Any planning i can do before we set a date?!

You could ideally browse for ideas ! Like browse at color palettes and what not

Start planning your budget, guest list, if date is not an issue you may have a venue in mind that could already be booked. I really wouldn't go much further than budgeting and saving money as well as venue searches.

Set your budget, make a preliminary guest list

I agree with previous comments - start looking into budget and estimated guest count. Once you have those, you can look at venues online (though obviously wait to book anything until you set a date), look at wedding dress styles to get an idea of what you might like, consider colors/themes/etc (though I wouldn't recommend purchasing anything yet). Pinterest is great for searching for ideas! If you're planning to write your own ceremony script, you could start a super rough draft. Basically, just dream up ideas for the small details (flower types/colors, hair styles, guest book ideas, etc), and keep notes of them (though don't buy anything yet) so that when you are ready to begin seriously planning, you already have a good starting point. Your opinions and ideas may change between now and when you set a date, so even if you record the ideas now, you can always change them later. You could also plan an engagement party if you were looking to plan something now.

The only things you could really do would be to create your budget and guest list, but know that both could change depending on your circumstances. You could also start to gather inspiration ideas, but again what you like now might not be what you like in two years. Without a date, I wouldn't ask anyone to be in the wedding or even really plan too much.

Hi Victoria! I'ts never too early to start browsing for inspiration (definitely make a pinterest wedding board), and researching & saving your favorite wedding vendors!

Then when you are ready to start locking things down you'll have all that research already done and be ready to go!

1) You two need to agree to a budget.
2) Estimate your guest list
3) Choose a venue (that’ll be based on 1 & 2).

If you are not wanting to set a date yet, I would just look for wedding inspiration online and on Pinterest. You can also research vendors that you like so you have people/places in mind when the time comes.

Setting a budget and guest list is a good start. You can also inquire at venues for 2022 pricing without having a specific date in mind. If the date isn’t important to you then you can also see what dates are discounted and what dates are premium to get a good idea of spending. You can also do research on average spending in your area for certain vendors to help with budget planning (I built an excel spreadsheet for estimate vs actual to keep track). You should start a Pinterest board for inspo but from experience what I pinned a year ago isn’t really what’s “in” now and what I like has changed so I’ve had to redo a lot of my boards haha so I’d say pin tips and must haves over this years latest trends you might love now but change your mind when actually planning.


You can also plan other things if you want! Like an engagement party or sending out engagement announcements. You can also find a photographer for engagement photos and do those so you have something fun this year while you’re waiting to plan. You can also probably tentatively book the photographer for your wedding without a date since a lot offer engagement sessions complimentary with wedding package. When we had our engagement photos done I wasn’t sure if I was ready to pull the trigger on wedding date yet and she said we could do the engagement session now and if we decide to go forward with the wedding package she’d just credit our contract.

You can create a budget, create a rough draft of your guest list. You can start researching venues and other vendors and create a list of ones you know you want to look into further when you’re ready to book. You can start looking at color and decor ideas. If you’re certain on the look you want you can start purchasing/diy some decor.

Definitely start a budget and a list of the type of services & venues you would be interested in. We started out that way and prioritized with what was most important and then went from there.

This isn’t so much planning but just advice. We got engaged in March of 2019 and get married in October 2020. My one advice I will tell everyone planning a wedding more than a year out - wait to pick your bridal party! It’s crazy how much things change in that time frame even if you think they won’t. A year ago had someone told me I would have these people in our party vs these people I would laugh. We picked our bridal party in May of 19 and this couple who my Fiancé and I were both really good friends with...we kicked them out about a month ago and we’re no longer friends. It was a very difficult decision and not fun for anyone. But we had to do what was best for us and they had just become extremely toxic. My brothers who I was estranged with for years are now in our wedding. It is honestly crazy how things change.

You can always elope and then do a big wedding later once you know a good date that’s fits your timeline. Far as planning you can do engagement party. You can get your dress. I mean it hard to do cake, venue, and stuff like that with out a date but you can get Pinterest and start deciding on theme or colors. You can also do a engagement photo shoot as well.