Any significance of having a bridal party?

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Yes, this.

Not sure if this helps, but I never planned on having one to begin with. It makes it so much stressful and more expensive, especially because our friends are from all over (Seattle, Iowa, D.C., you name it). Our wedding and other events are extremely small. As long as you explain why and not a lot of money is invested in the bridal party already, I imagine they will likely understand!

I read both of your posts and I don’t think it makes a lot of sense. If you don’t want to have a bridal party anymore, then don’t. But you can’t blame it on the virus.
My wedding is May 2nd, everything big has been cancelled and now we’re getting married at home with just our parents and my brother. I wish all our guests and my bridal party could be there but they actually can’t. By law.
You rescheduled your wedding. That implies that you’re having the exact same wedding just at a later date. Why would you want to kick the bridal party out? And how are they more stress? You asked them for a reason. You didn’t cancel your wedding, you didn’t change to a tiny venue with different circumstances. You postponed. I think it’s tacky and just not very nice to your so called friends.

View Quoted Comment Andrea, I’m not sure you read my posts if this is the response in which you have to offer. I think you’re venting YOUR frustrations of not being able to have a bridal party on me. You did not answer any of the questions that I posed, but instead decided to call what I’m thinking of doing “tacky”. I’m not asking your opinion of whether It’s tacky or not, but gaining clarity on what their role would be and if I would be missing out on something not having a bridal party.

View Quoted Comment Thank you, Taylor. They haven’t spent a penny on the wedding so I feel like this would be the best time. And yes, they would definitely be understanding as this is a stressful season for many people with the virus. Your response was helpful. I just wanted to make sure i wasn’t missing out on anything by not having a bridal party.

View Quoted Comment I’m not frustrated. I’m happy to be getting married and to have amazing friends to support me whether they are still able to be bridesmaids or not.
YOU asked people to be in your bridal party and now are cutting them ok. Tacky. Don’t ask for opinions on a public forum if you don’t want them.
You’re not asking about the significance of a bridal party, you already have one. You’re trying to make yourself feel better for kicking them out. Have a bridal party, don’t have a bridal party, whatever you want. But DON’T have a bridal party and then kick them out. 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🙄

View Quoted Comment *deep sigh* okay Andrea. Thank you for your input although it wasn’t helpful at all.

For anyone actually looking to answer my questions.. Here are the questions and input that would be HELPFUL: So my question (and hopefully this is more clear), has anyone decided NOT to have a bridal party and why? For those who decided not to have a bridal party, were there any regrets?


Of course you’re welcome to be like Andrea and give other input, though it wouldn’t be helpful just another pointless opinion.

View Quoted Comment That’s great and I completely agree this would be a great time! After thinking about it too in a way, maybe they’d be relieved since some folks may be going through financial or health related hardships right now, which is another reason it may be easier on them to not be in a bridal party at the moment. Just a thought!


After all this is over I may do a small trip with my close family/friends who are able to come instead of a bachelorette party, and you don’t even need a bridal party to do that either! You do your thing!😊

View Quoted Comment Yes! This was useful. 7/10 of my bridal party are siblings of me and the groom and would be COMPLETELY okay with us not having a bridal party. The other 3 would also be okay as they’re from out of town and there’s a possibility they wouldn’t feel comfortable traveling. Either way, we know they wouldn’t care and it wouldn’t mess up any of the relationships because they’re all understanding.


We considering having a dinner/get together for our family and close friends the night before the wedding (corona permitting), as we would still like to celebrate with them and honor them but without the added stress of finding dresses, tux’s, spending extra money as my FH and I were paying for makeup, hair, transportation, etc for our bridal party. And in the event that we weren’t able to have a large wedding, they wouldn’t lose out on any money.

View Quoted Comment I love that idea! Sounds like you have it together pretty well! Best of luck to you!!

View Quoted Comment You are straight drama girl. Do your ladies a favor and don’t have bridesmaids 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ Sorry you only like opinions that agree with yours

View Quoted Comment I’m glad you’re able to assess my character through a couple of posts. Your OPINION wasn’t useful and it didn’t answer my questions 🤷‍♀️ I’m okay with people telling me their experiences (which is what I had originally asked), but instead you decided to give an opinion that was unwarranted. Reading comprehension is key 😉🙃

We’re not having a bridal party mainly because we’re having a very intimate wedding with our immediate families and closest friends. It would be odd to have most of not all of the guest list as a bridal party, but in a way it’s like they are!

I read your other post, too, as "homework" but I don't think people aren't understanding you as you think. Instead, it seems like you aren't getting the validation you want, so you are trying to rephrase your questions. No matter how you phrase it, the answers are the same: it's completely fine not to have a bridal party, but once you ask people, you cannot unask them without a very real possibility of hurting feelings.

Only you can decide if it's worth the risk of hurting your loved ones' feelings. And no, the pandemic doesn't make it automatically OK. If anything, I would think the stress we are all experiencing would make most people value people and relationships MORE, not less.

My bridesmaids are my sister and my best friend. My wedding was in June, we moved it to December.

My plan since the beggining was that I was not gonna stress out about that aspect of the ceremony, what they would wear, etc. Told them to wear what they would like. The could choose to sit down too if they want haha.

My suggestion is to let them to dress in something in the color that you chose and for them to find what they would like to wear, if that is something that would be ok with you.

View Quoted Comment Hi Maggie, thank you for your response. The reason for the second post is because most people in the first post answered whether or not they thought it was okay for me to not have a bridal party after originally asking them to be apart... but that wasn’t what I was looking for. While I understand others opinions, my FH and I will make the decision on whether we decide to have one. I was more so trying to understand the significance and what would be the purpose of having a bridal party. I’m not looking for anyone to “validate” my decision, I’m looking for people who DID NOT have a bridal party and if there were any regrets. My bridal party, unlike many others, is very understanding and I am confident that no ones feelings would be hurt, as long as we aren’t picking and choosing who we want to stay and who we no longer want.


My issues with the board is that people seem to always feel the need to give their opinion and and not answer the question that is posed, therefore making it useless to the poster. It is MY wedding and I will have to live with the consequences of whatever I decide. But to tell me that I “cannot” do something because others don’t agree isn’t useful.

View Quoted Comment Thank you, Spencer. Yes, this is our alternative if we decide to keep the bridal party. From the beginning, the bridesmaids had the option of choosing whatever dress they wanted in a particular color and still they couldn’t decide on a dress. It was soo stressful and becoming annoying to text/call every week asking if they found a dress. Now with the virus, everyone is more stressed out and some not working. I just think it’d be easier to not have a bridal party (they honestly wouldn’t care!) as long as everyone gets to come and celebrate with us.

Hi!
We decided not to have a bridal party for the reason we having a small wedding (under 35), with family and a few friends.
For the reasons of keeping it intimate and less stressful. Shoot, it was even a struggle trying to get my mom on board with coordinating her dress, hair, and makeup. She’s my only living parent and she’s not good at putting herself together. And she was only one person, so I can’t even imagine what it would be like with a bridal party. Wedding planning is a lot more work than it looks. My younger sister got married in Mar ‘19 and had no bridal party. She had no regrets. In the end, it’s your day and you have to do what’s best for you.

View Quoted Comment Thank you, Hai! I wasn’t sure if I’d regret it, but I can’t seem to find a reason for having one. Thank you 😊