjoy it. One of the best pieces of advice that I got when I started planning my wedding was not to say no to anyone, but do what you want anyway. Everyone just wants to feel heard, so hear them, tell them you'll consider whatever it is that they're asking you for or complaining about, and then just do what you want anyway. In my head it's easier to listen and comfort them knowing that I'm not actually going to stress about anything they just said! Lol. If they don't want to wear the formal attire, then they don't have to come. Same about seeing their ex or leaving their kid at home. Of course you want everyone you love and care about to come to your wedding, but really at the end of the day this is about you and your FH. As long as he's there, then everything else doesn't really matter!!

View Quoted Comment Exactly where we are right now. Im just truning into this big mess and I hate it. I wish i had the money to just put it in a wedding planners hands but I don't. We should have just eloped. Lol

I have to agree wedding planning is stressful. I just can’t wait till it’s over and we get to go on our honeymoon.

Try to breathe, stretch, shake, and let it go. Everyone has an opinion, but it doesn't mean you need to honor that opinion. Remind yourself why you are planning this wedding: to celebrate your marriage.

I'm lucky that my planning has been relatively drama-free (though we're sending out STDs soon, so I'm sure that's coming), but it has been stressful. Right now I have what I'm calling "decision burn-out". I'm so tired of making decisions, of researching, comparing prices, etc. When my FMIL offered to pay for and plan our rehearsal dinner I almost cried tears of joy and told her "please, just tell me when to be there". I was so happy to have one less thing to plan

I've only been engaged for a week and am already stressed out! Mostly right now about cost and guest list.

View Quoted Comment Lol same! People would ask me how it’s going and I always say it’s awful and I hate it. I don’t know who created this fairytale that planning a wedding is fun...but it’s not. There’s so much to coordinate. It’s so expensive. A couple months ago we considering scrapping and starting over and decided we’d lose too much money that way. We’re so close now that I’m just letting it flow. It doesn’t help that the post office keeps losing my RSVPs 😡

View Quoted Comment Im going to just throw out that maybe the post office didnt lose the rsvps, people probably just didnt send them, because theyre lazy af.. lol I have only recieved maybe 20 rsvps out of the 120 I sent.. people suck

Yup. I've been planning since Mid-October for mid-May. I've put together my third plan. I've even thrown out the idea of postponing the date to lessen stress and can't even get a straight answer on that.

Somehow, I'm sure we'll manage to find peace and get to the end goal of marrying our best friends.

Chin up!

Gosh, I remember feeling this way about two months before too. It is stressful, and super expensive, and just down right ridiculous sometimes. I got so tired of having to research everything and come up with a good value for what we wanted. I didn’t have help from family (until like the last month when it started to get on their radar finally, but everything was already done of course!) but I did from my H.

I think planning a wedding is great practice for learning how to set boundaries with your family and friends, especially if you’re younger and this is the beginning of your own life with your FS.

Good luck. It will be wonderful once it’s finally here, I promise.

I knew wedding planning would be stressful and believe me, I wanted to elope to avoid all of it. But I had no idea it would be as stressful as it was. The roller coaster of emotions I went through was something I did not sign up for! And I surely didn't sign up to hear everyone's opinions and criticism. I can't count how many times I wanted to cancel everything. Just remember to take some time for yourself every now and then. Get through this part, enjoy your wedding day and once it's over, you can sit back, relax and think "I'm never doing that again".

View Quoted Comment Nooo it’s the post office. I have informed delivery with USPS, so I get images of my mail emailed to me. And on several occasions they show in my email but they never come in my mailbox. I live in a big apartment complex and they are always delivering the wrong mail to the wrong boxes. I called the post office this morning actually and they haven’t called me back of course.

Why isn't your fiance helping you? This is the part I honestly don't understand. If it's a wedding for both of you, why aren't both of you involved?

Other than that, logistics are really hard work. The details are fun, but the planning really isn't.

Wedding planning is not fun and I am just thinking about the after wedding fun.

Wedding planning is so stressful. Idk how many times my fiancé and I have said let’s just elope haha.