Anybody regretting canceling their wedding?

I feel you, but I will also say comparison is the thief of joy. While some couples are still having large weddings, there are some that are (very) unfortunately also contracting COVID-19 along with some of their guests or just plain uncomfortable with money spent or not feeling 100% safe. Everyone should be able to enjoy their day, but we are all learning how to bend a bit these days. I will say my dear, better to bend now than break.


Focus on the love you share. Focus on the forward steps and progress you've made and will make together. Focus on the fun you'll have in your marriage. Focus on the family and friends that support you. Focus on faith to keep you going.
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I’m sorry you are feeling this way, it sucks. But I agree with your FH, stop focusing on others actions, focus on your big day. If you keep focusing on others you will only feel worse day over day because you will constantly wonder “what if” - you both sat down, made an informed decision and as harsh as this sounds have to live with that choice.


My FH always gets on me when I stress or get indecisive about something and says, “make a decision, just go with it. If it didn’t pan out, oh well. Don’t focus on the shoulda, coulda, woulda”
He’s right, I hate to admit it. Make your new day the day you wanted in October, be solid and confident in your choice, I promise you made the right decision at the right time.

Every state and county is different. It is very hard seeing what is allowed in some places. I'm sure you made the right decision for your situation.

We rescheduled ours from November 2020 to November 2021. Zero regrets.

He's right. You did what was right for you as a couple. No regrets. It's a hard decision to make but my feeling is better to be safe than sorry. For us, nothing is worth risking our loved ones health.

I dont think you should have any regrets because honestly anything can happen between now and October. I also postponed my October wedding but its honestly been a relief because now I'm not stressing on "will it happen or will it not". Plus maybe next year you will be able to have all your guests rather than worrying who will be comfortable coming. I think you made the right decision! 🙂

Think how you would feel if you had gone ahead with the huge one... and some of your loved ones suffered because of it.

Some of those going ahead are going to have to face that probability, even if you never hear about them.

You did the right thing for yourselves and the people you care about.

Congrats!! We’re former date twins and postponed from 10/10/20 to 10/30/21. I have relief but no regrets. I’m actually still very excited and feel that it will be worth the wait. We pushed the ceremony and reception all to the new date to avoid having everything all spaced out and months apart. So, on 10/10, we’re doing a weekend getaway instead. I loved our “perfect” 10/10/20 date because it was cute. But now that we postponed, our new date feels more meaningful and has a story behind it. So, nope.... no regrets!

We postponed our April wedding to September and just today learned we have to cut the list down to 50 due to our region. Nothing is promised, but I personally regret postponing and not just having a small wedding in April. I think get off of WW for a while and Pinterest too. It helped me when I postponed.

I’ll just post this here...
https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/covid-19-wedding-guests-san-francisco-california-coronavirus-a9640996.html

View Quoted Comment This is exactly what my uncle sent me a few hours ago. Knowing we could control a gathering, didn't, and then family and friends potentially have to suffer, have to travel, etc. because of it? We want them healthy, safe, and well more than we want them there for a few hours even at such a significant celebration.

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You’re thinking of others putting them first before your own selfishness...that’s important. We postponed too. It was too stressful trying to come up with ways to make it safe for everyone. We finally realized it just wasn’t safe and we do not want to put anyone at risk.

I get a bit jealous but then see the articles written about those weddings and how the bride and groom got sick. Or relatives got sick and people died from getting sick from the wedding and it makes me glad we made the right choice not only for us but the safety of our guests.

I think it's hard to not compare yourself to others during something like this. We plan on moving forward with our October wedding and just making it clear that we completely understand if our guests are uncomfortable attending such a large event with the current happenings. That being said, it is disheartening to see so many people cancelling their events and it has caused me to question myself a bit. At the end of the day, you have to make a decision and roll with it! Don't second guess yourself. Whenever you DO have your wedding, I'm sure it will be beautiful!

This popped up in my feed again and it made me think… This can actually go both ways. I’ve read where some couples wanted to cancel their wedding but their venue didn’t allow it. So they had to move forward with a wedding that included fewer guests and other restrictions that they did not desire. They would rather have canceled but ended up having to go through with the wedding “as is“. So, I can imagine, some of those couples feel a certain way about others who were easily able to cancel and reschedule. These are tough times overall but we have to make the best of it. Heck, I bought myself a second dress to change into at the reception, after dinner. That was not my plan but I considered it a “postponement present” to myself. I’m also adding a few additional details since our date changed. But either way, all of our weddings are going to be fabulous regardless.