Anyone doing silent vows?

I've never heard of this.

Personally, I wouldn't have invited my entire family and friends to my wedding if I didn't want them to hear me profess my love and recite my vows. Seems like you could just have a private ceremony with just you if that is the case...

Did they really whisper? Or maybe there was no microphone? Not trying to be funny, but I'm 100% with Analy===> why would you invite everyone just so that they could see (and not hear) you get married?

If you're not too keen on reciting private info, recite something you feel more comfortable with and send him a hand-written letter on the morning of your wedding.

I don't see the point. The whole reason people have ceremonies is so that their loved ones can watch and hear them pretty much.

I've been to a few weddings where it almost seemed like they were whispering as ssailingnurse said. The officiant has a microphone but the bride and groom don't so unless you're sitting upfront, you can't hear them.

I see the point of having everyone be able to hear the vows. I think that is what just about everyone expects to happen. I really do like the idea of writing our own vows. While I respect traditional vows, I would rather have something that is personal.

@Sailing haha No they were definitely 'silent' in that they were whispering them to each other. I am spacing on what religious tradition they follow but that was one of their practices.

Oh, and if we were to do decide on this, we would definitely let our guests know what was happening.

Weird. honestly, if I was a guest, I would feel a little "put off". I drive all the way here to just see them whisper in eachothers ears? I dont get it. :-/

I attended a Catholic wedding in a big cathedral. The priest was mic'd, but turned it off when the B&G said their vows (which I thought was strange). Even tho I was seated up front, I couldn't hear what they said to each other.

When I officiate a wedding, I say the vows softly so that on videotape they can make it sound as tho the B&G are saying them w/o prompting from me. If the B&G want guests to hear to the vows, THEY can speak loudly or be mic'd. If there is a hand-held mic, I'll hold it in front of the B&G as they speak.

Maybe go with the traditional vows for the ceremony. If you want to have private vows to each other, make a few minutes between ceremony and reception where the two of you can have a private moment (or one captured on film!) where the two of you can say vows from the heart that are meant for just the two of you.

The point of a marriage ceremony is to publicly make a commitment to eachother. The people who are present at the ceremony (traditionaly) are supposed to hold you accoutable to the public vow that you have professed.

I don't think it's anyone else's business what my fiancé and I vow to each other on our wedding day. He's super socially shy and doesn't want to read our self written vows in front of a crowd of people. We're going to give each other letters as part of the ceremony and exchange them during. Our officiant will ask us if we accept our vows to each other then we'll continue with rings. The day is for the couple being married and should be what you're comfortable and happy with.

View Quoted Comment I agree with you 100%. I have really bad anxiety but would love for both of our families to be there to witness this huge milestone in our lives. Not everyone is comfortable with speaking in front of people. I feel that on OUR wedding day, we should do what makes us comfortable. Everyone else should feel honored to be a part of it.

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This is a 10 year old thread, but actually your guests are honouring you by attending the ceremony. That's why the reception, to thank them for caring enough to witness your vows.