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Any older 2020 brides feeling anxious?

Conny, on July 8, 2020 at 4:07 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 6
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I’ve been engaged for going two years now. First year we had to wait because FH was deployed and we are set to be married this Fall. Our state is fine (I’m in VA) and we have max limits of 250 gatherings . We’re well below this number at 90.
Are there any older brides who are moving on with their Fall 2020 weddings amidst covid? How are you making peace with low guest counts, no bridal shower/ bachelorettes or just fmo Smiley sad I could use a picker upper for sure !

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Latest activity by Conny, on July 9, 2020 at 7:35 AM
  • Jodie
    Expert August 2020
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    My FH and I are both 40 years old getting married for the first time at the end of August. We are in Wisconsin in a not super covid infested county. We are moving ahead with all of the plans we had so far. Our guest list is 160 people, outdoor ceremony, indoor/outdoor reception. Also having a bridal shower and bachelorette party in a couple weeks. The only thing that really changed is the location of the shower and bach party since the venue they had picked out is no longer doing events for this year. But overall it is not any different than what we originally planned. We still have 3 weeks until our RSVP date and we are at 64 accepted, 11 declined, and still waiting on 86. Mostly the anxiety for me is just wanting to get it done and over with. I'm not a large party person I do better in smaller groups. So now that we are 6 weeks away I'm starting to get uncomfortable with the number of people on the guest list--not because of covid...just because of large crowds and being the center of attention all the time freaks me out.

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  • Aimee
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    I’m not super old (30), but getting married in VA as well on 8/9. This was already a postponement from May. We invited our guest list of 125, but expect less to actually come. We’re taking all the precautions we can. I didn’t have a bridal shower but I feel like I’ve never been too keen on them anyways. My bachelorette was supposed to be in Scottsdale, Az in April which got cancelled, and now we’re just doing a little laid back beach trip to OCMD next weekend, which is not too far from us. I was really upset about the situation back in April and May but now whatever happens, happens. If we have to cancel the reception we will, but still get married in August. We want to get it over with and go to the next stage of our lives, which is why we didn’t want to postpone until next year. Also this has created so much stress in my life I can’t imagine doing it for much longer! My fingers are just crossed that stuff in VA doesn’t get bad bc of the 4th of July!
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    I’m 36 and my FH is 48, we are getting married next Saturday. I have pretty much made peace with everything about this wedding. I am actually surprised a lot of guests are coming now that it’s outside and we can socially distance. We are having the wedding and reception. We invited over 125 and half are coming but some have canceled at the last minute and we are okay with that. It hurt at first not being able to have a bridal shower but my bridesmaids and I may go out the night before the wedding to dinner. But I’m over it and I will have something fun to tell our kids when they are older. We just don’t want to wait anymore to try for babies so whoever is at our wedding will be there, everyone else can see photos 😂.
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    Congratulations! I’m so happy for you! And 160 is not a bad number ! It’s so encouraging to know there are older brides out there like me who are moving forward with the wedding. I’m in VA we’re open our wedding is less than 100.
    While a few guests have asked I reschedule, the people that matter are able to come and that’s what matters! Full steam ahead. I’m probably not having a bachelorette but that’s ok Smiley smile
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    Agree. I’m also in my 30s and we have a similar guest count like you. I think it’s important to focus on the wedding and not covid since we have made the decision to move forward. We would like to continue with our lives FH has a new job and we would like to start a family soon Smiley smile I’m in VA too! Our venue has a max 120 size and we’re at 100ish invited but expecting fewer!
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    Conny ·
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    I LOVE your optimism ! We are also getting married outdoors! I feel that it’s so easy to cave into pressure of pushing back the wedding when in reality the people who matter can make it! We also would like to try for a family soon as we’re older.
    I will not have a bachelorette nor bridal shower but I’ll make leave with this. I’m excited for the wedding but there is life beyond this especially trying for kids etc ! Good luck with your wedding you’ll make a dashing bride!!!!!
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