My fiance and I got engaged two months ago, and at first I was planning and doing research every available chance I got! But lately I've barely even gotten on wedding wire or anything. A month ago, we visited the venue we have in mind and it was perfect but after that we've gotten behind on some bills due to my fiance's Crohn's disease and her not being able to work as much. And because we're behind, its depressing to even try to look at wedding planning until we finally catch up to where we need to be. Any other ladies out there in this position? And if so, how'd you get out of this funk?
I'm so sorry to hear this Taylor! Prayers for you and your fiancee as you go through this. It can be difficult to go through things like this, but try not to get depressed about it. At the end of the day, even if EVERYTHING else goes wrong, what really matters is that you two get married. Are there ways you can cut costs so that you don't have to stress as much? Perhaps don't have a DJ, instead use Spotify or something similar. Do a cake & punch ceremony so you don't have to have a full meal. Don't serve alcohol (Cut $500+ for us immediately with that one!) You can do it!
Also, you are far enough out to where you can afford to take a bit off from wedding planning and come back to it once you feel ready. Maybe a week or two. Hugs and prayers!
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Thank you so much for your kind words and advice! We've cut out alot of things we deemed unnecessary, to lower the overall cost of everything and that has definitely helped! But I think I am going to take a little breather from it all until I feel like it's a better time to be planning. Thank you again!
I like what PP suggested in that wedding planning can be really fun if you cut out certain things that're causing the stress. It's totally ok to scale back from what you want. In hindsight I wish I had gone simpler for mine because at the end of the day everyone is there just to celebrate you. And don't forget to take breaks when you need because it can get overwhelming.
Not exactly but maybe don’t rush because there will be all of added cost, things you might not plan for at the beginning. It’s been overwhelming for me. Wish I would have just enjoyed our time engaged. 8 days til we wed. I hope all turn out in your favor.
I’m so sorry you’re going through that hun! Like others said, cut out the fluff. Get a notebook planner and write down what you’ve done so far and decide what vendors or things matter most. At the end of the day you’ll be married! Guests won’t miss or remember even half of that stuff, so it’s ok to cut back.
I’m also in a slump. I have an injury that will ultimately need surgery to correct and my doctor is trying to help me so I can dance at my own wedding. It’s set us back because I’m on light duty and can’t work many hours. I’m tired and frankly sick of wedding planning and spending money. I feel you there. It’s ok to feel like this, you’ve got a lot on your plate. Put your health first and take the wedding craziness one step at a time.
I had this problem for a bit. We found a venue that we loved, but the down payment was $3500 (it was all-inclusive) and we just didn’t have the money. They were all booked up shortly after. We have since pushed the date of the wedding back another 8 months, and that was really hard for me. Then I found my dress and it renewed my drive to plan.
I also have IBD and I was in a funk for a few months because I was going through a mild flare. I immediately started thinking the worst - like what if I flare on my wedding day, etc. I'm sure your FW is feeling pretty low about it if she gets like I do. When I was first diagnosed, I started taking advantage of this pretax benefit at work - a healthcare savings account. It really helps with medical costs if I should need it. I don't know your situation with insurance et al, but instead of giving you cost cutting advice on the wedding, I decided to maybe try some suggestions from personal experience with the same disease family (UC). Look into HSA if you have the option at work and look into healthcare specific credit cards. They have much lower APRs.