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Jess
Beginner February 2020

Anyone else doing anything different or straying from the traditional wedding route?

Jess, on September 7, 2019 at 8:48 PM Posted in Planning 0 35
Hey ladies!
My fiancé and I are not the traditional type. We are kind of doing our own thing that suits us for our wedding. I’m wearing a black wedding dress for starters lol. My mom wasn’t happy to hear that but I tried on 18 white dresses and I looked ridiculous in all of them! Black is definitely more “me.” I’m not doing a bouquet/garter toss either and We are going to walk in first after the ceremony so we can introduce the wedding party ourselves rather than have the DJ do it. Just little changes like that. Curious if anyone else is straying from tradition?

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Latest activity by Decemberbride, on October 6, 2019 at 6:52 PM
  • Jess
    Beginner February 2020
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    These are my dresses ($460 total). The plain black one is for ceremony and pictures. The lace one is for party time 😎🥳

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  • Megan
    Expert October 2019
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    Those dresses are GORGEOUS!

    I have a Champagne dress, but we arent doing a big cake. My FH and I are goofy, and we are buying a little 5" cake to smash in each others faces. I'm also not doing a bridal party dance. Instead I'm having a dance with my 1 year old, because hes a huge part my life. About 1 minute in, all the moms with young kids are welcome to join.
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  • Jess
    Beginner February 2020
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    I love that idea! Especially letting other moms join in. That’s awesome 👍🏼
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  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
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    My dress is tea length and a silver-grey color with different color greys in the skirt. We’re not having a bridal party at all, and are foregoing most of the traditional stuff. We’re having an elaborated cocktail hour for our reception with lots of cocktails and simple foods. No sit down dinner or seating chart for me! We really just want to have a really fun time and aren’t caring about any of the normal formalities.
    Oh and I love your dresses, especially the back of your ceremony dress!
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  • Yam
    VIP September 2019
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    I think my wedding’s a little off the beaten path.
    No bridal party.
    No walking down the aisle.
    No entrance period. Guests will show up and sit in a circle around us.
    No giving away the bride(my dad’s excited for the wedding but he doesn’t want to play a role).
    No traditional vows.
    No big white dress(mine is pink). I’ll be rockin’ my pink hair. I’m a faerie queen for a day!
    No DJ, irish band instead!
    No wedding traditions like bouquet toss or garter.
    No boutonnière(FH wants a lapel pin)

    We did keep first dance, dinner, dancing, favors and cake though!
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  • Monique
    Master December 2019
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    We are doing a Disney Christmas wedding. One of the unique things we will be doing is a lightsaber send off. We are also not doing a traditional Hispanic ceremony.
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  • Future Mrs. Danger
    Expert November 2019
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    I love that you are wearing black! I toyed around with the idea, but caved to all the opinions I got.
    We are not doing a garter or bouquet toss. No father daughter or mother son dance, either.
    We are skipping the cocktail hour and are letting people go straight from the ceremony to their tables and food.
    No send off either.
    The ceremony will be non religious.
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  • Jodie
    Expert August 2020
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    We're straying a bit from a traditional wedding.
    Ours will be a laid back, casual affair. I'm wearing a regular wedding dress. But it's going to be a quick fun ceremony. A fun reception with lawn games, board games, cards, dice.. Etc. No dj but a friend is going to sing and play his guitar for part of the night with an iPod playlist for the rest. No tosses, no dollar dance, no parent dance... No Grand entrance or exit no toasts... Just hanging out and celebrating with my closest friends and family. We're both pretty introverted people so a big formal to do was not our thing. We don't want the stress and pressure if a big formal affair.
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  • Kayla
    Savvy October 2019
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    Hi! Love the ideas. We are skipping the garter and bouquets toss. We aren’t saving the whole top tier of our cake, just a couple of slices. Seems practical and kinda wasteful to save a whole tier. No money dance (people were I’m from do it) and no bridal party dance. Rehearsal dinner is going to be more casual. I’m not sure if these count as breaking tradition but these are just some ways we are doing different.
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  • Clarissa
    Savvy May 2021
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    My wedding date is a ways out, but we have a pretty good idea of what we want to. So as for venue, we will have a hotel ceremony and reception. I will wear a white dress but I really want to put another color (an accessory; maybe like a sash around the dress) with the wedding dress just to personalize it a little bit, no veil or anything like that I prefer like a headpiece of some sort. No garter toss, no bouquet toss, no wedding march (we don't always like to be the center of attention) I thought about maybe the wedding shoe game for a filler instead. We will probably only do a small cake for us, but for the guests we will do cupcakes, but we decided on a hotel wedding because after a night of drinking and partying people can just go up to the room and pass out and not have to worry about calling a cab or uber of some sort. We did a hotel wedding because a lot of things are already provided for you. I guess I am straying from tradition a little bit.

