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Anyone else getting less excited the closer you get?

Sarah, on July 4, 2018 at 3:59 PM Posted in Married Life 0 38

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I didn’t realize I wasn’t excited until a coworker asked me if I was and I said “I’m excited to BE married not to GET married” her response surprised me. We haven’t really LOVED each other’s company the past few months but she was really nice about it and said “okay. I can appreciate the difference. I would have to agree with you if I were in the same situation” I was expecting her to judge me and say I didn’t love FH. cause that’s the kind of conversations I’m used to with her.
Im excited for my wedding just not as excited as I expected to be. I’m more excited to be his wife. I feel like there’s nothing I can do at this point because everything that can be done this early is done and everything else has to wait until the week of (which is stressing me out because I feel like I’m forgetting something) I just want it to come and go.
Is this a normal feeling or does it sound like cold feet? My sister joked that it was cold feet and it made me feel insecure about it!

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Super September 2018
Kate · on July 4, 2018 at 4:02 PM
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I think it's normal. I've hit a point where I'm like uh I don't wanna plan anymore. I'm over it lol
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Dedicated November 2018
Whitney · on July 4, 2018 at 4:09 PM
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It feels normal! I am tired of talking about the wedding and the stress of the day (it seems like other people are much more worried about the details than we are), so I think I am just losing steam after planning for almost two years. I remind myself that feeling this way is ultimately good, because I'm more excited for my marriage than my wedding.
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Sarah · on July 4, 2018 at 4:11 PM
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My coworker asks me at least once a week what we are doing about food and what our song is going to be and to see my dress. I feel awkward talking about it because she isn’t invited so I’m usually the embodiment of the shrug emoji
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Super October 2018
Michelle · on July 4, 2018 at 4:22 PM
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I too have lost a lot of excitement for the wedding. I wish we had stuck with our original plan to elope. I, like you, am looking forward to being married. I want to be married and I am excited for the honeymoon. The wedding has been more stress than I care for (and it's small, only 9 people. Can't imagine how much worse it would be with more guests to worry about).

I say it's total normal and nothing to worry about as long as you are still excited for your FH to be your husband and you to be his wife.
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Sarah · on July 4, 2018 at 4:25 PM
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My wedding planning has been a mess. I’ll spare you the whole thing by just saying we started with 250 guests and are now down to 22 including bride and groom! Sooooo much happier with this decision
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Expert November 2018
Sarah · on July 4, 2018 at 4:26 PM
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People on here always say no one is as excited about your wedding as you are but I beg to differ! Everyone around me seems more interested in the planning than I am!!
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Jessica · on July 4, 2018 at 5:16 PM
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Second that!!
My coworkers beg me for input on which dress they should buy (!!), what color they should wear or not wear, if their husbands should wear a tux or a suit.. DUDE!! I just dont care 😂 go naked if you want 😂
The only thing I can say I loved doing was designing our invites and going for the tasting (free food ❤). Other than that, I really didnt love this at all
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Bianca · on July 4, 2018 at 5:41 PM
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It's a normal feeling! I'm the same way, just no excitement. I know I'll have a good time, but I'm not feeling the way I thought I would.
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Sarah · on July 4, 2018 at 5:46 PM
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I had a coworker literally ask me what I’m wearing under the dress! Why would she care?? Even I don’t care!!!
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Taryn · on July 4, 2018 at 5:48 PM
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I completely agree! The wedding will be special, but it's about being married that I'm counting down to and so excited for!! I was in EXACTLY the same situation the last 2ish months before the wedding, I had nothing to do except things I couldn't do yet!! Now I'm three days away and antsy to the utmost extent! I am having to find things to keep myself distracted from going crazy with anticipation
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Jessica · on July 4, 2018 at 5:56 PM
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Uh... Why? WHY???
My BMs are also supposedly looking for crazy diets to look good for the wedding, whereas I just came back from Christmas Tree Shops with 6 bags of chocolate *shrugs*
My standard answer for everything is "I dont care" 😂 and when they go "but you need to care" I just go "no I dont 😂 next!"
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Devoted August 2018
redhead · on July 4, 2018 at 6:12 PM
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I'm ready to be done planning! We are starting to get snippy with each other but we recognize it for what it is. I'm excited to see everything come together, finally! 30 days out!
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Super October 2018
Michelle · on July 4, 2018 at 6:31 PM
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That is a huge difference, but I am glad you are happier with it that way.
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Sarah · on July 4, 2018 at 6:44 PM
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Coworker: “are you wearing any shapewear?”
me: “nah”
c: “why? Don’t you wanna look skinny”
m: “I wanna look like me”
c: “how about bra? Are you wearing a bra?”
m: “nope.”
c: “how about underwear? Are you even wearing underwear??”
m: “dunno. Probably not”
like she was seriously so concerned. We should start a thread about the craziest things people have said/done that show they’re more excited than us. I have so many 😂😂
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VIP October 2018
Jessica · on July 4, 2018 at 7:01 PM
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Ohmygawd you cannot be serious 😂
Id be all "that's really none of your business" about it 😂
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Dedicated July 2018
Lisa · on July 4, 2018 at 8:05 PM
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I am ready to be married but not for the wedding. Over dealing with everybodies attitudes.
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Sarah · on July 4, 2018 at 8:07 PM
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Oh my goodness the attitudes! From people who don’t need to have one. Like I’m sorry are you funding this wedding in anyway? No? Then you can’t be upset that I’m not wearing a veil!
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Devoted August 2018
Laura · on July 4, 2018 at 8:12 PM
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I’m sort of at that point. Doing all this stuff and spending all this money for a single day. I’m ready for it to come and go. I’m looking more forward to the after. I think you’ve got normal feelings. Because I’m telling myself that too!
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Laura · on July 4, 2018 at 8:13 PM
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I got married at the end of May and I definitely hit this point a few times throughout the planning process. I was so exhausted (physically and mentally) 2-3 weeks before the day, I just wanted it to be over. I didn't feel excited anymore. (I even said as much as I was crying on the phone with my florist - she felt bad. It was a rough day.)
Good news is that by 3-4 days before the wedding, when I had everything pretty much done and some time off of work, my excitement returned. I woke up on the day 100% giddy and SO excited to marry my best friend.
As for your coworkers, I think you should continue to shrug. People have a lot of questions and comments (especially after the wedding, too) - so I'd just try to ignore it the best you can.
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Dedicated July 2018
Lisa · on July 4, 2018 at 8:15 PM
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My sister who is my MOH, has done nothing to help me ( which she isnt supposed to but it would be nice).Her SIL is actually tryng to plan a last minute bachelorette party because she wont do anything. All she does is complain aboit how much I am spending, what am i going to do with all the stuff after, etc. I just told her today what time to show up because she complained about having to help set up. The only thing she paid for is her dress. I bought my nieces dress, their shoes. I am paying for manis/pedis and makeup. I am a hairstylist so I am doing their hair. Along with getting them gifts. I am over it!
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