Anybody getting married for the second(or more) time?

This is my 2nd and his first. I had a baby at 18 and was pressured into "doing the right thing"at age 20 by family. He was emotionally abusive and cheated 6 months after the wedding. I stayed because I found out I was expecting again, but soon realized that I was worth more and not setting a good example for my girls by staying. I learned so much from the experience and I think it really made me appreciate what a good man I have now. I am so much more excited about this wedding than I was the first time around. This time though it is so much more about the emotions and committment for me than it is about trying to have the biggest and the best.

@ Karen, I think your cliche` is true

Hattie, I posted a similiar question not that long ago, my story is on page 1 (took too many posts to repost here).

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/for-how-many-of-us-is-this-second-third-fourth-etc-wedding/f0d04727811ad7bd.html

And Hattie, your right- NO ONE should determine whether you get future happiness. That's too much power to give someone else, who is probably not worth our time ro begin with, over our lives.

@Hattie... I thought I was reading my own words. I was in an abusive marriage for 15yrs. The only good thing(s) that came out of it were my three boys. I waited 7 yrs didnt date much and tried to find me. Now I am 334 days out and ready to marry my true love. A real Man a Sweet and Sincere Gentleman. I cant wait till I'm his Misses.

Phyllisann M- I was also in an abusive marriage. 16 years and 3 boys. Fortunately, I met up with my now-hubby on Facebook. We have known each other since 7th grade and were best friends through high school. I'm glad you found yourself a wonderful man who will treat you right. We ALL deserve that!! (And now I appreciate it!)

@Jennifer. Its amazing how much I appreciate it. Even when FH makes me mad...I feel stupid. His little faults are nothing compared to the X( I like to call him a sperm donor) I am so glad you found happiness and the love you deserve.

My second, his first. Like many previous posts, I, too, was in a bad 1st marriage that lasted WAY too long, mostly because I was too stubborn to give up and I thought it was my responsibility to 'fix' him. Now 'him' is in jail through his own devices; and I have a chance at true happiness! To a guy that's MUCH better! But I didn't have a real wedding: just in front of a J.O.P - no ceremony, reception, honeymoon, cake, flowers, nothing. This time I'm gonna do it right; and while the process has been heinous, it's going to be worth it, I think.

But a strange new development: he's getting jitters about being married, and I don't know what to say to him, as I've already done that part before. What I"M worried about is the the wedding - the part that I haven't done before. I've talked to him about this lots already, trying to get to the heart of the matter, but I feel like I just can't connect because i"m not experiencing the same concerns he is. Any suggestions, ladies?