Anyone else have anxiety when thinking about saying vows?

I'm in the same boat, I was all prepared to write my vows when my officiant (who happens to he my cousin) sent us a draft of what he will say didn't include them. I said "when will we say our vows?" And he said "What are you talking about? The vows are 'I x take x to blah blah blah'" point being, it's your wedding. If you dont want want to recite the way you feel about your love in front of everyone, you don't have to. I attended a wedding where the H&W had the dj read each other's vows during thier first dance. It was really sweet. Maybe you two can talk about alternatives that still get the point across. Good luck!

You definitely do not have to read your own vows during the ceremony. It is a nice personal touch, but not a necessity. Maybe you two could write notes to eachother to read right before the ceremony, I know they have cute little notebooks for this on etsy!

I was really nervous about that too, but on the day of, it kinda came out naturally. I was so emotional then, I didn't mind. The guests kind of melted away at that moment and it was all about DH.

FH and I originally were going to do the "traditional" vows and then also do our own written personal vows. We were wavering back and forth about it because we are both SO emotional and know we'd hardly get through it with anything close to a dry eye. Then I saw someone write on one of these forums that why would you need to say some of the most personal words of your life in front of a crowd? It only matters that you and FH hear them. So FH and I have agreed to do the traditional vows at the ceremony and then immediately after our photographer is going to pull us away for some private shots and we will exchange personal vows there. She will be shooting it with a long lens so we will have a totally private moment to share those special words.

I love public speaking but I feel awkward about my plan to have it all written in front of me. I'd rather be able to speak extemporaneously like I used to be so good at, but this is kind of a big deal and I don't want to forget anything.

I'm afraid I'm going to cry like a baby while saying my vows. I'm overly emotional all the time.. I'm a little nervous about being in front of everyone, but it's all our family and friends, not strangers.

At two days out I'm starting to be anxious about all of it.

We're doing traditional vows at the ceremony. Our pastor will prompt us line by line, which is calming FH's anxiety! We are writing notes though so we can say what we want to one another in a more private setting. ETA: Please don't worry too much about it! You're in front of your closest family and friends. Everyone in that room (hopefully) loves you and if you stumble over a word or too, it will be okay. You will still be married at the end of the day and you might even laugh about it one day!

I am NOT a fan of public speaking and all eyes on me, so I'm definitely anxious about the vows and even just walking down the aisle. Wooosaaaaaa!

Very anxious! FH loves public speaking (weirdo) and I absolutely hate it. I also hate being the center of attention. I get nervous even being a bridesmaid so I can't imagine what it'll be like when it's me walking down the aisle.

I am an anxious person and get nervous about speaking in front of a crowd, but our wedding is small and I am just trying to keep in mind that we will be in front of our happy friends and family. I will just focus on FH and I am sure it will all go smoothly! I totally understand where you are coming from though! ;-)

If you're really nervous about sharing such personal things with your guests, do what I'm doing!! We're doing the traditional vows and then saying our own personal vows to each other in private