Any ladies find happiness after years of struggling with love?

I was in some pretty destructive and abusive relationships before I found my one. He changed everything and I knew in the back of my head that he was something pretty special by the second date. I had to come to a place where I was comfortable in my own self. I wasn’t looking for something more than it needed to be when I found my one. You’ll get through and come to a point where you will find your one too.

I hear you! But don’t fret, you have plenty of time. I met my hubby after 40!!! He’s my creative match, my BFF & lover. Our wedding was very different than I imagined in my 20’s, but honestly it was way cooler. Have faith!


A few things that helped in my journey: I created a “man board” of images of my ideal partner/relationship, I attended a soul mate workshop, and got the book “Calling in the One” (LoL, only got through 1st chapter and then met him!)

I got engaged at 31. Don’t compare your timeline to others. My fiancé is 40.


Work on being happy with yourself and love will find you. You’re a more attractive partner when you don’t need someone to be happy.
Keep an open mind. My fiancé is almost a decade older, divorced, 2 kids, and a recovering alcoholic. I would never have dreamed that’s the man that could make me happy. But I now I can’t imagine a man more perfect. He’s lived through some tough times and come out a more mature and understanding man.

You have lots of time! I was around the same age when I broke up with someone, and had been in two long term relationships during my 20's. There were several years of trying online dating - I just kept at it and took breaks when I needed to. I was good with myself being single, but I also wanted a relationship with eventual marriage, so I kept working at it. I met my FH at 35 and we will be getting married in July when I am 40.

My FH and I will both be getting married for the first time at the age of 40. I stopped looking and focused on me. Really did some soul searching to find out who I really am. I have stopped letting people take advantage of me and got rid of a lot of toxic people in my life and let me tell you....girl...it was THE BEST thing I have ever done. When FH walked into my life everything felt right. I was at the right point in my life and had the right support network and could actually focus my energies on our relationship. Take a deep breath. Slow down. Figure out what you want out of your and most importantly-figure out the right kind of person to compliment your life. Let me know if you ever need to vent!

It can be so easy to think about the things that we are "missing" or "wish we had" especially when we have Lifetime movies running 24/7 with prince charming and all of the holiday parties with coupled up friends. Feel your emotions, no, really, feel everything you need to about being sad or upset for your break up. And then remember all of the amazing people in your life who continue to support you, and with the holiday's approaching, having a chance to see family and friends that you don't normally get the extra time with. Make sure you are emotionally present for all of this positivity that is about to come your way. Soak it up girl! You have so many people in your corner

I am 29 and let me tell you...real love smacks you right in the face. I'll give you a short list of the jerks...


-lied about having a baby and only told me after proposing and had its first birthday.-cheated on countless times-hid me from his family (probably because he was a cheated but what do I know)-told me how to speak to and what to wear-asssaulted-my gosh I could go on...
Today, I have a man who wants to see me succeed, has the kindest heart, helps myself and others before he makes time for himself, leads by example, loves so unconditionally. It seems like a fairytale. We aren't perfect but we sure are great together. 100% my partner on crime. The relationship provides peace and a deep understanding.
We met when I EASd out of the Marines and he got stationed an hour away from my hometown, also a Marine!! We actually found one another on Tinder!
The right one will come. Just hang in there. You will be thanking the good lord you didn't settle someday!

Wow!!! You ladies are all so kind and supportive with these responses ❤️ What a wonderful early Christmas present! Thank you!

I was married at age 22 to a guy I had known since I was 5 years old. We met in kindergarten. We were married for 21 years and had two sons together before he was unfaithful and we divorced.


I was devastated, 41 years old and now a single mother. I tried dating but it just wasn’t going well. All my friends were married or in relationships and they didn’t understand what I was dealing with.
I decided to take a break and focus on me. I got the haircut I wanted, bought some new clothes, read books I had been meaning to read and took some evening classes in continuing education.
I happened to look in my inbox one day and there was a message from a guy I had met once or twice through friends. He asked if he could have my number and call me. I said yes and he called me that night and we talked for 3 hours.
It happened when I wasn’t even looking. He is the love of my life and I can’t wait to marry him in 2 months. Don’t give up. Focus on you and it will happen.

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So glad you found your happiness. Sounds so well-deserved

I was 57 and had been divorced for 16 years. I felt that at that age, it was over for me. I figured no one would find me attractive; I’d never get out of my dead-end job, etc. Then that summer I met the man I’d been looking for my whole life. He treats me so well! And I found a great new job. We got married on the first anniversary of the day we met. It’s never too late!

