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Anyone else care to back out?

Jacqueline, on August 10, 2020 at 3:00 PM Posted in Planning 0 12

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Wasn’t really sure which group to post in but here goes. I have a “bridal chat” set up w my girls and just recently took note I haven’t been hearing seeing any comments/suggestions from her. So I sent her a pm asking if she still cared to be a part of our wedding seeing as she and her hubby had concerns when Covid first made its appearance, if you will. Following is her reply:
God is so good!!!! I went to bed praying about thIs & I wake up to your message 🥰 The 5 of us will not be at the wedding.....It was a really hard decision as a family and me being in the bridal party!! Olivia also will not be doing make up!! This is such a crazy time & i’m so sorry to hear guests are also canceling!!! It’s such a special day and I know u two will make it perfect no matter who is there & what obstacles u face!! In 2 weeks u will be Mrs Morgan.....I have your “something blue” I had specially made for you and u will love it!!
What IF I Had never text her? Was she just gonna be a “no show”? And now to find a makeup artist because her daughter won’t be doing it for us. NOT today satin!!

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Legend June 2019
Melle · on August 10, 2020 at 3:02 PM
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I would think that she probably would have told you though eventually but better that you found out overall
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Jacqueline · on August 10, 2020 at 3:08 PM
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We get married on the 21 of this month. Not sure what she was waiting for, unfortunate that the virus isn’t going anywhere, it’s here for awhile. I guess that is what’s nerve racking to me the most is the fact we know things aren’t getting better so why wouldn’t you have backed out 6 wks ago? But less than a 2 week notice.......
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Melle · on August 10, 2020 at 3:11 PM
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I’m in a bridal party right now and the bridal shower bachelorette weekend is two weeks away and the other two bridesmaids haven’t decided yet if they’re going. They just wanted to see how the situation changes and how things are for them since they are essential workers they don’t want to risk other people. So they said they don’t want to make a choice about attending yet til closer to the date. Which does kind of suck cause we need a plan B in case but it is what it is unfortunately. It sucks but given the circumstances now things can change even if they say yes, ya know?
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Jacqueline · on August 10, 2020 at 3:23 PM
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Yes, we totally understand. Those that want to be there with us..... will be there.
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Michelle · on August 10, 2020 at 3:34 PM
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That’s just horrible! I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Time to go on the search for a makeup artist!
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Lisa · on August 10, 2020 at 3:36 PM
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I'm so sorry you're going through this! It sounds like she was either undecided on whether she should back out, or maybe it was that she just didn't know how to tell you. I'd like to think that she would have said something eventually, and she took your message as a sign that it was time to say something. It's unfortunate that she waited until so close to your wedding, it would have been a lot better if she said something sooner, but at least she did say something. Like Melle said, it may have been because she was waiting to see if the situation would improve before making a final decision. I hope you're able to find a new makeup artist! With all of the weddings being postponed, you might have an easier time than normal finding someone to do makeup. Best wishes!
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Marcia · on August 10, 2020 at 4:16 PM
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I think she should have told you at least that she was concerned a lot earlier. At the very least she should help look for another makeup artist. I know these conversations are hard (I had one with a friend about not going to her destination wedding that hurt a lot), but adults exprwss themselves prompty, directly, and considerately. She owed you a phone call a month ago.

That said, nothing to do now but move on.
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Kristen · on August 10, 2020 at 4:41 PM
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I would honestly be more mad about the make up piece because it will be hard to find someone now. I get what you mean but I also understand the pp...these are crazy times and maybe people do not want to make quick decisions until they know.
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Margaret · on August 10, 2020 at 5:30 PM
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I’m so sorry! I hate when people / friends are like that. Sadly, better late than not telling you at all.
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Amanda · on August 11, 2020 at 4:58 AM
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It’s totally understandable that people will cancel, even the bridal party. What’s not okay is your bridal party and makeup artist cancelling on you last minute. They were aware of the virus for months and have known for a couple of months that things weren’t improving. I’m betting if you hadn’t messaged her, she would have waited a couple of days before the wedding to cancel. I’ve been very forward with all my wedding party and vendors, they’ve had plenty of chances to back out. I would probably stop talking to anyone who last minute decided to drop out and screw me over.
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Jacqueline · on August 11, 2020 at 5:04 AM
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Yes Amanda you hit the nail right on the head. Everyone can cancel out, not the issue here but the time frame she chose of doing so that is. It’s all good and @ $99 per person she saved is a bit of money too. LoL trying to find humor w our situation..... appreciate your reply
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Kate · on August 11, 2020 at 9:01 AM
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How frustrating. Who knows when she would have told you if you hadn’t messaged her. I’ve been dealing with similar situations, lots of no replies and people thinking about coming and then having to do the leg work to reach out myself and check in. It shouldn’t be what you have to deal with. I wish people would just be up front! Best wishes to you... you’ll find a makeup artist and things will go off without a hitch! ❤️
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