Any other lesbian weddings? Do you find it hard planning with another woman?

Haha I'm so sorry! But yes compromise is key. I am not planning a same sex wedding but FH and I have butt heads on a couple of things. One being he HAD to have a certain entrance song because he loved the lyrics and thought it was us. I told him that wasn't a good song for an entrance song and he had a full blown fit. Once he calmed down I explained to him that if he liked the words in the song it wasn't good for the entrance because the DJ would be talking through the whole thing and no one could listen and enjoy it and I suggested we use it at a different point in the night. We are now using it for the song we walk up the aisle to once we are married.

This really puts into perspective all of the posts of women complaining that FH doesn't care about any of the planning & the "I don't care do whatever you want" comments. I have seriously planned 97% of this wedding my way & am very happy with that. I think maybe making a list of things that are most important to each of you then maybe work from there to find a middle ground. one thing that I did while planning I think really worked I made a schedule for each day, so each day had one item or two if they were easy and we only worked on that one thing and once it was done we were done so that way it wasn't overwhelming and we didn't get frustrated & it really made the planning process a breeze. good luck!!

Kate iam SCREAMING inside 🤣🤣🤣 I can’t take it she is driving me cra car iam want pink she wants blue I want up she wants down I want tall she wants short lol we are always on a different page when it comes to this wedding omg. We are almost at the finish line and lord I can’t wait until it’s over she is stressing me out with the “she don’t likes” she says I am over the top and I think she is too damn plain! I am happy but geesh never knew planning would go this way. Thanks for your advice

View Quoted Comment Jessica that’s funny thanks it’s nice to see u guys work it out we will argue about it for days not talk to each other and then we give in and talk but it takes days lol we are bulls when it comes to what we want I won’t move and she won’t either smh 🤦🏾‍♀️

Well, you have someone to do half the work, which balances the fact that you have someone who wants to make half the decisions. (And I happen to think this is a good idea for heterosexual weddings, too; it's both of their weddings, so the bride shouldn't get all the work dumped on her.)

In any event, we did it by each taking responsibility for certain aspects of the wedding. For example, she might deal with the invitations, while I dealt with decorations. We each chose the parts most important to us. That way, even if the parts she did weren't exactly what I would have done, they were the parts least important to me anyway, so I wasn't stressed out by them.

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Why can't you have both of everything? Pink and blue work well together. You can have short and tall decorations. Right?

View Quoted Comment 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 you are super funny I guess we can

View Quoted Comment Yeah, that was meant to be funny, but it can work! My colors are white, silver and light blue. My flowers will have pops of peach roses in them to offset the white and blue. I met with the florist on Saturday and these are what me, the moms and my FFIL decided on. We will have centerpiece of both short and tall heights. So yes, it can work!

View Quoted Comment Wow 😲 those are pretty I like beautiful colors

View Quoted Comment I like beautiful colors too! Lol!

I feel ya with that! My fiancée does this real cute/sarcasm/ thing where she says ‘I don’t care what we do, you can plan it’ and then when I think I’ve gotten things worked out she comes in with ‘oh but I don’t like that’ I love this woman but she either needs to be up front or stay in the back seat!

I imagine both have their pros and cons. I wish my FH was more opinionated at times simply because it is our day and I tend to overthink stuff. Lol

his whole thing “I’ll go for the cake stuff and food stuff... and buy my suit and show up” lol

as far as colors, theme, thank you gifts, invites, decor, etc he’s been un-opinionated.

Id suggest making lists! Or a vendiagram so things you agree on are a for sure, and then you can even pick from the things you vary on so both get a say!

View Quoted Comment Facts I don’t think it’s ever right unless they say so lol

View Quoted Comment Great advice thanks 😊

Haha... I can’t imagine if I had two of me with strong opinions but different tastes, planning a wedding 😆 FH & I are planning together when it comes to vendor / venue choices, cost, food, drinks, guest list etc. But I do make all visual/aesthetic decisions like colors, flowers, decor etc. 😇 So it works great!
When we have a different opinion on something, we do a rating of how important that is to each of us on scale 1-5 & then we have to explain why it is important. The person with stronger, rational explanation & higher importance rating “wins” but we still incorporate an element of the other opinion. This might be harder to apply when it comes to purely aesthetic decisions like pink vs blue though lol.