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Jmz
Expert July 2022

Anybody else feel fed up with general negativity in others?

Jmz, on April 17, 2022 at 4:53 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 9
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I'm sorry to say this isn't entirely wedding related, but just something that's been bugging me more and more lately. I grew up with a hyper critical parent, so I've done some really work to unlearn all that. And now somehow I see so often unnecessary negativity coming from others around me. Just hyper critical and things are never good enough, even just silly things like I loved and recommended a movie to somebody and they said the acting was so bad they had to stop watching. Or being honest with a friend about a goal I'd like to make at work and they only respond with how hard it is and with skepticism, even though I know they do lip service saying they support me at other times. Or friends who want to make snide comments about others they don't even know... it's so exhausting!!! Not to say I never complain or don't poke fun, but I really don't enjoy seeing so many around me choosing to see things in a negative light. Maybe it's because I know it takes work to make that switch if it's what you're used to--but makes such a difference in your life! 😊 The more you look on the bright side the more you see that's good. But unfortunately negativity is contagious, so I have to work so hard to stay away from it and it seems to be from everyone. 🙈 sorry for the rant!!

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Latest activity by Kristen, on April 18, 2022 at 8:43 AM
  • Mrs.evans
    VIP October 2022
    Mrs.evans ·
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    Well honey in this world that we live it will come around some how but we have the choice to listen to it or do nothing. Just keep what your doing and stand clear if you can
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  • Grace
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    Yup. Keep that positivity going as much as you can. "Your focus determines your reality"
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  • Kristen
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    It sounds like you, my dear, are leveling up. Spend the time with the more positive people in your life and limit the time with the negative ones.
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  • Bird
    Super June 2021
    Bird ·
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    I HEAR YOU!!!!!! At my job I am a part of a 4 person team. 2 of them are insanely negative. I have to just smile and nod when we’re chatting and catching up. I can’t say anything because no matter what I say they will come back with a negative comment.



    Then I have two best friends who live in different states but we text everyday. Very negative. I go back and forth about whether or not I should even be friends with them. Ultimately, they are there for me when I am going through a crisis or if I need to complain and they will help me if needed. So I take what they say with a grain of salt.

    I think the fact that you wrote this post and are having these thoughts means that you have leveled up (as a previous poster mentioned) and I honestly don’t think you have much danger of slipping into their negativity. Good luck 🍀
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  • Jmz
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    Jmz ·
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    Thank you Monique, yeah we can choose not to feed into it ❤️
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  • Jmz
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    Totally agree, need to keep the positive ball rolling 👏
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  • Jmz
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    Thanks for saying that, we all know it's hard when it's people we're supposed to be the closest with. It sometimes feels like, because a friend isn't having a good time at work and they see me doing well, they can't help but have it affect them. I want to be patient and see them through it, but it's not fair either.
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  • Jmz
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    That's so rough. Our situations are so similar. I guess we have to see our friends for where they are on their journey, and whether we can accept that. I know no one person can give you everything, but finding every opportunity to make some disapproving remark towards anyone/anything is such a bad trait and hard to interact with. I'm sure we can do better!! ❤️💪
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  • Kristen
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    Of course you want to be their for your people, and that is fine. Im sure you’re a really good friend and show up for your people when it matters most. Just remember that you are not responsible for anyones happiness except your own.
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