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There were a few shots I wish I had gotten, but the reality is so much is going on before and during the wedding it’s impossible to get 100%. I either forgot to put it on the list or everyone didn’t always rally how I wanted and there just wasn’t enough time. I am thrilled with the shots we did get. There are tons of great ones and I am content with those. Plus I think about women who aren’t getting any shots they want because of the pandemic or because their photographer turned out to be unreliable. It makes me value my photos so much more.

I think it is very normal to miss shots you would have liked to have. Daughter received over 1100 edited shots from her wonderful photographer, and there are still things she didn't get.... It's possible the photographer might have taken some of those, but that the images weren't great. I know daughter's photographer claims he generally takes between 6-8 times as many photos as he provides final edited photos (so that means he potentially went through more than 8000 images when editing down to the 1100+ he sent her...). A lot of those might have been to test the lighting and/or were multiple shots of the same pose or group, and he chose the best of that bunch for final editing. It's also possible the couple forgot to tell the photographer they wanted something specific and in the blur of the day no one thought of it. Daughter gave her photographer a lengthy shot list, and at his request, she had my two sisters lined up as "photo wranglers" to help make sure the right people were in the right planned photo groupings. Even so, there was stuff, both on the list and not, that was missed. It's disappointing, but like a pp mentioned, try not to dwell on what you don't have and focus on all the beautiful photos you do have. (If it hasn't been too long, you could potentially contact your photographer and ask if there are additional photos they didn't provide to you. It doesn't hurt to ask.) Good luck!

Absolutely. for me i love how my photos turned out but i was so pressed on time that i forgot to do some poses such as i had a sign i wanted us to take photos with but i forgot about it and i would have liked to get some solo shots with each bridal party member, etc. but that's ok at the end of the day as long as you got some really nice photos out of it in general.

YES. My anniversary is tomorrow and I still have regrets about some photos we didn’t get.



Honestly the only way to deal with it is to shut out those negative thoughts. I don’t think any bride has ever gotten EVERY photo they wanted. Your photos captured your day as it was, and there’s nothing you can do to redo that, so it’s best just to remind yourself of the photos you DID get, and shut out those negative thoughts.

Another thing I did recently that actually helped A LOT was framing the photos that made me feel better about the ones we did get. For example... My main things that I was upset I didn’t get photos of were: more photos of just me (there aren’t that many), more posed photos of me and my husband, and a nuclear family photo that includes my uncle (we got one with my mom, brother, and grandparents, and then another with the WHOLE family, but didn’t include my uncle in the smaller one). What I had been previously doing was every time I was upset about one of these things, scrolling through all 3,000 photos trying to see if there was a photo I missed or something (of course there wasn’t, and the realization would upset me more). What I did a couple weeks ago instead, was used a little collage frame to frame my favorite photo of just myself from the wedding, along with one of my favorite posed photos of me and my husband (and a photo of just my husband). And I also framed a non-wedding photo of my nuclear family that includes my uncle (it’s from our Memorial Day barbecue which was a week before our wedding). Honestly, I feel SO MUCH BETTER after doing these things. It’s hard to be sad about not having certain photos, when I’m looking at these lovely framed photos that I DO have, all day every day.

Maybe try framing some of your favorites with your bridesmaids? Or any others that you ARE happy with? I swear it helped me so much!!!

There were definitely pictures I wanted and had on my list for the photographer that we didn't get. I still get sad about them sometimes but I look at the rest of them and I still have such joy with the ones we did get that it kind of cancels it out.