Anyone else hate wedding planning?

I LOVED every moment of wedding planning. Then again, I was lucky enough to get hitched right before COVID hit. I'd probably have just been stressed and sad if I had to plan it now.

I hated it, too, which is one of the reasons we got married within 8 months of getting engaged. (The irony of me then loving wedding forums is not lost on me.)

I had been engaged once, before, and I realized a lot of vendors would ignore the groom, the ads and the expectations towards the bride were/still are condescending and often sexist (though they are getting better, thanks to marriage equality), and the "omg you have to have this" crowd drives me right up the wall and down the other side.

(I refer you to my previous irony statement.)

I love attending weddings, I loved our wedding, I will happily dance my shoes off at any wedding anyone invites me to... but the planning part is terrible. Stress, money, dropping your usual passions and hobbies to plan, family drama, friend drama, and the nightmares...

The most hilarious part to me?

...Our wedding went so well, and was so enjoyable, that my friends honestly asked me if I thought about becoming a wedding planner.

...I may have screamed and run away.

I had slightly different feelings... I've been planning events for the last 15 years of my career. So when it came to wedding planning it moved way to smoothly and I knew I didn't want a lot of frill, my FH and I are minimalist and prefer the more simple things.

A few weeks ago a friend reached out (we hadn't spoken since before covid) and she asked how planning through covid was going and I was like it's going, some stresses, but overall good - she's like of course it was - you've been planning for your wedding for years by doing all those events. That's when I realized how right she was. To me this is just another event. For the most part we're done, less putting together welcome bags which can't be completed until we reach our wedding destination.

So, I completely feel you, for me this process is just another work day but taking place outside of work. Fortunately my FH has been great and involved through most of the processes.

I’m with you. I’ve been in the wedding industry for 10+ years and most people would say to me “You probably KNOW the exact kind of wedding you want,” and my response was always “YES I DO!” I wanted the simplest, most low key wedding and I would always get looks of confusion lol. Granted I knew going in to it which professionals I had in mind. FH wanted a little more in terms of decor and choosing a theme which I was fine with. At the end of the day we only invited our immediate families and friends who are most important to us and we want to treat them well! Because honestly I see how so many couples get so fixated on “It’s about US!” And no it’s not all about us, it’s about the people we love and who brought us together so...this day is going to be just as much about them

You nailed it! We increased our headcount a little but it's still about US. I initially suggested elopement and my FH felt like he was taking away from the wedding I never got to have. I think it was really him, he's getting the wedding with the family and friends HE WANTS and not dictated by others.

You go girl!

OMG same!!! I NEVER wanted to get married as a girl because I had 3 brothers and boys were gross lol so I had NO IDEA what I wanted in a wedding. Now I can't stop changing my mind and regretting things. I have HATED wedding planning. The amount of money, time, and anxiety it takes is too much, not to mention the struggles COVID has added! I work full time as the only source of income between us (Fiance got furloughed...thanks COVID!) and am an essential worker (grocery chain warehouse) through this whole pandemic so it's been incredibly stressful as we haven't known if we are going to have to cancel. I want to plan as much as I can so our day is perfect and so that I can stop thinking about it but every time I pull up this app to see if I can cross some things off my checklist I get super panicky. The inspo I liked for my decor isn't going to work, I can't figure out my attire situation, none of the wedding party aside from my parents and brothers have bought their outfits, the venue keeps adding costs, my bridesmaids aren't responsive or helpful and I don't think anyone is throwing a shower or bach party for me which I really wanted to do...THERES JUST SO MUCH

I mean, I loved it until COVID came around, all the fun and excitement was taken out of it, and we had to postpone. I would love to go back to the days when finding vendors was the biggest struggle, lol.

YAY im not alone and either are you!

I was the same way. I have been with my fiance for 11 years before engaged. I knew i wanted to get married but could careless of how. There is so much to planning a wedding. I wanted to go to vegas and he wanted the big wedding. Than I got to the point of feeling alone wedding planning. Here we are a year engaged and a year out and now feeling overwhelmed as covid and staying in a budget is tough!