Any siblings in the bridal party?

When my brothers married years ago, their future wives asked me to be a bridesmaid which I thought very kind. My sister, mom, and I threw them each a bridal shower, inviting the women in their families. I treasure those memories as we joined our families together. I flew in for every shower and bachelorette party, while admittedly my sister & mom did the bulk of party planning. When I, myself, got married I had zero other parties as it was early in the COVID pandemic. I did not make his 1 sister a bridesmaid as I just kept it to my sister as MOH.

FH has his two brothers as his best men!

I only have a brother, and he's walking my mom down the aisle. However, four of my cousins are bridesmaids and I've always considered them my sisters growing up, and my FSIL (FH's brothers wife) is also one of my bridesmaids!

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Oh, that sounds like a nice family affair.

My younger sister is my MOH. My younger brother will walk my mom down. I have an older sister, but she told me when we got engaged that she’d like to be a guest.

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Nice. I also like how your older sister told you her preference and you respected her wishes. The first time I was a guest and didn't have to diy or buy multiple outfits, I was a changed woman. I don't think I'd accept a request to be a bridesmaid now, But, I'll still be my buddy's hype woman on the dance floor.

My husband included his brother as a groomsmen. i had my bro and his wife walk in the procession. they weren't in the groom or bridal party but i still wanted to show that they're a part of our lives so i thought including them in the procession made sense

View Quoted Comment It’s funny bc I was a guest at her wedding and I felt left out bc she didn’t ask me or my younger sister. But honestly, being a guest I didn’t have to worry about anything extra. I was like you the hype woman for sure on the dance floor!

FH is having his brother as a groomsman. I doubt my brother would have wanted to be a bridesman, so he's going to act as an usher and then walk my mom down the aisle. We're also having him ride in the limo with the bridal party.

I had my husband's sister, and sister in law as bridesmaids. They were happy to be included and have hung out with my other bridesmaids in the past so all was lovely!

No, we're not including any siblings in the bridal parties. I am the oldest of 9 (4 younger brothers and 4 younger sisters) and my husband has 3 siblings, two of whom are married. It would be far too many people before we'd be able to include any friends. Siblings are invited to all pre-wedding festivities, but not getting ready day-of.

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That's a thoughtful way of including members of your family. Thanks for adding.

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Wooo, good for you for drawing a line. That would have been a very full room indeed. I bet they are super happy for you regardess.

View Quoted Comment My siblings are super chill and are happy they don't have responsibility lol

My bridal party was actually just my sister and my husband's two sisters! They're a close-knit family so we definitely wanted to include both of them. If we picked friends, I would have had like 10–12 people (which is a lot to manage) and he would have had only 3–5, so we decided to keep it small and have our sisters only. My sister is out of the country and too busy to really help with wedding stuff, so my SILs did all the bridesmaid things like going dress shopping with me and helping plan my shower. They got ready with us on the morning of, and had bouquets. They stood on his side during the ceremony along with his parents.

(Our ceremony; husband's sisters standing on the far left.)

My fiancé's brother is his best man. Unfortunately I don't have a very good relationship with my brother, so he won't be there (With the exception of my parents, none of my blood relatives are being invited to our actual wedding, instead we are having a second reception a few months later on the east coast just for them). But my found family are my bridal party.

I live on the other side of the country from my family and I have become very close with a family here (I started out as their nanny and then became family). We joke that the parents are my "California parents" and the son and daughter are my "California siblings". The daughter and the son's wife, (who I am very close with, I was the son and his wife's nanny for their oldest) are both bridesmaids. The only granddaughter in the family is my jr. bridesmaid, while two of the boys (one of whom is my godson) are ushers, and the other two are "security" (they have badges, ear pieces, and bubble guns for crowd control). The oldest grandkid, the boy I was a nanny for back when he was barely 5, unfortunately won't be there as he is starting his freshman year of college this fall and my wedding falls in the dead center of finals (I cried when I realized this, but I also understand and finals are important!).

Hell, even our officiant is a member of my found family! He's the cousin of my California Dad, but we all call him Uncle. He was the first person I asked to be a part of our wedding. For me, blood is great and blood is important. But blood isn't everything. Sometimes your found family is there for you in ways your blood family never could be. I'm extremely fortunate that I will have my parents, my California parents, my California siblings, and their amazing kids all a part of my wedding.

My two sisters are bridesmaids. My FH sister lives in Alabama (we are in Ohio) and I've only met her twice so I did not ask her to be a bridesmaid and my FH and his brother are barely on speaking terms so again not part of the wedding party.

Not having my siblings in the wedding party but my fiance is having his brothers on his side. He s a twin so his twin will be the best man and his 2 younger brothers will be groomsmen. They are great though so should be a good time

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Thank you for mentioning your found family. You make a great point that blood family may not be the ones you want closest to you on your day. I think your security is going to be adorable!

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I love it. We don't have to be boys on one side, girls on the other!

Well I dont have them in the wedding party but I did and do have her apart of it in some way. I asked to cook a dish for us and invited her to the bridal shower and bachelorette party. Plus get her opinion on somethings also she will be dealing with my future MIL so hwt hands will be filled