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  • Amber
    Just Said Yes November 2019
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    Black dress- so unique!! For us, no bridal party, no garter/bouquet toss, & cupcakes instead of a massive cake. Basically, it’s YOUR wedding- do what you want!!
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  • Devoted July 2019
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    I love your dress, you look gorgeous! I didn't do a traditional either. My dress was champagne gold, no entrance at the reception, and no bouquet/garter toss.
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    I love your dresses!!! I’m planning on wearing a black dress as well. My mother also wasn’t happy to hear that lol But I literally own NOTHING white and never have. My wardrobe is (and has been since I was about 15) 90% black. So I dont know why this is such a surprise to her LOL Have you decided whether you will wear a veil?
    Aside from the black dress, we are definitely not having a “traditional” wedding. We are going to have a destination wedding in New Orleans. We are not having a wedding cake, but are instead going to have New Orleans bourbon bread pudding and flambéed bananas foster. No garter toss or speeches. And also no DJ. We will be having a string Quartet for the ceremony and we will be making an MP3 of the music we would like played over the restaurant’s sound system during our reception dinner. Then we will be hitting bourbon street to party the night away!
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  • Jess
    Beginner February 2020
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    Wooo! Glad I’m not the only bride in a black dress lol I’m not wearing a veil. I’m still debating on a DJ to be honest. I know it’s a lot easier if I do but they are sooo expensive. It’s just as easy to make a playlist and rent a speaker 🤷🏻‍♀️ So still have to decide on that. I think we might leave it open to anyone who wants to make a toast or speech. I’m not gonna force anyone to speak but if they want to they are more than welcome to.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
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    I love your black lace dress!!! 💜
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
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    For our DW, we had a Pirates of the Caribbean reception in a wine cave in Napa. A lot of cool pirate decor, including skeletons. We changed into pirate outfits and had a strolling accordionist who dressed up as a pirate for us. So much fun. 🏴‍☠️ No wedding party, garter/bouquet toss, or DJ. Just a loud dinner party.

    For our local reception, we did a swanky early 60’s theme and asked guests to dress up. We had a big band & Frank Sinatra impersonator. Local receptions can be casual but ours was formal with drinks, dinner & dancing.

    Love both events. Very us.
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  • Amanda
    Master December 2020
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    Definately, a black dress sounds gorgeous! We aren't having religion, garter toss, bouquet toss, etc
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  • Devoted August 2021
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    How are you avoiding the whole entrance into the reception? I’d love to do away with that myself.
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    We got to the banquet at 5pm to see how the vendors set up the banquet then our guests started arriving at 6pm for cocktail hour. We greeted our guests by the door and just mingle with them.
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    Beginner July 2019
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    Our wedding was totally untraditional, mostly. I wore a black cold shoulder dress that I got at torrid about 1 1/2 years ago. I did not do a to or anything like that. We did a door talk (even though we had both seen each other in our wedding outfits when we bought them) I made my own headpiece and it was almost all handmade, it made everything so much more special.

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