Any Same Sex Couples??? Lgbtq+ Fam

I really don't feel like we've had that many challenges, thank goodness. I get annoyed when all of the vendors and contracts ask about the groom, but I've come to accept that that's the world we live in. We're making progress, but me being rude to them isn't going to change anything. I typically just correct them and move on. We were turned down by one venue, but it wasn't one of our top options thankfully. I don't mention upfront that we're a same sex couple because I don't feel like it's necessary to tell someone my sexual orientation right off the bat. I've found it helpful to find the majority of our vendors here on WW because they're all LGBTQ+ friendly.

That’s so messed up that vendors have turned you away, a customer is a customer! But on the bright side, you could look at it as dodging a bullet in a way, you dont want to give money to intolerant people anyways!

Hi yes 10-10-20

Well I completely understand but we avoided all of those issues by going to the Affirmation Center in our area and getting all the Information on vendors we needed when it came to same sex! We will be doing our ceremony at the center and the reception my caterer is LGBT friendly and so is my photographer and band! Check with your local LGBT communities they should have leads there! Good luck and congrats

We have been very lucky and have had no issues! However, I have not mentioned up front that my fiancée is a woman. Whenever they ask my fiancee’s name, it’s clear we are both female, and we have had a positive response.

For an officiant, if you have found a venue, maybe ask them if they have any suggestions. They may have done same sex weddings before and can lead you in the right direction!


Good luck!

So sorry to hear they turn you down, it's so sad and can only imagine the officiant mess! Glad you found people and can't wait to hear/see more! Congrats ♡

We.are just beginning. I was asking some straight friends today their thoughts in whether I should disclose that we are a lesbian couple before we go to the meeting for our hopeful venue. It's just a hall, so they don't have pictures advertising or anything and I have no idea on their position. My friends didnt understand why I would need to disclose or even worry about it, so I told them that I needed to ask gay friends! It makes me very nervous but I am hoping for the best. Congrats to you and I hope all else is smooth sailing!

I'm sorry to hear you getting turned away just for being LGBT+. That's rude and bad for business. It's not easy if you're in a rural area.

View Quoted Comment Although asking upfront is an inconvenience it will definitely save you a lot of trouble. Hope everything goes well for you guys. Positive Vibes!

View Quoted Comment Glad you've had such good luck. I agree, rudeness gets you nowhere. The planning process is stressful enough.

Hi ladies!! I just wanted to put in my two cents. Their are alot of bigots and intolerable people out there. I have a name like Terri, Sam, or Chris that can be either male or female. I've had vendor's ask me out right if we are a same sex couple( inquiries made via computer). They thought we were two guys. I can only imagine we would have been turned down before we made a decision, if so? Thankfully, we didn't hire any of those rude people. I'm so sorry you are going through this in 2019. It's sad when discrimination mars special occasions, especially a wedding. I wish each of you extreme happiness from this point forward.

Luckily we haven’t run into an issue yet. I also asked before I met up with vendors and made it clear that my fiancé was a girl. Running into a bit of a snag for an officiant. I was raised strict Christian in an outright anti gay preaching church. Using childhood church/officiant is completely out of the question. I hold strong spiritual beliefs still and would love to have someone with matching beliefs officiate. Racking my brain who I could get. I would love to get a friend to get ordained but don’t want to pressure them. Not sure what to do about that either.

We haven't had this issue. Everyone just asks the"groom's" name I tell them there is another bride, give her name and move on. So far so good! We pretty much have all our vendors locked in officiant included. I agree with pp try an officiant from WW so far they have all been lgbt+ friendly.
Good luck.

We are getting married 10/10/19 we haven't had any issues with being turned away by any vendors. We are doing a destination wedding in the keys.

Having two brides is difficult on who will walk down first, who will get the bridal suite and who will get ready in the grooms suite. Who has the first father daughter dance. And we still need an officiant

My FW and I live in Utah, fortunately we have not had any problems finding LGBTQ friendly venues, catering, bakeries, photographers. I am an assertive person and I do ask the question right up front. If they don't want to respond to the question or they try to walk around it.. I politely dismiss them and thank them for their time and move on. Our venue Arbor Manor has been absolutely amazing and Mike has been the best part of planning our wedding. He has given us so many leads and personal recommendations of LGBTQ friendly businesses.