Any insecurities?

I have the opposite insecurity, and after falling in love with a form fitting gown I had so many worries about how much bigger it would make my butt look. All day though, everyone showered us with love and I didn’t think about it once. Even strangers told me I looked beautiful and congratulated us all day.

Ya know what. None of us are perfect but on your day you will look lovely. I think for dresses find a dress that can add a little curve to you like a mermaid or maybe a sheath. I love my butt and curve but ya know what it can be problematic too. I shied away from a mermaid because I did not wanna look like stuffed sausage ha ha. Your are perfect how you are.

Oh My! Well, a 6 yo does not have these thoughts on their own, so she had to have heard her family discussing your butt at some point or another. I'd take it with a grain of salt and let it go.

Having insecurities about our bodies is not uncommon and we all have them. I'm like Jessica, I'm worried my dress will make me look much bigger than I am (I already felt that way after losing a ton of weight to get back to "normal" sizing and my wedding dress still falling to "plus size") Know you're not alone, if you're worries about your butt on your wedding day, (I wouldn't be), but invest in an undergarment that enhances it. It's a little late to get started on exercises since your wedding his this month, but in the future start looking at exercises that help increase your tushy bottom if that's the look you want. Stair stepper is great for that.

Honestly, I'm sure you're absolutely beautiful and you have nothing to worry about. Your fiancee loves you for you including your petite stature. And at the end of the day, that's all that matters.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for sharing your experience. I never receive compliments where I currently live in the midwest; but we plan to marry in my hometown out East so maybe it will be different.

I mean, maybe I'm off base here but I would be more concerned that your 6-year-old niece knows specifics on what's considered sexually attractive or unattractive. At best she's internalizing ideas about beauty standards at way too young an age, and at worse I would be concerned someone is sexually abusing her.

Kids definitely have no filter and say things that hurt, but your niece is SIX, she needs guidance and care.

I am also part of the small butt/small chest crew, in a family of large butts and large chests, and I get made fun of for it all the time. That said, there are some styles of dress that look better on a thin figure than a fuller figure, and I ended up choosing one as my wedding dress. My mom and sisters have an amazing body type, but my body type is awesome too! My family has been gushing about how nice I look in my dress, and nobody has said a thing about my tiny butt or flat chest.

You will look gorgeous on your wedding day. Try to put this insecurity out of your head and embrace your wonderful body! Easier said than done, but I'm so happy since I've worked toward this. And realizing that many in my family had the opposite insecurity helped put things in perspective for me.

Also, agree with Tiger Bride. Unfortunately, I was raised in a hypersexualized culture and a pretty sexually open area, and my friends and I were stuffing our bras at 11 because we knew that boobs were something boys liked. Hopefully we can all learn to better protect our little girls!

View Quoted Comment Yes, I worry about her. Her mom moves in different men who she's only been dating for a couple of months. I have no proof that she's being abused. I told her that no one should ever be touching her no no spots and tgat she needs to tell me if someone does. She has never told me that someone touched her inappropriately.

I agree with Shirley in terms of embracing/ enhancing what you've got! There are styles of dresses that wouldn't flatter larger butts that you can pull off - and if you're worried about "filling out" your dress definitely consider a crinoline. I wanted my skirt to flair out at the back more, and having a few layers of that crinoline was *perfect* - and it was about $20 on Amazon to boot.

I'll echo the others as well - sounds like your niece would benefit from some body positive females in her life, so you can be that Aunt to help with that!

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Oh dang, that's not good. I would not at all be surprised if she's being abused and even if, hopefully, she isn't, it still gives her a total lack of stability and shows her that men can't be trusted to stick around. Not good things to model to a kid. She doesn't just need a body positive role model, she needs positive role models in general.

Everyone has insecurities - I lost 40 pounds and still feel fat sometimes - so I'm sorry you are hurt from what she said. But please recognize it reflects much more on the environment she's growing up in than it does on you and your body.

I don’t have boobs aha small boobs club here.

View Quoted Comment Ummm do you know how many outfits you can wear without a bra! I wish I could. Im a DD/DDD and it limits what I can wear. I absolutely vlove the outfit this woman wore on the film CRAZY RICH ASIANS.

Yes! My arms. I gained weight and lost about 40 pounds. I am insecure about my entire upper body. I keep trying to work out and eat healthy, and then I hit days (currently a week) where I just don't care to do anything or eat healthy. I realized that me losing those extra 10 pounds isn't going to make me anymore beautiful than I already am. I am walking down the aisle for my future husband, not anyone else. Society right now has unrealistic standards for all women and we just need to focus on the fact that God made us and he says we are perfect. He makes no mistakes. So I will get back in the groove of things to fit into my wedding dress, BUT I'm not going to focus on the flaws because my fiance doesn't, so why should I? You will look beautiful on your wedding day. And you looking and feeling confident on your wedding day will show it. Don't let anyone else bring you down.

View Quoted Comment Enjoy it!! You can rock the deep v-neck dresses and also backless dresses. Lol I have to find a bra that lift mine up because I chose a dress that is v-neck, backless, and slightly transparent on the top.

View Quoted Comment Oh wow. That looks beautiful on you, but I'm really conservative and don't want to show cleavage.

View Quoted Comment Completely understandable! I apologize if it came out the wrong way. What I am trying to say is that all body types are beautiful.