Anyone else getting less excited the closer you get?

I'm the same way so much is going on I just want my spouse at this point. August is not getting here any faster 😕

I totally get this! What I look forward to the most is our life together after the wedding. It hasn't been miserable planning a wedding but I don't exactly enjoy it either. I'm mostly excited about becoming his wife and spending time with all the people I love in this world in the same place. Everything else is so unimportant to me.

My weddding is a month away and I'm not excited. FHs parents sucked the fun out of the rehearsal dinner because they refused to give us a budget, but said everything was too expensive. At this point my mom booked it and said she'd pay for it. My maid of honor lost her mind and we hadn't spoken in months, so I got a new maid of honor. Old maid of honor sent a text saying what her robe size once (I asked months ago) and said she was gonna be in the wedding. I told her she could be a bridesmaid. I think the stress and foolishness of the wedding takes the excitement out it all. I'm sure the day of the wedding the excitement will be there.

You are not alone! I'm tired of planning things. FIL's have been...interesting and I don't have the energy to deal with their shady behavior. It's crazy because at first I was excited and I felt like no one cared. Now when people ask me I'm so over it lol! I don't want to make any more decisions lol! I am excited to be married to my love!

I was SO gung ho on everything wedding for like the first 9 months of our engagement. Then some drama broke out and completely squashed any excitement I had. Without going into a (long) story, my FH and one of my relatives got into a political disagreement on Facebook and it exploded. A lot of negative feelings about my FH came out. I really don’t care what my aunts and uncles think of him or me, but my mom apparently has an issue with him now too. She insisted that FH and I go out to dinner with her and her husband a couple of weeks ago and, well, it went poorly.

Needless to say, if we hadn’t already paid thousands of dollars to our venue, I’d cancel the whole thing and we’d elope cause I’m just done. FH and I have been together 11 years, so their opinion of him isn’t changing the fact that I love him with my whole heart.

So anyway, yeah, count me in as another who is NOT excited for her wedding.

View Quoted Comment I made a post a week ago about getting snippy with each other. We got into an argument over a garbage bag. Face meet palm

I'm just ready for it to be here and be done. I feel nervous about everyone having a good time and enjoying the food. Even though I know I have an amazing caterer and everything i'm still nervous that there will be someone that's not satisfied. My stress level has been through the roof but thank God for keeping me in my right mind.

on the other hand..I am so excited about marriage and starting a new chapter in my life with my boo. we can't wait to be married!

That's exactly how my FH feels, which is great, but it has made it a bit challenging when it comes down to deciding on details. For the most part, he doesn't have an opinion, and unfortunately I might be the most indecisive person on the planet...

So I was over wedding planning for a long time, especially after we booked our major vendors. I took a break from planning for a period of time, and now we're down to the grind. I'm a teacher so I'm not working right now, which means I have lots of time. It also means that there are nights when I lay in bed trying to sleep but can't because WEDDING!

Needless to say, I'm also very much ready to just be married. I have started to get excited again, though, since I just had my bridal shower, and my bachelorette is coming up in a few weeks. I also got emotional because my flower girl dresses just came in and my SIL sent me pictures of my nieces in their dresses. My brother is in the military so they move every few years, and I rarely get to see them. I'm so excited to have them there for my wedding day and for my nieces to be a part of it! One of my nieces even asked my SIL if the dress was her wedding dress

I think this is completely normal! I went through a period where I wasn't as excited about the actual day, I just wanted it to be over to I could be married. Part of me still feels that way, but now that I'm only 43 days out, the excitement is returning as things are coming together and I can picture the day.

Don't stress too much! People not in your position can easily say "I don't get it." I did it when my MOH was getting married- I kept asking her "are you excited?" and she would always tell me she was excited for it to be over, and I never understood until I began planning my own wedding.

I can't really say if it's normal or not lol. The first time I got married we did it almost 2 weeks after getting engaged(HORRIBLE IDEA). This time we eloped on 2/16/18 and are having the big wedding ceremony in Vegas on 10/27/18 with our friends and family and we are SUPER excited about it. So technically we are already married legally but still have the ceremony to look forward to. It is Vegas though so what's not to look forward to lol. We don't have to plan much since it's an all inclusive ceremony/reception so wedding planning isn't adding any stress to our lives.

It's normal. I feel exactly the same way! I'm ready for the wedding to be over and the marriage to begin!

I totally know the feeling. I go back and forth between excited and over it. Right now I'm over it and ready for it all to be done. I just honestly don't want to think about or get in another argument or discuss why someone wasn't invited anymore.

View Quoted Comment Wow, so sorry. We are slightly terrified politics will come up at the wedding and cause issues. We have very strong opinions on far left and far right that will be attending. Another issue, between bridesmaid and a guest, that may cause trouble ... It's been making it hard for me to enjoy this as much as I'd like to.

It's completely normal! I've hit a point where I want the planning to be done and for the day to be here. You hit a certain point where you've been planning for so long and been asked so often that you get numb to it. And stress is higher so you're not always going to get the warm fuzzies for each other. FH and I have fought about stupid things but I think we're stronger for it at the end of the day.

You're still excited to be married and so am I and so is everyone else here! That's the important thing at the end of the day.

Totally understand this. My mind has been in wedding mode since December and between down payments, conflicting schedules and everything in between, I now understand why people elope. Don't get me wrong, I am SO excited to marry my FH, but there has got to be an easier way to plan a wedding. I keep trying to tell myself it's literally one day of my life, who cares if something is out of place, but my other side comes out and wants everything to be absolutely perfect. Lol

Doesn't sounds like cold feet, sounds like wedding stress! I totally get this, as someone who was always so jealous of my older cousins when they were planning their weddings, and assumed it would be pure bliss the entire way through, I've been given such a harsh reality check with the actuality of wedding planning - I'm stressed more often than not, I've come to be irritated with a lot of our guests and/or feel they're irritated with me, I feel awkward talking about it (I hate the "are you excited" question because I never know what to say!), I'm not feeling confident about the wedding going smoothly (timeline headaches, worried guests will complain about driving to 2 separate locations, worried people will cancel at the last minute due to it being on a Friday and hearing a lot of "well, I should be able to get the day off...").

Anyway, I am totally 100% excited to be married, and I know I'll enjoy my wedding, but I honestly feel like I can't wait until there's about an hour left of the reception and everything's behind me and I can just breathe and enjoy!

I think that's definitely normal! We have a 12 month engagement total. The first 9 months were a breeze and I kept saying I didn't understand why people were so stressed about weddings. Now in the past month, I've been feeling really over it. Our lovely, well meaning family and friends are getting carried away with pre-wedding events. Trying to help but just overdoing it. I'm getting stressed. I have other stressors in my life right now that are making me less interested in the wedding. None of it has anything to do with FH, although I need to be better about not taking it out on him.

I've been finding that trying to plan date nights with FH helps a lot. Quiet, inexpensive things. It gives me a little more clarity.

Weddings are stressful on a relationship, just like many big life changes are. I was excited for the day to “be here” and then be married, but the weeks/months leading up to it, I was ready for the stress and planning to be over with. The week of, my excitement began returning, especially as my family came to town and I got my bridal mani/pedi. I was thrilled and overwhelmed with emotion on the day of.