Anyone else feels like they want to elope

You are not alone!! With COVID and so much unknown, sometimes it's overbearing. I am also getting married in over a year but have thoughts about just eloping and celebrating with everyone else later.. While these thoughts sometimes cross my mind, I think I would ultimately regret it (especially if we are in a better state with the pandemic by the time my wedding date rolls around). I'm still going to have my wedding but definitely understand how you feel

Honestly, I'm at the point in wedding planning where the never ending anxiety is slowly killing me. God this wedding better be worth it, I just want people to RSVP for my wedding at this point. Im only one month away.

We had the same dynamic going into planning- I would have been content just going to Vegas with FH and a couple friends.. he wanted the wedding. So we compromised and are doing a small destination wedding. It’s the best of both worlds- he gets a “wedding” and I get the small, intimate guest list, and we all get to go somewhere fun! Maybe a small destination wedding would be a good option to consider- just you, FH, and a few good friends!

Then why not do that? What's making you hesitate?

View Quoted Comment My fiancé and our families want the big wedding

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With all the respect it's not about what your families want rather what you two want. Would your fiance be okay with an elopement with a large reception to follow afterwards or does he wants a big wedding? The fact of the matter is this I've noticed that women tend to be the ones that do the most of the planning and yes it's stressful and yes there are moments that are just so heartbreaking that you do just want to run out to the courthouse so I understand you there. Here's what I would do if I were you. I would Express to your fiance exactly how you feel and tell him that because he wants The Big Wedding you're willing to do it but that you need him to help out a lot more with the planning as it's becoming too much for you. That way he can either put up or shut up hahaha

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What your families want is pretty irrelevant (unless they are paying). But if your fiancé is demanding a big wedding and not working with you to plan it, that is a huge problem. I would have a serious discussion about effort and commitment and teamwork before doing any more planning.

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I'm not making fun of you (it's autocorrect!) but "aloe plant" instead of "elopement" might be my new favorite typo.

View Quoted Comment Aloe plant 😂😂

View Quoted Comment This a decision for you and fiance only. Parents don't get a say.

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Nah it is cool. My speak and text is the death of me. What I get for messaging while cleaning ha ha ha.

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Sigh my speak and text ruins me on the daily ha ha.

My fiance is planning with me but he is also doing the whatever you want card. I think I just want to be married and I am not being patient enough lol .

Yes ma'am. I'm hoping to do it. I thought wedding planning was more stressful than buying a home lol

View Quoted Comment As many people have mentioned in other threads, both of you need to provide input because it's not one person marrying themselves. Do not continue to actively plan until he contributes input and decisions. Give him choices on various aspects.