I was married at 25 and divorced a year later. It took me a long time to realize what would make me happy, but once I did it was worth the wait. I know it's cheesy but I can literally say from the first kiss with my future husband, I KNEW!!!!!!! That kind of love really does exist. In the end, the heartache and pain you've been through will help you to love and appreciate Mr. Right, once he's yours.

My fiancé has 2 daughters (I can't have kids) and they are the light of my life. I'm literally marrying my best friend. Remember no relationship is perfect, but the right one is worth sticking around for and fighting for. Before I started dating my future husband, I dated a lot of losers or people who I knew I didn't want to be with just to save myself a little pain (which totally doesn't work). Keep your chin up and love YOURSELF FIRST!!!!!

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Thank you Kristina, that is so sweet. I am working on loving myself first.

Best of luck and wishing you so much happiness.

From 20-27, I was in a terrible, abusive relationship, and we were even engaged.

Finally got out of it, and found DH when I was 29.... he was 22. We only just got married, and he turned 30 the week after our wedding.

The holidays are tough after a breakup, so please take care of yourself. If things are too much, give yourself permission to not participate!

Aww Penny,

I know what you mean. Before my love came back into my life I was focusing my life on work and just going through the motions. See we had been engaged before and broke up for about 3 years without any contact, it didn't mean we didn't love each other but there was a lot going on in both our lives.

I met someone else and thought maybe that would work out but it was just a bad situation that was getting worse, so I ended that and after about 3-4 months later, my fiancé called and texted me and I responded. I was nervous and a little worried about what he would say but it worked out in our getting back together and making this official. We had been together for 7.5 yrs before the break-up, so this is it!

The holidays can take a toll on you but don't let it get you down, things will turn around but also do those things you want to do and enjoy who you are as a person. Fall in love with you again, we sometimes forget that we can take "us" out and enjoy our own company!! keep your head up and believe me we are not in our 30's, or 40's...he's 65 and I'm 56.. it does get better. Please don't hesitate to let us hear from you, we're all here for you!!!

I got engaged on my 30th birthday and met my FH just before my 28th birthday. I really took time in my 20's to "find myself", establish my career, gain control of my health/weight, and then once I had that began actively seeking someone to spend my life with. And let me give you a summary:

-the guy who was married to his work, made me feel guilty for wanting to spend time with him, never told his family about me (never understood), and only kept me around when convenient for him.

-the guy who practically begged me to go on a date and I went with hesitation. Ended up thinking he was a good guy. Went on several dates before he practically ghosted me before telling me he just wanted to be friends (no thanks)

-the one who I met at a wedding and we kept a long distance "flirtationship" back and forth for MONTHS. Told me he would like to try to pursue some sort of relationship and then gave me the cold shoulder.

-When i bounced back from that , there was the one who told me his dog died and he couldn't meet for adate and asked for a reschedule but I never heard from him again.

-Then I met my FH and it was like none of those guys ever happened. People always tell you that but until it happens it's really hard to fathom. As heartbroken as I was over a few of those, I couldn't even tell you why within weeks of meeting FH. None of it mattered any more. I knew he was the one.

Be patient! You will get that too!

I was married the first time around 21 years old then divorced a couple years later. I raised my two sons solo for their entire lives. Now they are 21 and 18. I chose to not get re-married because my oldest son has ADHD and he's very temperamental and he had a pedophile at his daycare so they freaked me out as well. I basically figured I would date when they became men and right when my oldest son told me to start dating because my "baby" would move out and I'd be alone, I found my fiancé.

I was 18 when I got married the first time, stupidly. We were physically in the same space for one whole year and it fizzled out. I needed a "take charge" man. Once we split, I found a "take charge" man, but one who took charge too far. I was by myself, doing my own thing when I got a job offer in another state and went, dated another and decided that wasn't it either. Then, when I least expected it, he was there. The line is blurred between him there and not there because I feel like I've known him my whole life.

Wow! I love all these inspirational stories from you wonderful ladies. It has helped me SO much! I am in a better state of mind after hearing these. Hope everyone had a wonderful Thanksgiving!

My downfall was my breakup with my Highschool boyfriend. I was 18. Ever since then i was in bad relationships and crappy flings. Then when i was 26, my ex left me for another guy.....i then gave up and focused on myself and my child, that's when my FH came into my life. I am now 29 and happy with my FH, he accepts me even with my kid.


So yes, there is happy endings in life. 😊 took 11 years for me, but it was worth it. Don't give up!!! Xoxo