Anyone else having doubts?

I honestly was about two weeks ago. I talked it out with my FH and things are much better now.

Not at all. Why are you having doubts?

I didn't think I wanted to get married at all until he proposed, now I have never had a doubt.

I periodically have doubts on having a wedding, never doubts of marrying my Him.

Doubts about the wedding or doubts about getting married?

I love him so much, and we've been together for 2.5 years. His job situation however has been a big issue the entire relationship. He works in a field where he only gets as much work as clients he has. He's super passionate about it and doesn't want to do anything else. However business is slow right now and I'm frustrated. He's only working 20 hours a week and not making much, and our wedding is coming up soon. I'm trying to be supportive of his dreams but honestly I'm freaking out.

Have you spoken to your FS about how you're feeling? I recommend speaking to a counselor, and possibly also couples counseling. You own it to yourself to sort through your feelings and make the best decision for yourself.

Are you more not wanting to get married because you can't afford current plans or not wanting to get married because you don't want to be with him?

I have no doubts on marrying.

You guys need to have a serious talk about finances and consider couples counseling.

Is there anything he can do during slow seasons to make additional money?

Tough talk. I'm an entrepreneur, and I have been for my entire life (I'm the world's worst employee, lol). I have had great years and I've had shit years, but the constant has been that my own trials have never affected other people because I'm frugal as shit and consider that the price of freedom, if that makes any sense.

Being a gig-meister is a challenging road, not only for the person doing it but for the people around them (like their spouses)..... You work twice as much marketing to get clients as you do actually doing the work love to do.

Passion is admirable, but passion has to work hand in hand with motivation. If he's not getting enough clients, guess what? He has to work harder at that (now, I don't know much about your situation, so my apologies if that doesn't apply...). No one who is a freelancer or an entrepreneur can sit back and wait for clients to come to them. they have to go and beat the bushes, as it were. If he's not being fed enough work from his company, it's time to find more work. It is really that simple.

You need to have a serious sit down with him and then a serious sit down with yourself because this isn't a 'we have to have money for a wedding', one time event. It will become a 'we want to save for a house/to have kids/to get a new car/to go on vacation discussion that could become the theme of your life together.

Once you are married (or in a committed relationship) your decisions are no longer yours alone. You have to consider how your decisions impact the people you love.

If you feel like you're having doubts, you should definitely try taking to your FH about it. Best to talk now than bottle it up. Can you get advice from a family member who knows the full story?

You really need to take a break from planning and explore those doubts.

With a counselor or not, you need to get to the root of you thoughts.

Nope no doubts here but not clear on whether your situation is concern about the wedding event or the marriage.

Is there any way FH can fill the income gap with other employment ?

Doubts are very common and I get so frustrated when people who haven't struggled with them make people feel like they are completely alone if they have a single doubt. It's okay to feel freaked out about any other big life decision - - new job, a move, having a baby.....but not getting married?? I have always struggled with anxiety, so yes I had (unfounded) doubts and it was something H and I were very open and honest about discussing. It is important to explore why you're doubting though - is there something in your relationship that is truly a red flag that you haven't noticed before? You mentioned finances - talk to your fiancé about what you're feeling and your thoughts. It's important to be open.

I found it comforting to talk to both my fiancé and my mom - someone who knew our relationship (and my anxiety) well and knew there weren't any red flags and also could share with me times she felt doubt and fear about the unknown in her engagement to my dad. Work through these things together and know you're not alone and it doesn't automatically mean you're doomed.

What are you having doubts about?

I would look into counseling. You may need to work on communication as a couple.

I've had doubts about the wedding, but not us as a couple. My FH and I actually had a long talk about it last night. Communication is super important. And whenever either of us feel that way, we let the other one know.

Never doubted marrying FH since my dad died, before that once in awhile. Second guess the while wedding thing once a week since my dad died.

But it is ok to have doubts. I think it's normal, but something specific like this you should talk to him about.

It feels like you're deal with LIFE. These things happen & this is the line of work FH is. It could happen to anyone though. Even someone who has had the most stable job for years could end up laid off all of a sudden. In this aspect you know that you'll always need to plan ahead. Can you handle the responsibility that comes with this type of lifestyle? If you're having doubts, maybe not...