Anyone else dealing with a jealous "friend"? (or dealt w/ it in the past..)

Yes. Some people allow their own insecurities to come through when they wish they had what you have. It's sad that they can't put their own issues aside to feel happy for you. In general, you will find during the wedding planning process that the true colors of people around you coming through.

You never know what she's dealing with in her relationship. Try to be understanding; she may feel awkward because they don't have a date yet. Maybe limit what you say to her about the wedding. You just never know what someone might be experiencing so give her the benefit of the doubt.

I have someone that i can tell is jealous and her sister has told me she said she is. Every time i post something about FH or cowboys on FB she has to post a pity poor me i want a country boy post or when she is dating someone that she considers a country boy she has to post it(her version of a country boy is a beer gut,has guns and no job). She has been trying get married before me but she runs every guy off by talking i love you and i want a baby with you in the first week of dating because she is looking for a father for the kid she already has.

Also you never know what is going of with someone behind closed doors.

There are going to be people like that. Even though we announce in 10 days, FH told his best friend already. All summer his friend's girlfriend and I chatted back and forth and got along famously. As soon as he told his friend that we were moving in together with marriage as the goal, I haven't heard from her. I know she means no harm, but she's been in her relationship for a while and known him a long time before that, so it's gotta be uncomfortable for her. My FH is the guy they all thought would never get married or move in with someone and now he's following his heart and doing both, and we met this year. I don't fault her, but I know that I won't bother her with my 24 hour wedding brain or expect her to be psyched either. Just see her at the parties.

Yes!! I actually had a similar situation. I have a friend who had been dating her boyfriend for over four years (one year longer than FH and I). We had always had girl talk about wanting our boyfriends to propose and looking forward to it, and about how they are the perfect men for us. Then, a month before I got engaged, she found out her boyfriend had been cheating on her for 6 months. She became extremely bitter, and was the only friend not to respond to my "I'm engaged!" text bomb. She responded a week later (unlike her). I feel very bad for her situation, because it is really crappy, but I have felt like she has been nasty about my wedding (making crude comments about the things I'm picking, talking badly behind my back, asking me excitedly if FH and I had been fighting about wedding plans, wanting me to say bad things about FH, etc.) Awkward! It is especially bad since this happened almost a year ago, and she is still very angry. I think you just have to take the high road!

Kinda, with FH's ex.

As soon as she caught wind he's getting married, she starts going on and on to the BM about how he just HAS to come walk her down the aisle at her wedding.

He asked when it was - she said there wasn't a date. Turns out, she's not even engaged yet all this wedding talk suddenly came out of the blue - everyone there at the time said it screamed jealousy.

However, the girl in your situation is a friend so i'd say try and socialise with her without bringing up the wedding. It might give you an idea of if her behavior is down to something in her relationship or the fact you're getting married.

If it's your wedding - there isn't a whole bunch you can do if she's not willing to put her own annoyance aside to even congratulate you.

Im on the same track, one of my best friends, she is the older of our group, our youngest friend was the first one to have her real wedding, after she got married we would talk about how exciting and how bad we wanted to have a real wedding, so she said quoting " I will be the next one from our group", once she realized that i was engaged she acted like was happy and everything but then she started saying things like dont make me spend too much money because I already did, (she helped with flowers and bach party for our friend) I told her the only thing that u have to pay for is your outfit im not asking for any help, if you want to I def. appreciate it but im not demanding your help the only reason why I asked her is because we were super closed, well after that shes been super distant, even inviting our girls over but no me :/ im reaching a point which i just want to fire her

I have a friend who's like that, but there was another occasion that she used as an excuse to become distant. Her angry email was all about FH though and how I never spend any time with her anymore. Bottom line is that we never really spent that much time together to begin with - so I don't really see what her point is...I'm inviting her to the wedding anyway - although I don't think she'll come.

Hey Poppet! We're date twins! YAY!

Not gonna lie, I was that girl earlier this year. My FH has a best friend, Joe, who started dating his girlfriend about two years after FH I started dating. They got engaged (surprise for everyone) in April, 3 months before us, and I lost it. It came along with the fact that I moved in with FH a year before, expecting a ring soon after and it didn't happen. It was also really really hard to hold my disappointment in when I was around FH. It was hard for me to be happy for them for a month or so until I got over it....it just came out of nowhere. The sucky part was the FH WAS planning to propose all along, and because ours came soon after theirs, there was suspicion that I pushed him into because of them (which wasn't the case at all, it was just crappy timing). It's just hard to see someone get what you've been dying for so much quicker than you. But, its all good now and they are awesome people, so I couldn't stay mad for long.

Kristen how very open of you! I do have a friend like this, but jealous for a different and stupid reason. However, I don't take it personally as I guess it is human nature. Try to be understanding and sympathetic. I wouldn't take it personally.

My younger sister got really jealous. She has been with her boyfriend for over 3 years and they are on and off (I had only dated my bf 6 months before we got engaged). She posts on fb how happy they are and how much she loves him, but they get into big fights all the time. A week before I got engaged, she was talking about leaving her boyfriend. When I got engaged she asked my other sisters if it was a joke and she was supposed to be next. She was being mean and talking about me behind my back. I ended up talking to her about it. I said I really wish she was happy for me. I said I understand that it is hard for her, but she means so much to me and is there anything I can do to be more sensitve to her. She apologized and said that she is happy for me, she is just frustrated with her boyfriend. Like what is taking him so long to propose to her. Since we talked about it, she has been very happy and supportive.

There is this girl in our circle (not really a friend, but always present) that has been in a relationship with my bestfriend's brother for like 6 years. It's been very on again off again and she is very obsessed with him. He's made it clear from the beginning that marriage and kids aren't something he wants, but she's waiting anyways. Everyone knows they won't get married until she "accidentally" gets knocked up. Well, his sister just got married and she was a huge green-eyed monster, but caught the bouquet so she was sure she'd be next. She's not. Me and FH have been friends for about 4 years, but have only been together for a year and he proposed.

Poor girl is losing it.